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Bums hanging out of the bottom of teeny tiny shorts

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Noodleschicken · 28/06/2026 20:42

Don’t know if this really AIBU or a question!
AIBU to think that shorts have become way too short ?
I have seen a LOT of girls in shorts today - with their bum cheeks hanging out the bottom ! Personally I wouldn’t let my daughter out like that. And I wouldn’t were them myself (I would give everyone nightmares !).
so what’s the consensus on bums hanging out of shorts ?

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MasterBeth · 28/06/2026 21:43

it looks dirty and sweaty and smelly and I don't want to be near other people's dirt, sweat or smell.

How does revealing more flesh make you dirty or smelly? This makes no sense.

amraa · 28/06/2026 21:43

@MasterBeth naked thighs don’t sit on germy toilet seats so Yh there’s ur difference.

BeMintFatball · 28/06/2026 21:42

TinyTempest · 28/06/2026 20:45

Bums have been hanging out of shorts since the late 1980s.

Daisy Dukes anyone?

Exactly what I came to say. Daisy Dukes.

Tbh I’ve not noticed anyone wearing short shorts where I live so am wondering if this thread is rage bait. Or maybe I’ve not noticed because I’m not interested in what others choose to wear.

why is a bit of bum cheek worse than massive amounts of boob on show?

MidnightMeltdown · 28/06/2026 21:41

nomas · 28/06/2026 21:13

This is what I don’t get. Why they were fine in the 1970s but why the women who were born in the 1970s only have an issue with girls wearing them today.

And I speak as a conservative dresser.

This is not what we’re talking about. These are just hot pants. The ones I’ve seen are a whole other level, with arse cheeks fully on display. Practically a thong with shorts at the waist band.

MasterBeth · 28/06/2026 21:41

oviraptor21 · 28/06/2026 20:50

Yep. And I don't want to sit on a seat that someone's naked bum cheeks have been on. Or sweaty thighs.

Oh behave.

Why are "naked bum cheeks" any different to "naked legs" or "naked arms"?

rumblegrumble · 28/06/2026 21:40

I went to an all girl school and rolled up my skirt. I still wear clothes I think make me look nice, even when I know I'll only be with other women. I am really uncomfortable with accusation that every woman not wearing a baggy top, loose trousers and sensible shoes must be trying to attract the 'male gaze'. Maybe they think they look good, maybe they've been working out hard and want to show off a body they're proud of (body positivity, anyone?), maybe they're just copying their friends, maybe they're just really bloody hot and want to wear as few clothes as possible. I spend precisely no time wondering what men might think of me when I choose outfits. Nor when I dye my hair, go to the gym, put on a bikini, remove my body hair - or even wear high heels. The only women I ever hear talking about the 'male gaze' are women attacking other women and claiming they are trying to attract sexual attention. And presumably if they get sexually assaulted, it's at least partly their fault for wearing clothes men might think they look nice in. If they'd been wearing a nice comfortable, practical outfit of jumper, jeans and trainers, they wouldn't have attracted the 'male gaze', after all...

Terrifying.

I don't want to see too much of ANY person. Male or female. Not because I think they're asking for sex, because it looks dirty and sweaty and smelly and I don't want to be near other people's dirt, sweat or smell. Especially if they're sitting somewhere I then want to sit! I would object equally to a man's bottom poking out, and not because I thought he was dressing for the 'female gaze', nor because I was uncomfortably aroused or thought I might sexually assault him. I think social norms about acceptable dress is fine, I think claiming woman must only be wearing shorts because they're trying to attract men is revolting. The same was said about mini skirts. The same was said about calf-length skirts, and about showing ankles, and hair. That way burkhas lie - and that really is dressing for the male gaze.

RampantIvy · 28/06/2026 21:40

PancakeCloud · 28/06/2026 20:43

If you don’t like it, don’t look.

That's a silly answer.

I don't "look" at girls in very short shorts, but it is almost impossible to avoid seeing them. I don't walk around with my eyes closed.

Flamingojune · 28/06/2026 21:40

I would hate my arse to be on display

youalright · 28/06/2026 21:40

I wouldn't wear them as im in my 30s and fat but my daughters wear them i love how body confident they both are i certainly wasnt as a teen

abracadabra1980 · 28/06/2026 21:40

It was only a few years back that boys had jeans slung so low their arses were barely contained. At least ladies bottoms are less offensive. It's fashion-this too, shall pass...

whattheysay · 28/06/2026 21:39

If I had the arse for it maybe I would wear them myself but alas I do not

likelysuspect · 28/06/2026 21:38

Noodleschicken · 28/06/2026 20:42

Don’t know if this really AIBU or a question!
AIBU to think that shorts have become way too short ?
I have seen a LOT of girls in shorts today - with their bum cheeks hanging out the bottom ! Personally I wouldn’t let my daughter out like that. And I wouldn’t were them myself (I would give everyone nightmares !).
so what’s the consensus on bums hanging out of shorts ?

You'll be told its female empowerment OP and to keep your beak out

Its low standards, attention seeking and showing off your bits for people to look at.

emuloc · 28/06/2026 21:38

mynameiscalypso · 28/06/2026 20:45

I don’t think I’d want my naked bum cheeks sitting on dirty tube seats.

This is where a copy of the Metro comes in very handy, I find.

TheArtfulNavyDreamer · 28/06/2026 21:38

Agree. I don’t want to see the top of mens pants cos their trousers hang too low and I don’t want to see the bottom of womens arses. Cringe!

JillThePlantKiller · 28/06/2026 21:37

Eumaybe · 28/06/2026 21:36

Thank you!
Thats exactly what I think. Men don’t do it at all, in fact they might be reported for indecent exposure if they do.

There’s a festival on locally and every second teen girl/young woman is wearing these shorts. Every single boy/man is wearing baggy shorts believe the knees, t shirt and socks halfway up their legs.

PintofFizz · 28/06/2026 21:36

PancakeCloud · 28/06/2026 21:29

But it’s rather a fatuous thread.

These fashions are not new and honestly why are people so invested in what other people are wearing.

The knicker short IS new.

JillThePlantKiller · 28/06/2026 21:36

nomas · 28/06/2026 21:13

This is what I don’t get. Why they were fine in the 1970s but why the women who were born in the 1970s only have an issue with girls wearing them today.

And I speak as a conservative dresser.

The ones in that photo have about twice as much fabric as the ones I’ve seen lately. I wouldn’t have an issue with those. They come up the top of the thighs. The ones people are talking about are cut away so that half of each arse cheek hangs out.

Eumaybe · 28/06/2026 21:36

Greedybilly · 28/06/2026 21:18

Fashion dictated by the male gaze innit? I mean - are men doing it?

Thank you!
Thats exactly what I think. Men don’t do it at all, in fact they might be reported for indecent exposure if they do.

deeahgwitch · 28/06/2026 21:35

MrsTerryPratchett · 28/06/2026 20:44

I hate it. But I also think women should wear what they like. But I also think it’s for the male gaze. But I also… what can you do?

I agree. With all those sentiments @MrsTerryPratchett

IkeaMeatballGravy · 28/06/2026 21:34

Ergh I hate it to OP, I don't want to see anyone's arse. I also hate when men walk about without t-shirts on, especially in places like the supermarket. It just looks grim.

Nipples, arses, vulvas and penises should all be covered up as a minimum.

CorporealCarrot · 28/06/2026 21:34

I think teens can probably wear what they like in their own time, but school skirts so short they show arse cheek makes a mockery of the uniform system - and I think that whatever the gender, no-one should be in a school uniform which shows arse

PintofFizz · 28/06/2026 21:34

GrillaMilla · 28/06/2026 21:30

I knew someone would try to draw a parallel with this.

Wearing lycra for a particular sport, like cycling or swimming isn't the same as walking around in public showing your bottom. It's embarrassing.

No sport going on in the cafe though.

If you follow the thread you will see the parrallel here is with the camel toe, not the bum shorts.

Bellic · 28/06/2026 21:34

shuggles · 28/06/2026 21:27

There's no evidence that women wearing revealing clothes causes paedophilia.

My local secondary thinks it’s really modern and hip by having no uniform and it’s arse hanging out shorts or ‘leggings’ that are just 40 denier tights that are the fashion with the 11-18 year olds. It is indeed a paedos dream.

CorporealCarrot · 28/06/2026 21:33

DanceMumTaxi · 28/06/2026 21:26

I really hate it. You can have short shorts without arse cheek hanging out. Round here this last week local schools have let the kids come in PE kit. The boys all had normal length shorts (like football shorts) but the girls were a different style. They’re a much shorter style than the boys and there was definitely bum cheek hanging out and this is for school! It’s obscene. I think some of the older girls are squeezing into the shorts they had in year 7.

It was better round here when the kids wore PE kits - the PE skirts are naturally quite short but they are pleated so hard to roll up, and looked fine. The usual skirts are supposed to be longer, but get rolled up to show arse cheek, so the PE kit looked a lot smarter

flowerpot13 · 28/06/2026 21:31

Like a recent thread explains there is less respect for others in general now. I see people wearing clothes that show the outline of their boobs/bums. No there is nothing wrong with their bodies but some things are private and I think it's rude to impose it on someone else. But I've realised it's what's easiest to buy, trendiest or easiest to put on that leads people to buy those kinds of clothes. I don't like any clothes that even show the outline of my bum. So for example, I wouldn't wear leggings without a long top or dress. My bum isn't flat, so I wouldn't wear jogging pants either. I only wear skirts if it's warm and I'll have a long top over that too. I wear natural materials that won't cause me to sweat though.

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