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AIBU to object to neighbour using my garden as their main access?

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Deepblueokay · 28/06/2026 18:51

Fully expecting to be told this is my own fault for not looking into it properly but need a vent all the same!

A year ago I moved into an end of terrace house. There is the usual easement arrangement with the adjoining neighbour that they can get access to their back garden via my back garden. I know that is pretty standard and I was obviously aware of it when I purchased. Since moving in however it's become clear that they use it as their primary entrance. They never use their front door. They have a sign on the front door telling post man/ couriers etc to go round the back. Again, wouldn't necessarily be a big issue except that there seems to CONSTANTLY be someone walking through! It's an older lady living there with her grandson. He is late teens/ early 20s maybe and in and out like a yo-yo, no exaggeration. Ditto her boyfriend, her dog walker, her cleaner, her food shop, couriers (she gets at least two packages a day!) .... The latter particularly pisses me off because they often don't close my gate behind them. I have an OAP dog and 4 children, the youngest of whom is 4. It'd take literal seconds to slip out of the garden without anyone noticing 😠 And frankly, now that its summer time it just feels quite intrusive. Strangers walking in and out while my children are playing. I stupidly feel awkward sitting outside to read a book even though it's my fucking garden!

Is it even a legal thing to say that they are over using their access?!

Should also add that I would probably mind all this less except that at the end of last year the handle of my gate broke. It was the week before Christmas and I didn't have time or money to fix it and it wasn't particularly a priority for me, but I told the neighbour I would sort it after Christmas, quite reasonably I thought. (I have a side door so actually rarely use the gate). Neighbour told me I had to fix it because it is "YOUR gate" and "a public right of way" (it isn't 🤣).Then proceeded to tell all the other neighbours that I was "refusing" to fix it because I didn't use it and that she "couldn't even get her food delivered" and would "rather die than use the front door"... After a week of hassle and harassment I ended up getting a friend's husband to fix it for free and neighbour has since apologised but... I don't know, it just left a sour taste.

Is there anything I can do? Do I just have to wait for her to move/die?? 🙈

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notanotherfootballmatch · 28/06/2026 21:51

AffableApple · 28/06/2026 20:12

So this is really clever. Obviously all needs checking out both legally and insurance-wise. But really clever.

Quite often easements grant a right of way over a specific path shown on a plan for the owner of the house and anyone else authorised by them, servants or workmen are often given as an example. So it's quite possible they are acting entirely within the terms of the deed.

You definitely need to find out exactly what it says.

Oldieandgoldie · 28/06/2026 21:50

I don’t know what they’re called, but I think you can get a special security padlock with two keys - one for you and a spare, for your neighbour. And that’s it. She would be unable to get a spare key cut without your permission, and it would be at a cost of £££. And no one else could copy that key either, without your permission. And you would be notified if someone tried. Try a local security company/proper locksmith.

Or a code lock and just give her the code on bin day?

Thechaseison71 · 28/06/2026 21:49

BraOffPjsOn · 28/06/2026 21:48

Thanks for this! It’s completely new to me.
So this would be obvious if there was an easement as there would be a gate in the garden?

something else for me to worry about with moving 😂

There's a gate between mine and neighbours garden

budlea64 · 28/06/2026 21:48

I live in an end block of 4 terrace with huge gardens. Two of the neighbours have right of access. These were built when everyone had a coal fire and it was mainly for the coal man. However, the deeds say pedestrian access only. That's it. It doesn't specify the householders only.
I'm lucky that the neighbour next door but one never ever uses it and the neighbour next door rarely, only maybe walking round the front with the lawnmower.
I think your neighbour is being very selfish and entitled though but if there's no specification in anyone's deeds then there's little you can do I don't think.
As some have said, can you fence off a pathway with 6' fencing for them to walk through?

BraOffPjsOn · 28/06/2026 21:48

Thechaseison71 · 28/06/2026 21:30

Ok at my place to get access to back door from outside you walk round, through neighbours garden and into mine to get to the door. Rarely use it but did so more when kids had bikes there so they could go in the shed in garden

Thanks for this! It’s completely new to me.
So this would be obvious if there was an easement as there would be a gate in the garden?

something else for me to worry about with moving 😂

hunnybunnyboo · 28/06/2026 21:47

Some friends of ours fell in love with this house but decided against putting in an offer due to this exact situation.
It was in the agents notes on the listing and they tried persuading themselves it would be a once a week thing for bins, but realised it could be a daily thing with difficult neighbours.
I personally would want a private garden for the price of the house!
www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/88376772#/?channel=RES_BUY

Wowwhataworld · 28/06/2026 21:47

I was under the impression this kind of access was purely for bins/gardener/window cleaner or for safety eg in case of a fire and exiting via the back. I honestly could not stand someone constantly walking through my back garden. As others have said I would seek legal advice, speak to your home insurance and as suggested a lock with key provided. She will probably hate the hassle of the locked gate. Also point out that they are jointly responsible for maintenance of this area.

MyDeftDuck · 28/06/2026 21:46

Have you considered getting a return spring fitted to the gate so it closes as soon as they’ve walked through? Just a thought…….if it’s shared access I’m afraid you’ll have to tolerate the foot traffic

Thechaseison71 · 28/06/2026 21:44

TreesinthePark · 28/06/2026 21:37

So if its a long row say 9 houses could someone have 4 neighbours who walk through, next house has 3 neighbours entering etc?

Could you need access via a neighbour and also have to grant access to next house along? Genuine question here and hope doesn't sound too daft or ignorant. Thank you

Not sure. Mines a semi detached house divided into 2 flats

TreesinthePark · 28/06/2026 21:43

IckyIck · 28/06/2026 21:41

@TreesinthePark , mine allows access to all the houses in the block apart from the end ones.

Thank you 🙂

DancingLions · 28/06/2026 21:43

I'm in a London terrace (victorian conversion) and myself and most of my neighbours can only access our back gardens from our house. So additional access isn't something that's strictly necessary. Lots of us manage this way.

Although I am very careful when I BBQ! As the fire service would have a heck of a job getting to my garden (I'm also not on the ground floor).

However I did once live in an end terrace and the neighbour had right of way through my garden. It was an absolute nightmare and I swore never again. Apparently the people who lived there after me were hoping to put an extension on the back. I thought yeah good luck with that, I wasnt even allowed a patio table out there!

IckyIck · 28/06/2026 21:41

@TreesinthePark , mine allows access to all the houses in the block apart from the end ones.

Periperi2025 · 28/06/2026 21:40

Lock the gate with the longest code combination lock you can find and give her the code, then update the code every month (week) for 'security purposes'.

She'll soon use her front door then.

ChillWith · 28/06/2026 21:38

They are usually only for fire escape purposes so definitely check deeds and speak to citizens advice if not clear

TreesinthePark · 28/06/2026 21:37

Thechaseison71 · 28/06/2026 21:30

Ok at my place to get access to back door from outside you walk round, through neighbours garden and into mine to get to the door. Rarely use it but did so more when kids had bikes there so they could go in the shed in garden

So if its a long row say 9 houses could someone have 4 neighbours who walk through, next house has 3 neighbours entering etc?

Could you need access via a neighbour and also have to grant access to next house along? Genuine question here and hope doesn't sound too daft or ignorant. Thank you

ichifanny · 28/06/2026 21:35

You could do a lock that can be opened from the garden side so she can take bins out etc but not so people can enter from other side

Thechaseison71 · 28/06/2026 21:30

BraOffPjsOn · 28/06/2026 21:26

I’m still confused - does anyone have an image of how this works?
So do the NDNs have a gate into someone else’s garden and they walk through someone’s garden to get to their gate?

Ok at my place to get access to back door from outside you walk round, through neighbours garden and into mine to get to the door. Rarely use it but did so more when kids had bikes there so they could go in the shed in garden

myusernamewastakenbyme · 28/06/2026 21:30

Im in a mid terrace and have the same thing...but in 5 years ive only used my neighbours garden gate once to access mine after i locked myself out...this woman should not be using your garden like this...i would be locking the gate and taking legal advice.

Plinketyplonks · 28/06/2026 21:29

We have a similar arrangement but our neighbour only ever comes through our garden if she needs to show a workman/gardener her garden . She goes through her own front door for everything else!

Ineffable23 · 28/06/2026 21:28

I think I would get a lock for the gate and give her a key. I reckon it needs to be a keyed lock, preferably self locking, so she can't just give the code out willy-nilly. I'd be tempted to go for multiple gates/locks if it was feasible.

I have similar access rights across the back of mine but thankfully the neighbours only use it occasionally. It was a risk I knew I was taking when I moved in, but it was the only way I could afford a house rather than a flat so I felt it was worth the risk.

BraOffPjsOn · 28/06/2026 21:26

I’m still confused - does anyone have an image of how this works?
So do the NDNs have a gate into someone else’s garden and they walk through someone’s garden to get to their gate?

Deepblueokay · 28/06/2026 21:25

Londonrach1 · 28/06/2026 21:21

Check your deeds. If they have a right there's nothing you can do and it be illegal to lock the gate etc. my friend had similar situation and didn't realize as she will hold her hands on this but didn't read the legal bits... anyway she resold as legally nothing could be done.

Yeah, same. I know I didn't look into it properly because I was just so desperate to get away from my ex by the end. It just never occurred to me that anyone would use it like this 😩

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Londonrach1 · 28/06/2026 21:21

Check your deeds. If they have a right there's nothing you can do and it be illegal to lock the gate etc. my friend had similar situation and didn't realize as she will hold her hands on this but didn't read the legal bits... anyway she resold as legally nothing could be done.

YourGiddyGreyHelper · 28/06/2026 21:21

Arlanymor · 28/06/2026 19:12

Check your deeds, most easements only apply to the dominant tenement ( the people who live there) and not third parties - i.e. delivery drivers. You say it's been a year - have you not spoken to her seriously in all this time about your right to privacy?

Not true. The "dominant tenement" means the property itself, not the people occupying the property. The neighbours rights of access will depend entirely on the precise words used in the relevant title document (assuming this is England or Wales).

TreesinthePark · 28/06/2026 21:20

saraclara · 28/06/2026 20:19

You've lived a sheltered life. Have you never seen terraced houses with front doors that open straight to the pavement? How do you think people access their back doors?

All the ones I've seen have always had an alley at the back with individual gates. I lived in one for years and wouldn't have imagined similar houses without an alley.

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