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Bums hanging out of the bottom of teeny tiny shorts

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Noodleschicken · 28/06/2026 20:42

Don’t know if this really AIBU or a question!
AIBU to think that shorts have become way too short ?
I have seen a LOT of girls in shorts today - with their bum cheeks hanging out the bottom ! Personally I wouldn’t let my daughter out like that. And I wouldn’t were them myself (I would give everyone nightmares !).
so what’s the consensus on bums hanging out of shorts ?

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BCBird · 26/08/2026 16:25

I hate it too. I do not think it is suitable. I don't believe we can wear what we like. If a man had his bott on show I would feel the same

ThatCyanCat · 26/08/2026 15:47

KeepPumping · 26/08/2026 15:44

In other news, the "shorts" seem to be giving way to ripped jeans, 80"s style, and short denim skirts with bare legs and boots, both styles look much more cool and they work for various body shapes as opposed to a style that literally very few people can get away with without ridicule or comment.

Even people with fantastic bums look ridiculous walking down an urban high street with it on full open display. There's even a phrase "showing your arse" to mean embarrassing yourself. Kids laugh their heads off when they see someone's bum.

KeepPumping · 26/08/2026 15:44

OonaStubbs · 24/08/2026 17:22

IMO it is definitely to do with porn and the proliferation of Anal Sex. It should be banned. Men and Women alike should dress modestly and respectfully

In other news, the "shorts" seem to be giving way to ripped jeans, 80"s style, and short denim skirts with bare legs and boots, both styles look much more cool and they work for various body shapes as opposed to a style that literally very few people can get away with without ridicule or comment.

KeepPumping · 24/08/2026 20:46

Allseeingallknowing · 24/08/2026 18:18

At the bus stop today we witnessed a right sight. Skirt halfway down her bum, wobbly white cheeks spilling out, each side of her thong. She got on the double decker, and the view for the downstairs passengers as she climbed the stairs was horrific, though there was some laughter as well. I thought the pensioner at the bottom of the stairs was going to need CPR!

LOL, scary isn"t it.

KeepPumping · 24/08/2026 20:45

FoodieDench · 24/08/2026 13:47

I saw a child wearing these yesterday. I really don't understand why you'd put a child in skin-tight hotpants with half of her bum hanging out as opposed to longer or looser clothes.

Yes it"s odd, the Mini Pops come to mind, that was really odd (until it got cancelled)

Allseeingallknowing · 24/08/2026 18:18

At the bus stop today we witnessed a right sight. Skirt halfway down her bum, wobbly white cheeks spilling out, each side of her thong. She got on the double decker, and the view for the downstairs passengers as she climbed the stairs was horrific, though there was some laughter as well. I thought the pensioner at the bottom of the stairs was going to need CPR!

OonaStubbs · 24/08/2026 17:22

IMO it is definitely to do with porn and the proliferation of Anal Sex. It should be banned. Men and Women alike should dress modestly and respectfully

Rumors1 · 24/08/2026 14:06

My DD went to a concert in Dublin last night. She wanted to wear a short denim skirt, ankle boots and a crop halter top. I said no way as Dublin is rough and I knew she would be walking past loads of men in the city before and after the
concert. I collected her and her friends afterwards and was driving through the streets in a sea of bare arse cheeks. I have never seen anything like it, literally thousands of teenagers/young women with their backside on show. DD said on the tram there was one woman in thong shorts things sitting on the seat, she said is was gross.
These are not hotpants there are way more revealing, I do wish they would have more modesty. Its obviously being done to attract men.I dont know how they dont all have thrush!

FoodieDench · 24/08/2026 13:47

I saw a child wearing these yesterday. I really don't understand why you'd put a child in skin-tight hotpants with half of her bum hanging out as opposed to longer or looser clothes.

PinotandPray · 24/08/2026 13:38

VickyEadie · 28/06/2026 20:54

Driving in Tesco car park on Friday, we found ourselves behind a woman wearing a teeny pleated skirt. We could see her bum cheeks below the hem (she was a stocky young woman, and there was quite a bit of bum visible) and both my partner (female) and I (ditto) exclaimed "I don't think she's wearing pants!"

She suddenly leaned over the trolley her bloke was pushing and we could see she was wearing a thong.

To those saying "Don't look" - I couldn't close my eyes, I was driving.

My opinion - it's not appropriate in public.

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Agree its inappropriate in public and I don’t think it looks very nice especially paired with crop tops!

OrlandointheWilderness · 24/08/2026 13:24

It’s grim. I don’t care how empowered we are, I don’t want to see arses and yes of course you look! Because it’s grim!

EmeraldShamrock000 · 24/08/2026 13:14

I was walking behind a young girl during the week about 12 or 13. She was overweight, wearing Nike pro shorts (the tiny hot pants) they were too tight for her, they were bunched up her butt cheeks, full cheeks out with a short T shirt. It looked like her butt was eating the shorts every time she took a step.
I had to cross the road. I’m not prudent about showing your body but within reason.
I don’t want to see anyone’s pale ass in my face.
What on earth was her parent thinking.

Allseeingallknowing · 24/08/2026 12:45

Beachlover1993 · 23/08/2026 23:04

Fashion trends, and its great to see people confident to wear them

No, it’s revolting and vulgar , and a risky trend

Beachlover1993 · 23/08/2026 23:04

Noodleschicken · 28/06/2026 20:42

Don’t know if this really AIBU or a question!
AIBU to think that shorts have become way too short ?
I have seen a LOT of girls in shorts today - with their bum cheeks hanging out the bottom ! Personally I wouldn’t let my daughter out like that. And I wouldn’t were them myself (I would give everyone nightmares !).
so what’s the consensus on bums hanging out of shorts ?

Fashion trends, and its great to see people confident to wear them

ThatCyanCat · 12/08/2026 21:26

Peony1985 · 11/08/2026 22:30

Yes but the consensus is that it’s nothing to do with male gaze. It’s merely the fashion of youth/ pushing boundaries/ only skin etc etc.
Although droopy or spotty or old female bottoms clearly don’t qualify as anarchic enough to on show, funnily enough

Plus sized ones definitely are, though (and those are almost inevitably droopy - ask me how I know). In fact, those are the only ones I've seen essentially fully out on city streets nowhere near a body of water (string thong, tasselled belt that barely touches the crack; to all intents and purposes a bare arse).

I do think it's about trying to be edgy and fashionable rather than titillate every man in the vicinity but I still think it's a pretty horrid fashion no matter what the bum is like. Don't much like it even on the beach but that feels a bit more appropriate. Wandering around a major landlocked city for shopping, coffee, cinema, theatre? That's just not good taste even for the world's most beautiful behind.

shuggles · 12/08/2026 20:31

@Peony1985 Yes but the consensus is that it’s nothing to do with male gaze. It’s merely the fashion of youth/ pushing boundaries/ only skin etc etc.

Well yes, you are correct in saying that young women overwhelmingly report that they don't choose their clothes for men, and they also overwhelmingly report that they don't want men looking at them.

So why young women wear so-called 'revealing' clothes will continue to be a mystery to everyone.

Your explanation of "fashion of youth" and "pushing boundaries" does not explain their fashion choices. There are countless ways to be an anarchist that don't involve showing any body parts at all. And many young women who dress like this are hardly anarchists - employed in very highly paid job roles at giant corporations while carrying around Apple products in their bag.

Although droopy or spotty or old female bottoms clearly don’t qualify as anarchic enough to on show, funnily enough

Who decided that they can't be on shown?

I would have no issue with an older woman's arse being on display. It has no negative effect on me.

Peony1985 · 11/08/2026 22:30

shuggles · 05/08/2026 21:34

@Peony1985 It’s more that male version young people don’t seem to feel the need to reveal their bum cheeks or a side view of testicle.

Women don't want to see side testicle, hence, men don't show side testicle.

If women wanted to see side testicle, there is no question that men would show side testicle.

... However, gay men do seem to appreciate titillating clothing, which is why you see men wearing titillating clothing at gay pride parades and in gay saunas.

Yes but the consensus is that it’s nothing to do with male gaze. It’s merely the fashion of youth/ pushing boundaries/ only skin etc etc.
Although droopy or spotty or old female bottoms clearly don’t qualify as anarchic enough to on show, funnily enough

Allseeingallknowing · 11/08/2026 22:07

Grapewrath · 11/08/2026 21:47

I used to wear these in the late 90s/eariy 00s. I think kylies good hot pants inspired many of us lol
I liked how they looked and I had a great bum, so why not! No regrets.

Today’s shorts are much more revealing!

Grapewrath · 11/08/2026 21:47

I used to wear these in the late 90s/eariy 00s. I think kylies good hot pants inspired many of us lol
I liked how they looked and I had a great bum, so why not! No regrets.

Beachlover1993 · 11/08/2026 20:10

Noodleschicken · 28/06/2026 20:42

Don’t know if this really AIBU or a question!
AIBU to think that shorts have become way too short ?
I have seen a LOT of girls in shorts today - with their bum cheeks hanging out the bottom ! Personally I wouldn’t let my daughter out like that. And I wouldn’t were them myself (I would give everyone nightmares !).
so what’s the consensus on bums hanging out of shorts ?

Its on trend right now, ive also got a pair and yes i have worn them out. Once to the local and a number of times out walking to our local beach

shuggles · 05/08/2026 21:34

@Peony1985 It’s more that male version young people don’t seem to feel the need to reveal their bum cheeks or a side view of testicle.

Women don't want to see side testicle, hence, men don't show side testicle.

If women wanted to see side testicle, there is no question that men would show side testicle.

... However, gay men do seem to appreciate titillating clothing, which is why you see men wearing titillating clothing at gay pride parades and in gay saunas.

shuggles · 05/08/2026 21:31

Gettingbysomehow · 04/08/2026 21:55

Quite honestly when I was a young woman and attractive enough to wear this stuff I did not because it was bad enough dealing with mens disgusting comments and lechery on a day to day basis wearing normal clothes and I wouldn't have felt safe or comfortable showing my bottom biscuits.
I find it difficult to believe girls want that kind of attention from the creeps out there.

Young women are overwhelmingly clear though that they wear these clothes because they like them, and the clothing choices have nothing to do with men.

Schmuliana · 05/08/2026 19:44

MixedFeelingsNoFeelings · 05/08/2026 15:33

I wonder if, the 'younger' and trendier that midlife women dress, the more it subconsciously pushes younger women to extremes - either revealing body parts (bum cheeks, midriff) that most older women wouldn't dare to: or conversely, covering everything up in swathes of material, vintage styles or odd shapes, that mature women would avoid for fear of looking frumpy or just plain weird.

Just a theory, I hasten to add! But I read somewhere that the key ways young people differentiate themselves from their elders is through their language, clothes and music. When your trendy DPs are going to the same festivals and listening to the same stuff as you do, and still pretty fixated on looking fashionable, where else do you go?

The really sad (and frightening) thing is when the younger generation just stops competing. As we're beginning to see.

I think this is an interesting point actually, not sure if it is what is happening but it does make sense.

Two2TooAlsoToToward · 05/08/2026 19:27

Full bum cheeks on display are definitely the trend on our summer holiday—with shorts, skirts, and bikinis.

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