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AIBU to object to neighbour using my garden as their main access?

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Deepblueokay · 28/06/2026 18:51

Fully expecting to be told this is my own fault for not looking into it properly but need a vent all the same!

A year ago I moved into an end of terrace house. There is the usual easement arrangement with the adjoining neighbour that they can get access to their back garden via my back garden. I know that is pretty standard and I was obviously aware of it when I purchased. Since moving in however it's become clear that they use it as their primary entrance. They never use their front door. They have a sign on the front door telling post man/ couriers etc to go round the back. Again, wouldn't necessarily be a big issue except that there seems to CONSTANTLY be someone walking through! It's an older lady living there with her grandson. He is late teens/ early 20s maybe and in and out like a yo-yo, no exaggeration. Ditto her boyfriend, her dog walker, her cleaner, her food shop, couriers (she gets at least two packages a day!) .... The latter particularly pisses me off because they often don't close my gate behind them. I have an OAP dog and 4 children, the youngest of whom is 4. It'd take literal seconds to slip out of the garden without anyone noticing 😠 And frankly, now that its summer time it just feels quite intrusive. Strangers walking in and out while my children are playing. I stupidly feel awkward sitting outside to read a book even though it's my fucking garden!

Is it even a legal thing to say that they are over using their access?!

Should also add that I would probably mind all this less except that at the end of last year the handle of my gate broke. It was the week before Christmas and I didn't have time or money to fix it and it wasn't particularly a priority for me, but I told the neighbour I would sort it after Christmas, quite reasonably I thought. (I have a side door so actually rarely use the gate). Neighbour told me I had to fix it because it is "YOUR gate" and "a public right of way" (it isn't 🤣).Then proceeded to tell all the other neighbours that I was "refusing" to fix it because I didn't use it and that she "couldn't even get her food delivered" and would "rather die than use the front door"... After a week of hassle and harassment I ended up getting a friend's husband to fix it for free and neighbour has since apologised but... I don't know, it just left a sour taste.

Is there anything I can do? Do I just have to wait for her to move/die?? 🙈

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Anonomoso · 01/07/2026 09:49

OP haven't read all the replies so apologies if repeating.

Have you spoken to your local council to see what the chances are of getting a Public path diversion order if you've room at the bottom of your garden?

May be worth a try.

LilOleMe2 · 01/07/2026 09:20

If a right for everyone to access the property isnt given by the deeds, it very likely exists now after 40 years unfettered use .

GlobalTravellerbutespeciallyBognor · 01/07/2026 09:20

PrettyPickle · 01/07/2026 01:11

OK this is the best I can do, and this is just one of many different formats I could illustrate.. Imagine it like this, a row of adjoining terrace houses. The front of each house opens up directly onto a pavement (not always the case) so they cannot keep the bins out front. They have to keep them in the back gardens but there is no back access from the gardens. Lets pretend for instance, a railway line runs down the back of the houses. So Terrace 1 can have a side gate on their back garden so they can bring their bins out. Terrace two cannot because there is no direct access to their back garden (houses both sides and its not reasonable to expect them to drag their bins through the house. So when the houses are built, an easement is created saying that Terrace two has the right to take their bins out (for example through Terrace 1's back garden) but they must stay on a specific path. That path is part of Terrace 1's garden.

The easement exists only because Terrace 2 has no independent way to reach its back garden. So the builder grants a limited right of access across Terrace 1’s land so Terrace 2 can do essential things like take bins out, bring garden waste through, access the rear for maintenance, deal with emergencies. This is quite typical for where I live in the North.

The bog standard easements don't give Terrace 2 the right to treat Terrace 1’s garden as a normal walkway, entrance, or thoroughfare. It also doesn’t give rights to visitors, couriers, tradespeople, dog walkers, cleaners, boyfriends, randoms. Unless the wording explicitly includes “agents, invitees, visitors” (very rare in residential easements), the right normally applies only to the occupiers. But the devil is in the detail and that's why the OP needs to check the exact wording.

Most easements of this type specify in some manner the exact route, the obligation to cause minimal disturbance, the requirement to keep gates shut, the requirement to maintain security, the obligation to act reasonably. They’re often worded like: “A right of access on foot only over the path coloured yellow for the purpose of removing refuse bins and maintaining the rear garden.” That’s the level of restriction you typically see. Not that I am an expert, but I come across this in my career on a regular basis. I hope it helps.

But some people have mentioned it can become prescriptive i.e. roughly speaking (this isn't exactly it) if Terrace 2 has been allowed to use that pathway in an additional manner, say as the main access to their house for residents, visitors and deliveries etc for 20 years then it can become what is called prescriptive and they in effect become entitled to use it that way.

From what the OP has said, I don't think this is applicable here (assuming its England) but we won't know until the land registry is checked.

But I am thinking if the deeds already grant a limited right of access, you cannot then claim a broader right (e.g., “I want to use it as my main entrance”) by prescription. The law says: you can’t prescribe against an express grant.
They already have a right of access. They cannot “grow” it into a right of way or a right to use your garden as their front door.

Their use is not “as of right”, they’ve been told off by previous owners, told off by the OP, apologising, arguing, claiming it’s a “public right of way” (which is nonsense). That is not peaceful, uncontested use. It’s use that has been challenged, which breaks the prescriptive clock.

This is a useful post OP

99bottlesofkombucha · 01/07/2026 05:02

2O26 · 01/07/2026 04:51

I use AI to check grammar. Mostly it just adds a comma and the odd semi-colon but sometimes it changes the formatting too. But it's still is my words.

Edited

Just watch out for that formatting vibe- if you’d unbolded it wouldn’t have hit the ‘this is AI’ button for viewers who see a lot of AI writing . I agree the wording doesn’t feel it, but the formatting strongly does.

2O26 · 01/07/2026 04:51

99bottlesofkombucha · 01/07/2026 04:42

The formatting and especially the bolded bits feels very ChatGPT, the wording not as much.

I use AI to check grammar. Mostly it just adds a comma and the odd semi-colon but sometimes it changes the formatting too. But it's still is my words.

99bottlesofkombucha · 01/07/2026 04:42

PrettyPickle · 01/07/2026 01:38

I don't think that is ChatGPT? Why do people assume that no-one on here knows what they are talking about and need to use ChatGPT. The law of averages has to say that occasionally you will get someone that does the issue in question as their job, so will have the correct spiel for the answers!

@T1Dmama It was very helpful anyway, I learnt a few things there.

The formatting and especially the bolded bits feels very ChatGPT, the wording not as much.

AD1509 · 01/07/2026 04:06

godmum56 · 29/06/2026 18:59

but do you all have to use easements?

Yes

PrettyPickle · 01/07/2026 01:38

AdjectiveColourNoun · 01/07/2026 00:25

If people want ChatGPT answers they generally use ChatGPT rather than Mumsnet @T1Dmama

I don't think that is ChatGPT? Why do people assume that no-one on here knows what they are talking about and need to use ChatGPT. The law of averages has to say that occasionally you will get someone that does the issue in question as their job, so will have the correct spiel for the answers!

@T1Dmama It was very helpful anyway, I learnt a few things there.

PrettyPickle · 01/07/2026 01:11

BraOffPjsOn · 28/06/2026 21:26

I’m still confused - does anyone have an image of how this works?
So do the NDNs have a gate into someone else’s garden and they walk through someone’s garden to get to their gate?

OK this is the best I can do, and this is just one of many different formats I could illustrate.. Imagine it like this, a row of adjoining terrace houses. The front of each house opens up directly onto a pavement (not always the case) so they cannot keep the bins out front. They have to keep them in the back gardens but there is no back access from the gardens. Lets pretend for instance, a railway line runs down the back of the houses. So Terrace 1 can have a side gate on their back garden so they can bring their bins out. Terrace two cannot because there is no direct access to their back garden (houses both sides and its not reasonable to expect them to drag their bins through the house. So when the houses are built, an easement is created saying that Terrace two has the right to take their bins out (for example through Terrace 1's back garden) but they must stay on a specific path. That path is part of Terrace 1's garden.

The easement exists only because Terrace 2 has no independent way to reach its back garden. So the builder grants a limited right of access across Terrace 1’s land so Terrace 2 can do essential things like take bins out, bring garden waste through, access the rear for maintenance, deal with emergencies. This is quite typical for where I live in the North.

The bog standard easements don't give Terrace 2 the right to treat Terrace 1’s garden as a normal walkway, entrance, or thoroughfare. It also doesn’t give rights to visitors, couriers, tradespeople, dog walkers, cleaners, boyfriends, randoms. Unless the wording explicitly includes “agents, invitees, visitors” (very rare in residential easements), the right normally applies only to the occupiers. But the devil is in the detail and that's why the OP needs to check the exact wording.

Most easements of this type specify in some manner the exact route, the obligation to cause minimal disturbance, the requirement to keep gates shut, the requirement to maintain security, the obligation to act reasonably. They’re often worded like: “A right of access on foot only over the path coloured yellow for the purpose of removing refuse bins and maintaining the rear garden.” That’s the level of restriction you typically see. Not that I am an expert, but I come across this in my career on a regular basis. I hope it helps.

But some people have mentioned it can become prescriptive i.e. roughly speaking (this isn't exactly it) if Terrace 2 has been allowed to use that pathway in an additional manner, say as the main access to their house for residents, visitors and deliveries etc for 20 years then it can become what is called prescriptive and they in effect become entitled to use it that way.

From what the OP has said, I don't think this is applicable here (assuming its England) but we won't know until the land registry is checked.

But I am thinking if the deeds already grant a limited right of access, you cannot then claim a broader right (e.g., “I want to use it as my main entrance”) by prescription. The law says: you can’t prescribe against an express grant.
They already have a right of access. They cannot “grow” it into a right of way or a right to use your garden as their front door.

Their use is not “as of right”, they’ve been told off by previous owners, told off by the OP, apologising, arguing, claiming it’s a “public right of way” (which is nonsense). That is not peaceful, uncontested use. It’s use that has been challenged, which breaks the prescriptive clock.

T1Dmama · 01/07/2026 00:35

AdjectiveColourNoun · 01/07/2026 00:25

If people want ChatGPT answers they generally use ChatGPT rather than Mumsnet @T1Dmama

🙄

AdjectiveColourNoun · 01/07/2026 00:25

If people want ChatGPT answers they generally use ChatGPT rather than Mumsnet @T1Dmama

T1Dmama · 01/07/2026 00:25

In England and Wales, if someone has a legal right of way over your land, you must not substantially interfere with that right. A locked gate is not automatically unlawful if:

  • they can still exercise their right of way without unreasonable difficulty;
  • you give them a key (or another reliable means of access, such as a code);
  • the lock is there for a legitimate reason, such as security or preventing your dog or child from getting out.
Courts have accepted in some cases that locked gates can be reasonable where the person with the easement has a key and access isn’t made materially more difficult. In your situation Your reasoning seems sensible:
  • You’re not trying to stop your neighbour using the path.
  • You’re trying to stop any delivery driver, courier or stranger from walking through your garden.
  • You’re addressing a genuine safety concern because the gate is being left open.
A Yale-style lock could achieve that provided your neighbour can still get through whenever they need to. One practical concern is that if your neighbour expects every delivery driver to come to the back door, they’ll either have to:
  • meet the driver at the gate and unlock it, or
  • have deliveries made to the front door instead.
They couldn’t reasonably insist that you leave your gate unlocked simply for the convenience of third-party delivery drivers. Before installing one I’d suggest writing to your neighbour first (or sending a text/email) saying something like: “I’m going to fit a lock to the garden gate because it’s repeatedly being left open, which is a safety risk for my child and dog. I’ll give you a key so you continue to have full access under your right of way. I’d also ask that deliveries are made to your front door unless you choose to meet the driver at the gate.” That shows you’re acting reasonably rather than trying to obstruct their rights. One thing I’d also check is who actually owns the gate itself. From the plan it looks like the path is on your land, but if the gate is your boundary gate, that generally strengthens your position.
T1Dmama · 01/07/2026 00:17

@Deepblueokay

From what you’ve shown, it looks as though:

  • You’re the end terrace (No. 49).
  • The path down the side of your house appears to be within your title (outlined in red).
  • Your neighbour’s rear gate opens onto that path near the back of your house, so they have to walk through your garden area and past your kitchen window to reach the street.
If that’s correct, then their right of way is almost certainly a legal easement over your land. However, having a right of way does not mean they can behave however they like. The gate This is the strongest point you have. If they’re repeatedly leaving your gate open, allowing your dog or child to escape, they’re not exercising the right reasonably. They should close the gate behind them. You are entitled to have a gate on the route, provided it doesn’t prevent them using the right of way. A self-closing hinge or spring is often a sensible solution and wouldn’t usually interfere with their rights. Using the rear as their main entrance Unfortunately, unless the wording limits the right, they may be entitled to use the rear access every day. The fact they choose not to use their front door doesn’t automatically mean they’re exceeding the easement. Deliveries This is more debatable. If they’re asking every takeaway driver, supermarket delivery, courier and postie to come through your garden several times a day, you could argue that this is an excessive use of the easement. Rights of way normally extend to visitors and people coming to the property, but if the level of use has increased significantly compared with what was originally intended (for example, because of constant online shopping or food deliveries), there can be arguments about whether the use has become unreasonable. These cases are very fact-specific. What I’d do I would first have a calm but firm conversation and say something like: “I’m not disputing your right of access, but I need you to close the gate every single time. My child and my dog can get out if it’s left open. I’d also appreciate it if delivery drivers could use your front door where possible, as they’re constantly coming through my garden.” If that doesn’t work:
  1. Fit a self-closing gate.
  2. Keep a written record (and, if you have one, CCTV footage) of occasions when the gate is left open.
  3. Ask your conveyancing solicitor to obtain the 1989 transfer deed referred to in your paperwork. That document may contain restrictions on the right of way that aren’t shown in the extract you’ve posted.
PrettyPickle · 30/06/2026 23:38

CotswoldIdyll · 30/06/2026 23:16

You clearly don’t know what you’re talking about and shouldn’t comment as though you do. The easement is for the benefit of the property, and the owner can invite whoever she chooses to come to her property via the right of way unless the deeds say otherwise. There is no such thing as excessive use of a right of way.

You’re making very confident statements without seeing the actual wording of the easement. Nobody - including me, you, or the OP - can say what the neighbour is entitled to until the deeds are checked.

Some easements do allow access for invitees. Some easements restrict access to the occupiers only. Some specify “on foot only”. Some specify “for the purpose of reaching the garden”. Some include maintenance obligations. Some explicitly exclude third parties. It all depends on the exact wording.

And while “excessive use” isn’t a legal term, “reasonable use” absolutely is. Even a broad easement has to be exercised reasonably, forcing gates, propping them open, and directing couriers through someone’s private garden all day may or may not fall within that, depending on the wording.

So until the OP has the deeds in front of her, nobody can state the legal position with certainty. The next step is simply to get the documents and see what the easement actually says.

T1Dmama · 30/06/2026 23:37

@Deepblueokay

The key question is what the legal right of way actually allows. A right of way is usually for reasonable access, not necessarily unlimited use or use in whatever manner is most convenient.
Based on what you’ve described:

  • If the deeds give your neighbour a right of way to access their rear garden, they are generally entitled to use it regularly.
  • There is usually nothing in law that says they must use their front door instead. So using the rear as their main entrance isn’t automatically an abuse of the easement.
  • However, they should exercise the right reasonably and without causing unnecessary inconvenience.
The gate is a separate issue If they’re repeatedly leaving your gate open so your child or dog could get out, that’s something you can address. You could:
  • Speak to them and explain the safety risk.
  • Put a self-closing gate hinge or spring on the gate (provided it doesn’t obstruct their right of way).
  • Install a latch that automatically catches when the gate closes.
  • Consider a polite sign on the inside saying, “Please ensure the gate is closed - child and dog.”
Deliveries Having post, parcels and takeaway deliveries brought through your garden is a bit different. If the right of way is simply for access, it’s arguable that:
  • the neighbour can accompany delivery drivers along the path,
  • but repeatedly directing third-party delivery drivers through your garden may go beyond what was originally intended, depending on the wording of the easement.
Unfortunately, courts often interpret rights of way broadly if it’s simply people accessing the property. What I’d suggest First, get hold of the full wording of the easement (or the 1989 transfer referred to in your document). It may say something like:
  • “on foot only,”
  • “for access to the rear garden,”
  • “with or without vehicles,”
  • or who is permitted to use it (owners, occupiers, visitors, etc.).
The exact wording matters a lot.
T1Dmama · 30/06/2026 23:28

Deepblueokay · 28/06/2026 20:35

This is all I can really find.

From the wording in your image, this is describing rights (easements) that affect your property. In plain English:
“Rights over the Property (Which other people will have over your new property).”
This means your neighbours have certain legal rights over parts of your land.
The two points mean:

  1. “A reciprocal right to those noted above.”
  2. Earlier in the document (the part not shown) it probably lists rights you have over your neighbours’ land (for example, to access a shared path or services).
  3. “Reciprocal” means they have the same rights over your land where appropriate.
  4. “You will give a right of way over the land coloured green on the plan dated 1989 subject to their contributing towards the maintenance and repair of the same.”
  5. If a section of your land (shown in green on an attached plan) forms a path, driveway or access route, your neighbours have a legal right to pass over it.
  6. They can’t necessarily park there or use it for anything they like—just for the purpose of access, unless the deed says otherwise.
  7. They are expected to contribute towards the cost of maintaining and repairing that shared access.
What this means for an end-of-terrace house This is quite common. It often means:
  • The side path alongside your house may be shared so neighbours can reach their rear gardens.
  • If there’s a shared driveway, neighbours may have the right to drive or walk across it.
  • You generally can’t block the access with gates (unless they can still use them) or permanently park in a way that prevents them using their right of way.
  • Maintenance costs for the shared access are normally shared between those who benefit from it.
To know exactly what it means The key document is the 1989 plan referred to in the wording. That plan will show:
  • exactly which strip of land is coloured green,
  • who benefits from the right of way,
  • and whether it’s pedestrian access only or includes vehicles.
If you have the title plan or the page before this one (showing the rights “noted above”), upload it and I can explain exactly how the easement affects your end-of-terrace property. @Deepblueokay
IckyIck · 30/06/2026 23:24

@CotswoldIdyll , you are twisting the pp's words to suit your own agenda.
The neighbour can authorise people to access the rear of the property via the easement but it isn't a "public right of way", which is what the NDN is saying it is.

@Deepblueokay , the wording on my deeds say specifically 'access to the rear of the property' and maybe that could be in your favour. Deliveries of most things could be accepted via the front door.

CotswoldIdyll · 30/06/2026 23:16

PrettyPickle · 30/06/2026 22:56

@Deepblueokay The key thing here is that an easement gives your neighbour access, but it doesn’t give her the right to turn your garden into her main entrance or a delivery hub.

What’s reasonable is her walking through when she needs to reach her garden. What’s not reasonable is couriers, cleaners, dog walkers, boyfriends and randoms traipsing through all day because she’s decided she “doesn’t use her front door”.

Whether you can challenge it depends entirely on what your deeds say. Most easements only cover access for the occupiers, not third parties. If yours is like that, you’re within your rights to tell her that deliveries and trades need to use her front door.

Even if the easement is broad, she still has to use it in a reasonable way. Forcing your gate, propping it open, and refusing to close it behind her isn’t reasonable. You’re entitled to a secure garden, especially with young kids and a dog.

The next step is simply getting hold of the deeds and seeing exactly what the wording is. Once you know that, you can set boundaries based on facts rather than her “public right of way” nonsense.

You’re not trying to stop her accessing her garden. You’re trying to stop her treating your garden as an extension of her house, which is fair enough

You clearly don’t know what you’re talking about and shouldn’t comment as though you do. The easement is for the benefit of the property, and the owner can invite whoever she chooses to come to her property via the right of way unless the deeds say otherwise. There is no such thing as excessive use of a right of way.

T1Dmama · 30/06/2026 23:16

Deepblueokay · 28/06/2026 21:25

Yeah, same. I know I didn't look into it properly because I was just so desperate to get away from my ex by the end. It just never occurred to me that anyone would use it like this 😩

SYour deeds say that they have a right to access.. the green shaded area?
it also says they have to contribute to maintenance of that area.

so on the deeds which area is shaded?

needicecreams · 30/06/2026 23:03

I really hope there is a solution for this it’s terrible what she is doing/ has done. I am with the poster that said get a lock that is a pain to deal with- maybe something that is stuck on the gate that comes with a guarantee (in case she breaks it)

I hope there is a nice surprise in some of the deeds where you are able to just shut her out or something.

HollyHolly123 · 30/06/2026 22:57

I actually think we have a right of passage for the person who lives at the end of our garden as it were. Ie their property backs onto ours but their actual house is behind our bottom fence. I understood it’s only if they need to repair their roof or something. Thankfully in the 20 years we’ve been here it’s been used once.

PrettyPickle · 30/06/2026 22:56

@Deepblueokay The key thing here is that an easement gives your neighbour access, but it doesn’t give her the right to turn your garden into her main entrance or a delivery hub.

What’s reasonable is her walking through when she needs to reach her garden. What’s not reasonable is couriers, cleaners, dog walkers, boyfriends and randoms traipsing through all day because she’s decided she “doesn’t use her front door”.

Whether you can challenge it depends entirely on what your deeds say. Most easements only cover access for the occupiers, not third parties. If yours is like that, you’re within your rights to tell her that deliveries and trades need to use her front door.

Even if the easement is broad, she still has to use it in a reasonable way. Forcing your gate, propping it open, and refusing to close it behind her isn’t reasonable. You’re entitled to a secure garden, especially with young kids and a dog.

The next step is simply getting hold of the deeds and seeing exactly what the wording is. Once you know that, you can set boundaries based on facts rather than her “public right of way” nonsense.

You’re not trying to stop her accessing her garden. You’re trying to stop her treating your garden as an extension of her house, which is fair enough

IckyIck · 30/06/2026 22:55

@saraclara , OP's circumstances were not the same as your daughter's. OP admits she made an oversight.

Your post is patronising, mean, and not helpful in any way.

saraclara · 30/06/2026 22:52

Deepblueokay · 30/06/2026 22:22

I have said and better said already - yes, I hold my hands up. This is on me. I didn't do my due diligence. For reasons really outside of my control. But respectfully, how could I have known that the neighbour was using the easement in this way prior to moving in? It's far from the norm, as evidenced by the responses to this thread! I know my dog and children are my responsibility, of course I bloody know that. I just can't understand how her right to access supercedes the security of my property. But yes, apparently it does.

Your last sentence demonstrates just how ignorant you are of very established law. Easements and rights of way have been around for hundreds of years. Yet you are clearly completely bemused by the concept.

My daughter's very similar easement was pointed out to her by the estate agent, at which point she researched it, searched the deeds, and questioned the conveyancer (and the owner) about it before proceeding. I'm really surprised that your sale proceeded without someone pointing it all out to you.

HollyHolly123 · 30/06/2026 22:50

I’d check the house security point with a solicitor tbh. It seems incredible that you have to leave your garden open to basically the world ALL the time. Take no notice of people sating she shouldn’t have bought it. You dud what was best at that moment in time

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