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Bums hanging out of the bottom of teeny tiny shorts

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Noodleschicken · 28/06/2026 20:42

Don’t know if this really AIBU or a question!
AIBU to think that shorts have become way too short ?
I have seen a LOT of girls in shorts today - with their bum cheeks hanging out the bottom ! Personally I wouldn’t let my daughter out like that. And I wouldn’t were them myself (I would give everyone nightmares !).
so what’s the consensus on bums hanging out of shorts ?

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Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 19:45

RebeccaRedhat · 29/06/2026 19:24

My daughters classmates wear them. Some of them are still only 9!

What are their parents thinking!

TheKitchenLady · 29/06/2026 19:45

Gosh I remember the days when my Dad accused me of trying to get out of the house without remembering to put my skirt on - his way of telling me my skirt was about as long as a belt!

Sadly, three children and 4 decades later I have neither the confidence or the size 8 body to dare to wear anything that left so little to the imagination. But if I still had both, I'd be wearing teeny-tiny shorts if I wanted to.

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 19:34

RebeccaRedhat · 29/06/2026 19:24

My daughters classmates wear them. Some of them are still only 9!

Brings to mind the 80"s TV show, Mini Pops, quickly cancelled after complaints but there is a line and beyond that line things just get very odd and creepy.

Jane379 · 29/06/2026 19:26

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 18:52

Bar owners want them on the premises for obvious reasons, they might not admit it but it is good for business, men with tops off are generally looking for a fight so they are obviously discouraged because that is bad for business.

This

RebeccaRedhat · 29/06/2026 19:24

My daughters classmates wear them. Some of them are still only 9!

Jane379 · 29/06/2026 19:24

MrsTerryPratchett · 28/06/2026 20:44

I hate it. But I also think women should wear what they like. But I also think it’s for the male gaze. But I also… what can you do?

I don't think anyone should have their bum like that. There need to be basic dress standards. Men shouldn't be able to wear whatever they want, either. If a gay man wore shorts like that to appeal to men, that would also be unacceptable .

Enidrocks · 29/06/2026 19:22

Really surprised Gloriia hasn’t rocked up all guns blazing to obsessively focus on how appalling the language is used be a few

shuggles · 29/06/2026 19:05

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 19:00

Because they’re young, rebellious, and they know what effect it has, but they don’t care?

But why would a young woman not be bothered by a much older man looking at her in a sexual way? That does not make any sense.

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 19:05

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 19:00

Because they’re young, rebellious, and they know what effect it has, but they don’t care?

As many other posters have said though unless you are the "Daisy Duke" type it isn"t having the desired effect, people are making fun of them on the internet now? It is the lack of reality filter that is the fascinating part really, a bit like a fat bald bloke on the beach with a hankie tied round his head thinking he looks like Jason Statham?

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 19:00

shuggles · 29/06/2026 18:55

If that's your concern, then why do so many teenage girls and young women not share that same concern?

Because they’re young, rebellious, and they know what effect it has, but they don’t care?

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 19:00

shuggles · 29/06/2026 18:55

If that's your concern, then why do so many teenage girls and young women not share that same concern?

Good point, because they obviously don"t give a flying toss about that concern do they?

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 18:57

ThatCyanCat · 29/06/2026 18:54

Yes. I thought it was blimmin' obvious that we were working on the assumption that the man is willing since the complaint was about women liking attention when it comes from men they like as opposed to men they don't. 'Of Course' men don't have to be attracted to or date anyone either but I really didn't think I had to explain that too.

Flaming Nora.

Ok, fair enough.

shuggles · 29/06/2026 18:55

Bringflowersofthefairest · 29/06/2026 09:40

I agree people should wear what they want but within reason.
When I see these young girls walking around with their cheeks hanging out and then the men, young men, old men looking at them knowing exactly what’s going through their minds it makes me feel quite sick. Doesn’t take much imagination.
No way would I want my daughter being thought about like that.

If that's your concern, then why do so many teenage girls and young women not share that same concern?

ThatCyanCat · 29/06/2026 18:54

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 18:48

"Women get to choose which men they want to be attracted to them "

You mean choose who they go out with? If a man isn"t attracted no amount of choosing will change that.

Yes. I thought it was blimmin' obvious that we were working on the assumption that the man is willing since the complaint was about women liking attention when it comes from men they like as opposed to men they don't. 'Of Course' men don't have to be attracted to or date anyone either but I really didn't think I had to explain that too.

Flaming Nora.

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 18:52

likelysuspect · 29/06/2026 18:42

Well I thought it was obvious I was simply referring to notices about what people wear and the appropriateness of that. I wasnt suggesting its like for like and that its about women being topless. Its about there never being any notices about what women wear, yet some women (and now girls) wear very revealing and sexualised items.

Bar owners want them on the premises for obvious reasons, they might not admit it but it is good for business, men with tops off are generally looking for a fight so they are obviously discouraged because that is bad for business.

ThatCyanCat · 29/06/2026 18:51

likelysuspect · 29/06/2026 18:42

Well I thought it was obvious I was simply referring to notices about what people wear and the appropriateness of that. I wasnt suggesting its like for like and that its about women being topless. Its about there never being any notices about what women wear, yet some women (and now girls) wear very revealing and sexualised items.

Not sure I follow. You complain about signs asking men and not women to put shirts on when men and not women go shirtless but you're not suggesting some kind of like for like comparison?

At any rate this hideous trend of naked arses in shops and pubs is pretty new. Hopefully it'll die a swift death (sunburned bums?). If it goes on long enough, shops etc will probably switch to signs saying they have the right to eject anyone who's not dressed appropriately. There are definitely a lot more shirtless men than women with their bums out.

likelysuspect · 29/06/2026 18:49

EmeraldShamrock000 · 29/06/2026 11:51

I have never come across a topless woman who has her breasts out anywhere but the beach.
Shops shouldn’t have to display the sign, it should be crime to walk around topless, including while driving a van.

Im not talking about topless women, simply notices about what people wear

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 18:48

ThatCyanCat · 29/06/2026 17:45

I'm implying that you're a man who's pissed off because women get to choose which men they want to be attracted to them and you don't qualify often enough and you think their right to reject you makes them hypocritical.

Obviously you will furiously deny it and probably claim you're a woman who absolutely hates that women can choose to say yes or no, but I won't believe you. And even if it's true, that won't make it any less of a ridiculous and misogynistic view.

"Women get to choose which men they want to be attracted to them "

You mean choose who they go out with? If a man isn"t attracted no amount of choosing will change that.

ThatCyanCat · 29/06/2026 18:48

cookbookjunkie · 29/06/2026 18:16

Well advanced search can always be your friend here. Just sayin' 🙂

I don't care enough and it won't make any difference to the ridiculous misogyny of complaining about a woman's right to like one man and not another.

likelysuspect · 29/06/2026 18:42

ThatCyanCat · 29/06/2026 11:37

I have personally never ever seen a woman totally topless on the high street or city centre on a hot day (though I have seen the arses out thing that makes Daisy Dukes look like a kimono). I guess once it becomes an issue, shops and pubs will address it.

Well I thought it was obvious I was simply referring to notices about what people wear and the appropriateness of that. I wasnt suggesting its like for like and that its about women being topless. Its about there never being any notices about what women wear, yet some women (and now girls) wear very revealing and sexualised items.

Easterchicken · 29/06/2026 18:38

We have had this issue with guides when we take them for a hike. It really isn't appropriate and one day in the peake district we got a complaint from a member of public and i couldn't help but to agree with them

The girls are representing the guides yet look like they are about to do a shit at a strip club

I blame the parents as we have asked on multiple occasions for shorts to be mid thigh as a shortest length yet they still drop them off looking like street walkers

Everlore · 29/06/2026 18:18

KeepPumping · 29/06/2026 15:58

I think you have mentioned the R word 7 times, at least, now, my post doesn"t contain that word.

Maybe not, but it is crystal clear that that is what you were referring to when accusing 'provocatively' dressed young women of tempting predators at the end of the first post of yours to which I responded, there can be no other reasonable interpretation of your words.
I am unsure why you are being so coy about using the 'r-word', as you bafflingly describe it, and prefer to employ euphemism and obfuscation, but I guess the 'r-word' causes the same amount of pearl-clutching for you as young women being out in public while not being covered from head to toe does!
Since you seem to think that rape victims are at least partially responsible for being attacked you should have the decency to state your regressive and misogynistic views in unequivocal language. At least have the courage of your convictions, even if they are morally reprehensible.

cookbookjunkie · 29/06/2026 18:16

ThatCyanCat · 29/06/2026 17:45

I'm implying that you're a man who's pissed off because women get to choose which men they want to be attracted to them and you don't qualify often enough and you think their right to reject you makes them hypocritical.

Obviously you will furiously deny it and probably claim you're a woman who absolutely hates that women can choose to say yes or no, but I won't believe you. And even if it's true, that won't make it any less of a ridiculous and misogynistic view.

Well advanced search can always be your friend here. Just sayin' 🙂

ThatCyanCat · 29/06/2026 17:45

cookbookjunkie · 29/06/2026 16:29

Do you wonder? Really? Or are you sarcastically trying to imply something about me?

I'm implying that you're a man who's pissed off because women get to choose which men they want to be attracted to them and you don't qualify often enough and you think their right to reject you makes them hypocritical.

Obviously you will furiously deny it and probably claim you're a woman who absolutely hates that women can choose to say yes or no, but I won't believe you. And even if it's true, that won't make it any less of a ridiculous and misogynistic view.

Anarchy99 · 29/06/2026 17:35

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 16:52

I am not calling them objects for sale but to some they will give off that vibe. I don’t get the too young to know any better bit. They cannot be unaware of the effect they are having. If they are too young why on earth are their parents letting them go out like that( unless they change once they have left home) I can’t imagine any responsible parent would do this! You may call it tasteless and inappropriate- I call it indecent and vulgar, and so do many others!

Perhaps someone can explain why people’s clothing offends them so much, there’s a current thread about people daring to have their feet on display.

It seems like an excuse to rip into other women (generally) under the guise of ‘being helpful’. It’s nasty, shallow and reductive.

It is a shame that people have nothing else to think about when they are out and about.

Oh and know that the sort of people on this thread are judging the hell out of every little detail of your appearance