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Bums hanging out of the bottom of teeny tiny shorts

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Noodleschicken · 28/06/2026 20:42

Don’t know if this really AIBU or a question!
AIBU to think that shorts have become way too short ?
I have seen a LOT of girls in shorts today - with their bum cheeks hanging out the bottom ! Personally I wouldn’t let my daughter out like that. And I wouldn’t were them myself (I would give everyone nightmares !).
so what’s the consensus on bums hanging out of shorts ?

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Swimbea · 29/06/2026 10:20

nomas · 28/06/2026 21:13

This is what I don’t get. Why they were fine in the 1970s but why the women who were born in the 1970s only have an issue with girls wearing them today.

And I speak as a conservative dresser.

They look nothing like this, they're way shorter and most of the girls wearing them do not have figures that those girls have in the photos!

Seriously, where do you draw the line? Do some people think it's acceptable to go round Tesco in a bikini? No matter what you look like in it? But it wasn't okay for people to wear PJs round the shops? Happy for it to become the norm that people are 95% naked in a food shop? On the bus? At work? Why don't we just all wear what the F we want all the time? Why?

People had a hell of a lot more self respect and pride in 1976 than they do now. You wouldn't have seen massive beer guts hanging out all over the place back then. Society is grim now in every respect.

anotherside · 29/06/2026 10:18

Unfortunately if you look at pop music today it’s like feminism never happened. Half if not more of the most popular female stars are stripped off half the time - Sabrina Carpenter, Taylor Swift, Black Pink, Beyoncé, Olivia Rodrigo, Dua Lipa etc

Anarchy99 · 29/06/2026 10:18

The best advice I can give is concentrate on your own life, keep your eyes to yourself and mind your own business.

MN is obsessed about what people wear - it’s weird.

anotherside · 29/06/2026 10:12

icannotlivelaughloveintheseconditions · 28/06/2026 21:28

I’m torn between people should wear what they want and sod the male gaze and we shouldn’t be showing off our bits for men to ogle!

Some young women will always want to attract the male gaze and so some fashion lines will always cater to that look. The most shocking thing is some parents allowing their children to go out half dressed. But if adult men/women want to “dress to impress” that’s their prerogative.

JudgeJ · 29/06/2026 10:11

Avantiagain · 29/06/2026 10:03

In my early years of teaching there was one pupil who kept doing the button undone zip half down trouser look. She was hauled in by a mature female teacher who told her to sort it out because she looked like a tart ( no you couldn't say that now) This put a stop to it.

It's a pity that a lot of the verbal putdowns are no longer allowed because the little cherubs are too sensitive and they might be 'triggered'. They were certainly effective, a 'well endowed' newly qualified teacher used to get comments from the teenage boys until the day when one of them told her what he'd like to do to her. She drew herself up to her 5ft 2ins and told him 'Don't send a little boy to do a man's job', his coterie of friends fell about in hysterics, he was as red a a post box but he never said it again, to anyone!

JudgeJ · 29/06/2026 10:06

HumberSquid · 29/06/2026 09:57

No you dont. People didn't dress like that in the 1970s, it would have been totally unacceptable.

Google topless dresses in the 1960s! They were like a dress with a very low back worn back to front! Outside of Carnaby St and similar conscientiously trendy places they never reall caught on though/

HumberSquid · 29/06/2026 10:04

Beamsss · 29/06/2026 10:03

1970s hot pants often did reveal bum cheeks.

Yes a little bit at the bottom, not the whole cheek.

Beamsss · 29/06/2026 10:03

HumberSquid · 29/06/2026 09:57

No you dont. People didn't dress like that in the 1970s, it would have been totally unacceptable.

1970s hot pants often did reveal bum cheeks.

Avantiagain · 29/06/2026 10:03

Myblueclematis · 29/06/2026 09:00

On Saturday afternoon driving back home from town, a young woman was walking along the road with her very short jeans type shorts that had the button undone and the zip halfway down so you could quite clearly see the top of her pants.

Both me and friend in the car noticed as we drove by, it was very hard not to.

I really don't understand why you would go out like that no matter how old you are, classy it definitely isn't, vulgar it certainly is.

In my early years of teaching there was one pupil who kept doing the button undone zip half down trouser look. She was hauled in by a mature female teacher who told her to sort it out because she looked like a tart ( no you couldn't say that now) This put a stop to it.

JudgeJ · 29/06/2026 10:02

Wipeywipey · 28/06/2026 23:35

People do (shockingly) wear fewer clothes when it is hot.
Let's ban topless men first.

Why, just for being men? Why is it OK to criticise male clothing choices but not female? The MN hypocrisy bus is on the road again!

Chatterlyssecret · 29/06/2026 10:00

All this talk of “Dirty Old Men”, when does a male become a dirty old man ? is it when they pass 45 years old or earlier? Females in all species on this earth are attractive to the male species, otherwise we would not exist.

MagneticFrog · 29/06/2026 09:59

PancakeCloud · 28/06/2026 20:43

If you don’t like it, don’t look.

I'm a wheelchair user, it's a bit difficult not to when they're at my head height and walk in front of me....

HumberSquid · 29/06/2026 09:57

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 29/06/2026 09:46

I'm in my sixties. This is a look that comes and goes. I remember it in the 1970s.

No you dont. People didn't dress like that in the 1970s, it would have been totally unacceptable.

Mosaic80 · 29/06/2026 09:55

It's just a bum - I don't really have an issue with it. I would have an issue with leering men but that's a separate thing. If a man is that way inclined, longer shorts won't solve it - he'll still find someone to leer at.

Avantiagain · 29/06/2026 09:54

I wore short shorts when I was younger but not with half my arse showing. But it's up to them.

ThatCyanCat · 29/06/2026 09:52

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 29/06/2026 09:46

I'm in my sixties. This is a look that comes and goes. I remember it in the 1970s.

Thongs on the street with a couple of inches of fringed belt? We're not talking hotpants or Daisy Dukes.

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 29/06/2026 09:46

I'm in my sixties. This is a look that comes and goes. I remember it in the 1970s.

Bringflowersofthefairest · 29/06/2026 09:40

I agree people should wear what they want but within reason.
When I see these young girls walking around with their cheeks hanging out and then the men, young men, old men looking at them knowing exactly what’s going through their minds it makes me feel quite sick. Doesn’t take much imagination.
No way would I want my daughter being thought about like that.

BeanQuisine · 29/06/2026 09:38

It is an unsavoury sight, I agree.

Myblueclematis · 29/06/2026 09:00

On Saturday afternoon driving back home from town, a young woman was walking along the road with her very short jeans type shorts that had the button undone and the zip halfway down so you could quite clearly see the top of her pants.

Both me and friend in the car noticed as we drove by, it was very hard not to.

I really don't understand why you would go out like that no matter how old you are, classy it definitely isn't, vulgar it certainly is.

wishingonastar101 · 29/06/2026 08:46

I saw a girl in big knickers in Tesco. And there were teenagers in bodysuits in the shopping mall. It's too much.

ThatCyanCat · 29/06/2026 08:40

VanessaFence · 29/06/2026 08:23

I hear this argument being made a lot but it just doesn't match up with my experience at all. I used to get cat called all the time as a young girl and it definitely correlated with what I was wearing. I remember wearing my pube-skimming low rise jeans back in the day and getting hollered at by men in cars 3 times in a ten minute walk. It was only then that I realised they might be a bit revealing.

I got cat called last year for the first time in about 10 years (you can imagine my shock). Got home and realised my top had gone see through in the wash.

Of course women should be able to wear what they want but we're being dishonest to young girls if we tell them it makes no difference.

It matches my experience though. I've been harassed and yelled at wearing long skirts with long sleeves, full business trouser suits and all kinds of conservative and even ugly stuff. There was an uptick if I was wearing something sexy (although I was also much younger then) but I absolutely got harassed, a lot, when nobody could possibly argue that it was about my clothes. Actually, the only times I ever got groped were when I was wearing trousers and a fitted top.

OtterlyAstounding · 29/06/2026 08:39

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 29/06/2026 06:58

Well, builder‘s crack…

I recently had to sit down on a seat (yes, had to. It was certainly not optional) after having just seen the previous occupant drag half his arse over it. It was quite grim!

Hah, yes, that's pretty unwelcome as well! Luckily, no one is trying to argue that's an empowering choice, and people all seem to understand that no one wants to see it!

SatsumaDog · 29/06/2026 08:35

Not my cup of tea, but it seems to be the fashion. These things tend to go in cycles.

Dilau23 · 29/06/2026 08:30

Sartre · 29/06/2026 06:59

Agree it isn’t a good look, not particularly classy but then it usually isn’t the classiest women doing it… My teen DD’s hate it too so it isn’t a young person thing, just a certain type of female thing.

What ‘certain type of female’ is that then?