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Relative in ICU with heat stroke and is not going to make it

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SmokeyMountainRain · 29/06/2026 14:10

Posting for traffic. Has anybody been through this? Close relative, relatively young 50s), was found incoherent last Wednesday. Rushed to hospital straight to ICU as she'd fallen into a coma. They've kept her asleep, tried to wake her twice and she cannot breath on her own whatsoever. They've ran repeated scans which show due to the heat stroke damage the part of her brain that tells her to breath is severely damaged. They've pretty much said she's incompatible with life now and we will have to turn the machines off this week unless by some miracle she wakes up. Her core temp was 41 degrees for 4 days, she's now at 40. Not responded to any medication, antibiotics etc.

She wasn't even doing anything strenuous. Just in her flat watching telly. Has anyone been through this? Does anyone have any advice? I don't even know what to think and feel it just seems so so cruel. No brain bleeds or blockages on the scan. Substantial brain swelling and damage.

posting for traffic as can't see any similar threads

Any advice or miracle stories please send them my way. Thank you x

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LittleGreenDragons · 04/07/2026 09:46

I am so sorry for your loss OP. And despite how this thread had turned with some selfish posters I'm very glad you posted as I will take signs of "not sure/can't be bothered" to mean confusion and make sure I actively get a cold drink, cold towel on head instead of just sitting. I hadn't thought about that at all.

RIP Auntie Flowers

rainbowstardrops · 04/07/2026 09:39

Oh I’m so sorry for your loss Flowers
I will definitely be more aware of this going forward.

ColadhSamh · 04/07/2026 09:15

So sorry to hear of your aunt's death. May she Rest in Peace. 😥 Your thread has helped raise awareness and thank you for that. Still thinking of others despite your loss.

  • To those who kept telling OP they knew better than the medical experts dealing direct with her auntie, I hope you have learnt something. OP came here for help and support when she was upset and instead some ignored that to challenge her and others.
ThreadGuardDog · 04/07/2026 09:00

I’m so sorry for your loss OP.

Ved · 03/07/2026 22:54

SmokeyMountainRain · 03/07/2026 10:18

Hi everyone.

My lovely auntie passed away yesterday morning, it was as peaceful as can be and she was in no pain.

It has been such a shock for the whole family. But we're all sticking together she muddling through.
Please be careful in the up and coming heat, make sure to stay cool x

Awww mate, I am so sorry. 😢 How devastating. Genuinely lost for words. Flowers

SylvanMoon · 03/07/2026 19:58

SmokeyMountainRain · 03/07/2026 10:18

Hi everyone.

My lovely auntie passed away yesterday morning, it was as peaceful as can be and she was in no pain.

It has been such a shock for the whole family. But we're all sticking together she muddling through.
Please be careful in the up and coming heat, make sure to stay cool x

I am so very sorry for your loss. Such a tragic death. My condolences to you and your family.

anyolddinosaur · 03/07/2026 17:33

I'm sorry for your loss. Try to take comfort from the peaceful end.

noctilucentcloud · 03/07/2026 16:40

I'm so sorry OP

BIWI · 03/07/2026 16:36

I’m very sorry to hear this Flowers

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 03/07/2026 15:32

I’m so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. RIP to your Auntie

inamarina · 03/07/2026 15:29

So sorry for your loss, OP 💐

MrSchubertWhiskers · 03/07/2026 14:05

@SmokeyMountainRain I'm so sorry, you're all in my thoughts and I hope supporting each other through this timeFlowers

Neweraorwhat · 03/07/2026 13:15

Hugs op.

Thank you for advice to stay cool. It really is easy to get unwell or more unwell if you have pre-existing medical conditions from the sudden hot weather.

LoafofSellotape · 03/07/2026 13:14

I'm so sorry OP x

ThatLilacTiger · 03/07/2026 13:02

SmokeyMountainRain · 03/07/2026 10:18

Hi everyone.

My lovely auntie passed away yesterday morning, it was as peaceful as can be and she was in no pain.

It has been such a shock for the whole family. But we're all sticking together she muddling through.
Please be careful in the up and coming heat, make sure to stay cool x

Sorry to hear this ❤️

itwasyourshowallalong · 03/07/2026 12:53

I’m so sorry @SmokeyMountainRain

You and your family are in my thoughts x

AlleycatMarie · 03/07/2026 12:45

I’m so sorry for your loss 😔❤️

AllTheTreesOfTheField · 03/07/2026 12:22

So sorry OP. Wishing you comfort and strength.

Handling · 03/07/2026 11:39

You sound like a lovely close family OP. Hope you can be strong together through the days and weeks ahead as your grieve your auntie. Sending hugs.X

BatshitCrazyWoman · 03/07/2026 11:37

I'm so so sorry @SmokeyMountainRain Such a sad loss.

I hope that readers of this thread are a bit more informed about heat exhaustion and heat stroke now.

nooneliterallyspatouttheirtea · 03/07/2026 11:21

So sorry for your loss, OP 💐

AnonAnonmystery · 03/07/2026 11:18

from the bottom of my heart, my condolences. What a sad loss of life. I hope you find comfort in happy memories you have of her and keep them alive in honour of her x

PetulaGordeno · 03/07/2026 10:44

I am so very sorry for your loss.
If another wave of heat comes I am sure everyone who has read your thread will be far more mindful.
Your aunt was surrounded by love. She was blessed to have a niece like you.

OrangeJellySnakes · 03/07/2026 10:41

I’m so sorry - she was no age. I was brought up in a hot country where awareness of heat stroke is far more prevalent. I don’t think most people in this country understand how quickly it can make you ill and if you’re on your own and no one spots it, it can v easily be fatal. Sorry you had to put up with all the criticism.

Pudmyboy · 03/07/2026 10:39

So sorry to hear your news @SmokeyMountainRain , even if it was expected, it is still painful. Wishing you strength and love and yes it is a salutary warning about the danger of heat even indoors 💐🫂