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Bums hanging out of the bottom of teeny tiny shorts

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Noodleschicken · 28/06/2026 20:42

Don’t know if this really AIBU or a question!
AIBU to think that shorts have become way too short ?
I have seen a LOT of girls in shorts today - with their bum cheeks hanging out the bottom ! Personally I wouldn’t let my daughter out like that. And I wouldn’t were them myself (I would give everyone nightmares !).
so what’s the consensus on bums hanging out of shorts ?

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EmeraldShamrock000 · 28/06/2026 22:56

Tbf I wore some skimpy outfits in my time. I was a teenager when Britney and Christina wore bra tops and low cut jeans. I obviously copied the trend on occasion as much as my parents hated it.

SmoothPorridgeOats · 28/06/2026 22:56

saveforthat · 28/06/2026 20:44

Hard agree. There were a few girls in our town centre yesterday with those shorts on. How can anyone think they look attractive?

Are you usually attracted to women?

Isittimeformynapyet · 28/06/2026 22:55

Petrolitis · 28/06/2026 22:07

God this is such a stupid thing to say.

Its so so tiresome that people have read this trite response, then repeat it as though its some of clever gotcha. When, in fact it is just a bit thick.

We have eyes, we are constantly assessing our surroundings. You will see arse cheeks whether you like it or not. You may avert your gaze once the bare arse has come into your field of vision. But you cannot walk around or drive around with your eyes shut.

Are there just a lot of bots about or do real people actually not understand how eyes work?

Daft.

I hope you read this @PancakeCloud

KeepPumping · 28/06/2026 22:53

SunnySunnyDayz · 28/06/2026 20:46

Agree entirely, it is fashion but I sometimes think fashion has been infiltrated by the manosphere.

Women should be able to wear what they want but WHY do they want to dress like this?

Desperation/need for attention, but if everyone else is doing it it gets harder to stand out so the clothing gets less and less until it just becomes ridiculous and people are laughing at you and making threads online about the sad case they saw on the high street.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 28/06/2026 22:52

Yes they have. I wonder where it will end, somewhere around the belly button.
I imagine the parents from the 1960’s were shocked too when the mini exploded.
I just don’t see the point in having your bottom on display. I hate seen children in skimpy shorts.

aquashiv · 28/06/2026 22:52

I see girls with huge back sides on display i admire their cheeks actually lol

I wear quite short shorts, I couldn't care less what people think.

FrootyCider · 28/06/2026 22:52

It's only a bum. Everyone's got one.
I saw a man in a puffa jacket on Thursday, out in 36 degrees. THAT was disturbing.

likelysuspect · 28/06/2026 22:52

AhhhSchtop · 28/06/2026 22:44

Of course they want attention! So what? They’re young and having fun!

I feel like MN is full of people who were born 44 years of age, wearing sensible knickers and going to bed at 9pm.

Have a day off!

And then they get attention. This is attention

Or they get what they might call 'unwanted attention'. And then theres claim that 'well I didnt want attention'

Noodleschicken · 28/06/2026 22:51

AhhhSchtop · 28/06/2026 22:44

Of course they want attention! So what? They’re young and having fun!

I feel like MN is full of people who were born 44 years of age, wearing sensible knickers and going to bed at 9pm.

Have a day off!

So you would let your child out of the house with their bum cheeks on display ?

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PyongyangKipperbang · 28/06/2026 22:51

Peony1985 · 28/06/2026 22:43

Boundaries? That's surely gymnasts wearing bodysuits not ultra high cut leotards or women wearing trousers and flats. Not having both cheeks on show whilst walking up the escalator

Pushing boundaries for the male gaze is a bit tragic in the big 2 6.

Young people have always pushed back against their parents, its human nature. Its how fashion has changed.

But for the current generation, there isnt much the generations before havent already done (especially GenX of which I count myself a proud member!) so they either have to dial it right back in a Saffy kind of way or go even more extreme.

Their parents are old and stupid and they need to prove that they are not like their parents so they go to extremes. They will learn, like we all did, that comfy is best!

Pinkgin00 · 28/06/2026 22:50

It's never a good look, even for someone with an incredible body, it just looks trashy. Short is fine, but no need for arse cheeks hanging out

Shoopshawady · 28/06/2026 22:47

Hmm I own a pair but only wear them on the beach or around the house/garden as they feel a bit wrong! Today at a local park with rivers, waterfalls and swans etc there was a girl who must have been about 13-14 in a thong bikini paddling. It felt so wrong!

Peony1985 · 28/06/2026 22:47

Triskellion75 · 28/06/2026 22:33

I'm not a massive fan of arse cheeks on display but I did see the most gorgeous young woman in sporty shorts (not micro shorts) the other day. That figure was proof of God's existence I can tell you.

FFS.
What if she hadn't been young?

Wetblanket78 · 28/06/2026 22:46

As long as they’re not flesh coloured scrunch bum shorts and got the figure for them I’m not bothered. I wouldn’t wear them myself but hey we were all young once. It’s just the fashion did you never wear hot pants? I did.

sweatymessi · 28/06/2026 22:45

AhhhSchtop · 28/06/2026 22:44

Of course they want attention! So what? They’re young and having fun!

I feel like MN is full of people who were born 44 years of age, wearing sensible knickers and going to bed at 9pm.

Have a day off!

I don’t think that’s representative of 44 yr olds!

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 28/06/2026 22:45

Frenzi · 28/06/2026 21:00

I am 58. If I had a bum that looked good hanging out of teeny tiny shorts I would do it. Sadly if I did people would think I had a growth on the back of my knees.

If they have it let them flaunt it. Why, as women, do we feel it is okay to criticise other women!

For the same reason that we feel it's ok to criticise what men wear, or don't wear....

According to one PP upthread apparently the reason women dress like this is : men : so we're not really criticising women at all.

sweatymessi · 28/06/2026 22:45

That tube seat fabric looks itchy

AhhhSchtop · 28/06/2026 22:44

Of course they want attention! So what? They’re young and having fun!

I feel like MN is full of people who were born 44 years of age, wearing sensible knickers and going to bed at 9pm.

Have a day off!

Popstarrrrr · 28/06/2026 22:44

mynameiscalypso · 28/06/2026 20:45

I don’t think I’d want my naked bum cheeks sitting on dirty tube seats.

I wore some terrible shit in my youth but now, this too would be my prevailing concern.

Nocameltoeleggingsplease · 28/06/2026 22:43

I’m 49 and perimenopausal. I have a saggy arse. So no of course I wouldn’t wear them.

But if I was 18 and perky? Hell yeah. And no one would stop me.

Peony1985 · 28/06/2026 22:43

ExtraOnions · 28/06/2026 20:48

Good for them, if only I had the body and the youth.

Young women have been pushing these kind of boundaries since Mary Quant gave us the miniskirt

Boundaries? That's surely gymnasts wearing bodysuits not ultra high cut leotards or women wearing trousers and flats. Not having both cheeks on show whilst walking up the escalator

Pushing boundaries for the male gaze is a bit tragic in the big 2 6.

Floatlikeafeather2 · 28/06/2026 22:43

EtsyKetsy · 28/06/2026 21:08

If you think that they are short now you should have seen them in the 1970s

Come off it! There was nothing even remotely similar in the 70s to what people are talking about here. Nor did people swan around in thongs. If your skirt was short enough to show your pants, you were very careful how you walked/sat etc. I was prime trying-to-be-shocking age in the 70s, so I remember it well.

sweatymessi · 28/06/2026 22:42

goat shoes 😆😆

LittleWaterRabbit · 28/06/2026 22:42

ThatCyanCat · 28/06/2026 22:34

I actually don't think that, generally, they are trying to look sexually provocative. I think they are trying to look fashionable. Being revealing has an edge to it but I think it's more about the style, such as it is, than provocation.

I never had my arse out in the street or on the beach but I did sometimes wear stuff like a Wonderbra under a lace top or a top done up with only lacing at the sides. I realised boys might like it and it would help if I was on the pull but it was more about trying to look sophisticated and cool. And failing, but still, that was the intention.

It’s definitely for attention, you don’t walk around with your arse hanging out if you don’t want attention

Noodleschicken · 28/06/2026 22:41

AurielleBaies · 28/06/2026 22:25

I thought we’d moved to a place where women support each other more, but reading this feels like that’s still not always the case.

I believe I see a lot of support for each other in these posts. Especially when it comes to children / young women.
For some reason (also) some people have a problem with advising their daughters on what clothes are respectable and which are not. And I personally think showing your bum cheeks, bum crack (even more when bending over. Crosses the line. By a long shot

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