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Bums hanging out of the bottom of teeny tiny shorts

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Noodleschicken · 28/06/2026 20:42

Don’t know if this really AIBU or a question!
AIBU to think that shorts have become way too short ?
I have seen a LOT of girls in shorts today - with their bum cheeks hanging out the bottom ! Personally I wouldn’t let my daughter out like that. And I wouldn’t were them myself (I would give everyone nightmares !).
so what’s the consensus on bums hanging out of shorts ?

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Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 17:04

youalright · 28/06/2026 21:45

Is this what where talking about as I see nothing wrong with this or are you meaning something different

No, those are modest by today’s standards!

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 16:53

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 16:19

Yes,very sensible points.

Yes they are and it’s amazing some on here can’t understand that!

Snufkin88 · 29/06/2026 16:52

ExtraOnions · 28/06/2026 20:48

Good for them, if only I had the body and the youth.

Young women have been pushing these kind of boundaries since Mary Quant gave us the miniskirt

Even if I had the body , which I don’t , I would be so embarrassed walking around with my arse hanging out . It’s like when I was a teenager it was a fashion for a while to have a visible thong over your jeans . I didn’t partake in that fashion . I could never understand why anyone would want to. But it’s none of my business what other people want to wear I guess

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 16:52

ThatCyanCat · 29/06/2026 16:19

I've said several times that it's a horrid fashion but it absolutely does not give people like you carte blanche to call them merchandise. They're guilty of wearing something tasteless and inappropriate and many of them are too young to really know any better. You are sexually deriding them and declaring them objects for sale because you don't like it, and that's worse, plus you have no excuse.

I am not calling them objects for sale but to some they will give off that vibe. I don’t get the too young to know any better bit. They cannot be unaware of the effect they are having. If they are too young why on earth are their parents letting them go out like that( unless they change once they have left home) I can’t imagine any responsible parent would do this! You may call it tasteless and inappropriate- I call it indecent and vulgar, and so do many others!

Anarchy99 · 29/06/2026 16:46

u3ername · 29/06/2026 16:41

I did think adding ‘obese’ to my post could offend but it did make a huge difference - larger exposed surface makes the visual impact greater.

Are you always that easily offended by things that don’t directly affect you?

If you don’t want to see something, look away. It really shouldn’t be complicated

Two2TooAlsoToToward · 29/06/2026 16:43

cookbookjunkie · 29/06/2026 16:31

I was around in the 70s (as a little girl, admittedly) and I don't remember seeing the sorts of shorts we are talking about here on anyone. Not where half your buttock was banging out of the back.

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They weren’t like today’s version. G-string/thong underwear weren’t even mainstream underwear in high street clothing shops until the 1990s. The 1970s shorts covered your bikini knickers. Today’s require g-strings or thongs.

u3ername · 29/06/2026 16:41

Yodellayhehoo · 29/06/2026 14:58

I hope you would have been equally grossed out if she was slim

I did think adding ‘obese’ to my post could offend but it did make a huge difference - larger exposed surface makes the visual impact greater.

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 16:39

cookbookjunkie · 29/06/2026 16:31

I was around in the 70s (as a little girl, admittedly) and I don't remember seeing the sorts of shorts we are talking about here on anyone. Not where half your buttock was banging out of the back.

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The majority of people were quite conservative in the 1970"s? It didn"t take too much effort to stand out a bit, now everything has to be overt on steroids, that is a symptom of social media and phones in my opinion, if half the street is hanging out of their shorts no one really notices anymore, so you will see groups in shorts being really loud to try and pull the attention to them.

cookbookjunkie · 29/06/2026 16:31

SuitcaseAndSecrets · 29/06/2026 15:41

I wore them in the 70s.. made my own cutting up a pair of old jeans. Frayed the edges.. wore with cheese cloth top that tied at under the bust.. it's nothing new.. oh to be 18 again with the lovely figure l had then.. lovely long legs. Pert bum and boob's that stayed up... unfortunately I'm now 68.. as long as no bits on show.. live and let live.

I was around in the 70s (as a little girl, admittedly) and I don't remember seeing the sorts of shorts we are talking about here on anyone. Not where half your buttock was banging out of the back.

cookbookjunkie · 29/06/2026 16:29

ThatCyanCat · 29/06/2026 14:34

I wonder how you know so much about it.

Do you wonder? Really? Or are you sarcastically trying to imply something about me?

ThatCyanCat · 29/06/2026 16:19

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 15:43

You don’t agree that walking along with your cheeks hanging out your teeny shorts is indecent or vulgar? They must be fully aware of the effect they are having. They are not doing it to keep cool.

I've said several times that it's a horrid fashion but it absolutely does not give people like you carte blanche to call them merchandise. They're guilty of wearing something tasteless and inappropriate and many of them are too young to really know any better. You are sexually deriding them and declaring them objects for sale because you don't like it, and that's worse, plus you have no excuse.

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 16:19

Jhm88 · 29/06/2026 16:15

Yes, we know pervs will look at teenagers no matter what, but why give them the satisfaction of looking at their literal bare arses? Also, more importantly, it's a fact that a child/teen that present themselves in a certain way, is a green flag to predators that they are easier to groom. I am NOT saying it's right. Even walking around stark naked isn't "asking for it", but facts are facts. Preds look for signs in minors such as they are neglected in some way, have absent or "cool" relaxed parents, are showing signs of wanting male attention. I'd say that showing arse cheeks while walking from school or around Asda (so not where it makes sense like a beach) unfortunately puts them in the easy target category. Like I already posted, there are also men secretly taking pics and that's going to be on the rise with meta glasses and who knows what else in the future.

Yes,very sensible points.

Jhm88 · 29/06/2026 16:15

genbs · 29/06/2026 07:06

I saw a creepy old man ogling a 14 year old girl wearing perfectly normal length not tight denim shorts on the weekend.

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Yes, we know pervs will look at teenagers no matter what, but why give them the satisfaction of looking at their literal bare arses? Also, more importantly, it's a fact that a child/teen that present themselves in a certain way, is a green flag to predators that they are easier to groom. I am NOT saying it's right. Even walking around stark naked isn't "asking for it", but facts are facts. Preds look for signs in minors such as they are neglected in some way, have absent or "cool" relaxed parents, are showing signs of wanting male attention. I'd say that showing arse cheeks while walking from school or around Asda (so not where it makes sense like a beach) unfortunately puts them in the easy target category. Like I already posted, there are also men secretly taking pics and that's going to be on the rise with meta glasses and who knows what else in the future.

saveforthat · 29/06/2026 16:05

SmoothPorridgeOats · 28/06/2026 22:56

Are you usually attracted to women?

What an odd question. Attractive doesn't necessarily mean sexual attraction. I can appreciate someone who is stylish/looks attractive, be they male or female. To answer your question though, yes I am!

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 16:03

Thirteenblackcats · 29/06/2026 15:59

Wouldn’t wear it myself. Couldn’t care less what others do it’s their body not mine

Fair point, the average shorts wearing person would not be interested in the views on this thread anyway?

Thirteenblackcats · 29/06/2026 15:59

Wouldn’t wear it myself. Couldn’t care less what others do it’s their body not mine

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 15:58

Everlore · 29/06/2026 15:57

In my opinion I wouldn't be telling girls that they deserved to be raped if they weren't wearing a floor-length kaftan and cardigan at all times so as not to inadvertently inflame a poor, helpless man passing by who, naturally, would have no choice but to attack the provocative minx as a result.
I never wear shorts of any length, my preference. However, I am intelligent enough not to believe that young women deserve to be raped for doing so and am disturbed that you seem to disagree with me.

I think you have mentioned the R word 7 times, at least, now, my post doesn"t contain that word.

Everlore · 29/06/2026 15:57

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 15:48

So in your opinion the shorts are fine and everyone should be wearing them?

In my opinion I wouldn't be telling girls that they deserved to be raped if they weren't wearing a floor-length kaftan and cardigan at all times so as not to inadvertently inflame a poor, helpless man passing by who, naturally, would have no choice but to attack the provocative minx as a result.
I never wear shorts of any length, my preference. However, I am intelligent enough not to believe that young women deserve to be raped for doing so and am disturbed that you seem to disagree with me.

SummerPunch · 29/06/2026 15:52

Everlore · 29/06/2026 15:44

This comment is absolutely shocking. I am horrified and dismayed to see a commenter on a largely female forum trotting out such blatant, offensive and outdated victim-blaming rhetoric.
Women and girls are not responsible for the criminal and predatory behaviour of men. Implying that a man cannot prevent himself from raping a woman because she is wearing a short skirt is both stunningly ignorant and complete nonsense.
I had thought the dangerous argument that a rape victim was 'asking for it' because of the way she was dressed was largely consigned to the dustbin of history. I had hoped that most intelligent people understood that it has been proved that men still commit rape regardless of how women dress. This is why rape is at least as common in countries where women are legally obliged to cover up completely. This is because rape is about male power and control and not due to the fact these poor boys can't help themselves from attacking a woman because she was flashing too much flesh.
I hope MN remove this disgusting comment swiftly.

I agree. There's something very incel about that comment.

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 15:52

Everlore · 29/06/2026 15:44

This comment is absolutely shocking. I am horrified and dismayed to see a commenter on a largely female forum trotting out such blatant, offensive and outdated victim-blaming rhetoric.
Women and girls are not responsible for the criminal and predatory behaviour of men. Implying that a man cannot prevent himself from raping a woman because she is wearing a short skirt is both stunningly ignorant and complete nonsense.
I had thought the dangerous argument that a rape victim was 'asking for it' because of the way she was dressed was largely consigned to the dustbin of history. I had hoped that most intelligent people understood that it has been proved that men still commit rape regardless of how women dress. This is why rape is at least as common in countries where women are legally obliged to cover up completely. This is because rape is about male power and control and not due to the fact these poor boys can't help themselves from attacking a woman because she was flashing too much flesh.
I hope MN remove this disgusting comment swiftly.

Surely it’s common sense to dress respectfully and have personal responsibility? In theory, anyone could walk around naked and not attract undesirable attention, but we all know real life is not like that. People who dress with their genitalia on show are not ignorant of the effect they will have on some people. Common sense, really!

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 15:48

Everlore · 29/06/2026 15:44

This comment is absolutely shocking. I am horrified and dismayed to see a commenter on a largely female forum trotting out such blatant, offensive and outdated victim-blaming rhetoric.
Women and girls are not responsible for the criminal and predatory behaviour of men. Implying that a man cannot prevent himself from raping a woman because she is wearing a short skirt is both stunningly ignorant and complete nonsense.
I had thought the dangerous argument that a rape victim was 'asking for it' because of the way she was dressed was largely consigned to the dustbin of history. I had hoped that most intelligent people understood that it has been proved that men still commit rape regardless of how women dress. This is why rape is at least as common in countries where women are legally obliged to cover up completely. This is because rape is about male power and control and not due to the fact these poor boys can't help themselves from attacking a woman because she was flashing too much flesh.
I hope MN remove this disgusting comment swiftly.

So in your opinion the shorts are fine and everyone should be wearing them?

MrsJamin · 29/06/2026 15:46

We always call this "hungry bum" as if it's eating the shorts 😂

Everlore · 29/06/2026 15:44

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 14:54

They know young men are not going to approach them, not in the way that used to be normal if maybe too pushy sometimes, many young men totally ignore women now, not sure if that is because they don"t know what sex they are themselves or if the girls are too choosy and think they can snag a footballer because they see themselves as "hot" so ordinary young guys don"t bother, or if it is online social dynamics influencers preaching about "indifference" etc. This all feeds into it, going out in a group dressed like a hip hop video that would have been censored a few years ago just screams - "I"m here, look at me, I have a body, pay attention to me...please!" The danger starts when the less confident girls who are just following the pack end up wandering about drunk after a club, then they are in danger from real predators who might be triggered by the clothing, or see it as an invitation.

This comment is absolutely shocking. I am horrified and dismayed to see a commenter on a largely female forum trotting out such blatant, offensive and outdated victim-blaming rhetoric.
Women and girls are not responsible for the criminal and predatory behaviour of men. Implying that a man cannot prevent himself from raping a woman because she is wearing a short skirt is both stunningly ignorant and complete nonsense.
I had thought the dangerous argument that a rape victim was 'asking for it' because of the way she was dressed was largely consigned to the dustbin of history. I had hoped that most intelligent people understood that it has been proved that men still commit rape regardless of how women dress. This is why rape is at least as common in countries where women are legally obliged to cover up completely. This is because rape is about male power and control and not due to the fact these poor boys can't help themselves from attacking a woman because she was flashing too much flesh.
I hope MN remove this disgusting comment swiftly.

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 15:43

SuitcaseAndSecrets · 29/06/2026 15:41

I wore them in the 70s.. made my own cutting up a pair of old jeans. Frayed the edges.. wore with cheese cloth top that tied at under the bust.. it's nothing new.. oh to be 18 again with the lovely figure l had then.. lovely long legs. Pert bum and boob's that stayed up... unfortunately I'm now 68.. as long as no bits on show.. live and let live.

But was your arse hanging out? Bet it wasn’t!

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 15:43

ThatCyanCat · 29/06/2026 15:36

They absolutely are not, that's something that's come out of your own head and you're blaming and projecting it on them. It's pretty bad taste and unpleasant, but no, there's nothing that suggests to any decent or reasonably intelligent person that they must be actually objects for sale, especially given the age of some of them. Stop it.

You don’t agree that walking along with your cheeks hanging out your teeny shorts is indecent or vulgar? They must be fully aware of the effect they are having. They are not doing it to keep cool.

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