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AIBU to think neighbours should not be naked in their garden?

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babypickles · 25/06/2026 20:06

For context: Our house is on a new build estate and the houses are pretty close together. It’s fairly easy to see into neighbours gardens because the trees etc are not well established yet.

AIBU to say my neighbours shouldn’t be naked in their garden. They are often out in the garden totally naked taking photos of themselves. They have parties quite often and it’s not uncommon for them and friends to be out in the garden naked / using the hot tub etc.

Am I being a killjoy ? Seems excessive to me.

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ruethewhirl · 04/08/2026 10:06

Lilypad789 · 04/08/2026 08:47

Wouldn’t bother me even if my young kids saw it. Yes it’s unusual but it’s literally a body that we all have.

Might bother your kids though, had you thought of that?

JMSA · 04/08/2026 09:07

YANBU. Weirdos!

Sartre · 04/08/2026 09:05

I’m a prude so would hate it. Have zero desire to see my NDN’s naked and I’m sure vice versa. I can’t fathom why anyone would want to do this either. If you live in a detached in the middle of nowhere then feel free otherwise keep it to yourself.

Lilypad789 · 04/08/2026 08:47

Wouldn’t bother me even if my young kids saw it. Yes it’s unusual but it’s literally a body that we all have.

apurplebadger · 04/08/2026 08:40

Beachlover1993 · 03/08/2026 23:52

Tbh ive done the same, please dont be offended its nothing agsinst you its just some people feel totalky relaxed naked especially outdoors on a sunny day.
It seems to be a British thing as no one cares when abroad

Wish I had this confidence, I can’t even just go in the garden in my underwear to put some washing on the line

twinklystar23 · 04/08/2026 02:13

AnonymityAnonymity · 25/06/2026 20:36

Another thread where posters on MN seem to inhabit a different world to the real one. It beggars belief that so many seem to think OP should be blasé about her neighbours cavirting about with theur friends naked in the garden.

Personally OP I"d be reporting them to the police and the police can decide whether they are actually committing a criminal offence. Or at least have words with them about consideration for others

I'd be very careful with this advice as I had a client who reported this, she was advised by the police that the neighbour was complete at liberty to sunbathe naked and my client reporting as such could potentially charged with harassment.

Beachlover1993 · 03/08/2026 23:52

babypickles · 25/06/2026 20:06

For context: Our house is on a new build estate and the houses are pretty close together. It’s fairly easy to see into neighbours gardens because the trees etc are not well established yet.

AIBU to say my neighbours shouldn’t be naked in their garden. They are often out in the garden totally naked taking photos of themselves. They have parties quite often and it’s not uncommon for them and friends to be out in the garden naked / using the hot tub etc.

Am I being a killjoy ? Seems excessive to me.

Tbh ive done the same, please dont be offended its nothing agsinst you its just some people feel totalky relaxed naked especially outdoors on a sunny day.
It seems to be a British thing as no one cares when abroad

DoraSpenlow · 13/07/2026 14:51

Many years ago when we moved into our current home, our neighbour came round to introduce themselves and say welcome. She also wanted us to know that her and husband were naturists and when the weather suited would spend a lot of time in their garden naked. She said that we were always welcome to call round but to be aware that if we went round the back unannounced we may catch them with no clothes on. They weren't bothered for themselves but just to let us know.

Anyway, the road consisted of bungalows, they had high fences/hedging around their garden and we never saw so much as a naked shoulder let alone anything else.

Fast forward to three years ago, a family moved into the bungalow the other side of them and proceeded to get planning permission to make it into a two storey building. Naturist neighbours explained the situation when commenting on the planning application and suggested Velux windows. House duly built (normal windows) and neighbours started to complain about the naturists because they had children whose bedrooms overlooked the garden. Naturists refused to change their ways and new neighbours said it was causing them distress. Eventually new neighbours sued the long time neighbours. Sadly, before it came to court the husband died and the widow moved away.

For the purposes of this thread it would have been interesting to see what the outcome of the court case would have been.

Tableforjoan · 13/07/2026 14:30

babypickles · 13/07/2026 07:05

Ive put my house up for sale. Tbh it’s unrelated to the nudity. I just don’t like feeling boxed in on this estate.

Now. Would I be unreasonable to ask the neighbours to ensure they have clothes on if I had a house viewing? Pa ha

Ask them if any of their friends would be interested lol

reprohensiletail · 13/07/2026 14:05

Gross! I'd hate having to see my neighbours and their friends in the nude, whether they were sitting around or playing outdoor party games. Aside from anything else, most people look awful without their clothes on. 🤢

Good luck getting your house sold, OP!

Myli1 · 13/07/2026 13:26

chtewalk · 13/07/2026 10:08

Can you link your sources for those quotes please? I haven't clicked on any of your previous links - are they in there?

Are these recent addendums?

Yes but I’ll include the link again. There was a revised version in 2024 with slight variations of wording but nothing substantially changed.

library.college.police.uk/docs/college-of-policing/C849IO118-public-nudity-aid-revised.pdf

chtewalk · 13/07/2026 10:08

Myli1 · 13/07/2026 06:17

In the case of the NDNs I think the behaviour there would constitute disorderly conduct, and therefore could be grounds for legal action if no amicable compromise could be found.
In relation to simply being visible or overlooked however, it is not sufficient to say “most people are likely to find it harassing, alarming or distressing” to merit legal intervention, as the law specifically includes the addendum:

“An act of public nudity is unlikely to
constitute this offence unless members of the public
were caused actual harassment, alarm or distress
(as opposed to considering the likelihood of this
happening or the complainant personally finding
nudity distasteful or offensive).”

So there would need to be some intention on the part of the naturist to cause upset in order to meet the threshold for that offence. Simply going about your normal business, e.g. sunbathing naked in the garden for example, in the absence of any other factors would not attract any police interest.

“In the lawful situation where there is an absence of any
sexual context in relation to nudity and where the person
does not intend the behaviour to be, and is not aware
that it may be disorderly, it will not be appropriate to take
any police action.”

It is difficult to assess how the courts would view the situation as there have been so few prosecutions, and none successfully for the practice of naturism in itself. Most cases of course don’t get as far as the courts, as they wouldn’t meet the criteria of being in the public interest or have the likelihood of securing any conviction.

Can you link your sources for those quotes please? I haven't clicked on any of your previous links - are they in there?

Are these recent addendums?

Myli1 · 13/07/2026 08:05

hahabahbag · 13/07/2026 07:23

The law is fairly straightforward, it is legal to be naked in your garden but you should not be causing alarm or stress to others. The guidance is that fences or hedges should be sufficiently high that your neighbours shouldn’t be able to see in from their garden. Sexual activity is different and that has a higher threshold so that wouldn’t be allowed if your garden can be viewed from any point externally eg from neighbours upper window.

I think moving is the best option op, they don’t sound like the best neighbours

There is no guidance in law that mandates fences or hedges to be sufficiently high that your neighbours are not able to see in from their garden. However it would of course make absolutely sense for both sides to do so wherever possible.

hahabahbag · 13/07/2026 07:23

The law is fairly straightforward, it is legal to be naked in your garden but you should not be causing alarm or stress to others. The guidance is that fences or hedges should be sufficiently high that your neighbours shouldn’t be able to see in from their garden. Sexual activity is different and that has a higher threshold so that wouldn’t be allowed if your garden can be viewed from any point externally eg from neighbours upper window.

I think moving is the best option op, they don’t sound like the best neighbours

babypickles · 13/07/2026 07:05

Ive put my house up for sale. Tbh it’s unrelated to the nudity. I just don’t like feeling boxed in on this estate.

Now. Would I be unreasonable to ask the neighbours to ensure they have clothes on if I had a house viewing? Pa ha

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Myli1 · 13/07/2026 06:17

chtewalk · 12/07/2026 22:17

if they commit sexual offences or
use disorderly behaviour that they intend to or are aware
may be disorderly within the hearing or sight of a person
likely to be caused harassment, alarm or distress

This exclusion is likely to include what the NDNs here are doing, isn't it? It is likely to include someone being naked in their garden where neighbours overlook or the public can easily see in, as most people are likely to find it harassing, alarming or distressing (no I don't have empirical evidence for the statement about "most people" just basing it on experience). I am not arguing the legal point as it will depend on the circumstances, but you are basically confirming here that what the NDNs are doing is likely to fall under the exclusion as the OP has said that most of the neighbours are not happy about it, is that right? Just as an adult naked on a beach where there are lots of kids or on the tube or in Tescos is likely to cause alarm and distress.

Generally it will be up to the courts to decide, in each case, but best to stay properly private I would have thought - what do you think?

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In the case of the NDNs I think the behaviour there would constitute disorderly conduct, and therefore could be grounds for legal action if no amicable compromise could be found.
In relation to simply being visible or overlooked however, it is not sufficient to say “most people are likely to find it harassing, alarming or distressing” to merit legal intervention, as the law specifically includes the addendum:

“An act of public nudity is unlikely to
constitute this offence unless members of the public
were caused actual harassment, alarm or distress
(as opposed to considering the likelihood of this
happening or the complainant personally finding
nudity distasteful or offensive).”

So there would need to be some intention on the part of the naturist to cause upset in order to meet the threshold for that offence. Simply going about your normal business, e.g. sunbathing naked in the garden for example, in the absence of any other factors would not attract any police interest.

“In the lawful situation where there is an absence of any
sexual context in relation to nudity and where the person
does not intend the behaviour to be, and is not aware
that it may be disorderly, it will not be appropriate to take
any police action.”

It is difficult to assess how the courts would view the situation as there have been so few prosecutions, and none successfully for the practice of naturism in itself. Most cases of course don’t get as far as the courts, as they wouldn’t meet the criteria of being in the public interest or have the likelihood of securing any conviction.

chtewalk · 12/07/2026 22:17

Myli1 · 12/07/2026 18:19

You seem to have missed the point that what is covered by the College of Policing document literally is enshrined in law. It’s what the CPS use when assessing cases. Incidentally no-one has successfully been prosecuted for the act of naturism alone, there have always been other aggravating factors in any convictions.

if they commit sexual offences or
use disorderly behaviour that they intend to or are aware
may be disorderly within the hearing or sight of a person
likely to be caused harassment, alarm or distress

This exclusion is likely to include what the NDNs here are doing, isn't it? It is likely to include someone being naked in their garden where neighbours overlook or the public can easily see in, as most people are likely to find it harassing, alarming or distressing (no I don't have empirical evidence for the statement about "most people" just basing it on experience). I am not arguing the legal point as it will depend on the circumstances, but you are basically confirming here that what the NDNs are doing is likely to fall under the exclusion as the OP has said that most of the neighbours are not happy about it, is that right? Just as an adult naked on a beach where there are lots of kids or on the tube or in Tescos is likely to cause alarm and distress.

Generally it will be up to the courts to decide, in each case, but best to stay properly private I would have thought - what do you think?

Myli1 · 12/07/2026 18:19

eastegg · 12/07/2026 17:36

You’re right to point out that we do in a way have a list of rights now that we have the HRA. But a right to be naked in your own garden is not enshrined in law. We all have a right to freedom of expression, true. That derives from the HRA, not from anywhere it is discussed or alluded to such as the College of Policing document.

Funnily enough my first jury trial was on a number of charges of Exposure under what was then the new legislation over 20 years ago! So I don’t need to keep being told what the College of Policing document says about it.

You seem to have missed the point that what is covered by the College of Policing document literally is enshrined in law. It’s what the CPS use when assessing cases. Incidentally no-one has successfully been prosecuted for the act of naturism alone, there have always been other aggravating factors in any convictions.

eastegg · 12/07/2026 17:36

Replying to @Myli1 there.

eastegg · 12/07/2026 17:36

You’re right to point out that we do in a way have a list of rights now that we have the HRA. But a right to be naked in your own garden is not enshrined in law. We all have a right to freedom of expression, true. That derives from the HRA, not from anywhere it is discussed or alluded to such as the College of Policing document.

Funnily enough my first jury trial was on a number of charges of Exposure under what was then the new legislation over 20 years ago! So I don’t need to keep being told what the College of Policing document says about it.

Myli1 · 12/07/2026 16:56

eastegg · 12/07/2026 14:32

Exactly. I posted something similar up thread, and despite emphasising the word ‘potentially’ when I said that being naked on your own property could potentially be illegal, lo and behold that word got ignored and I got the predictable scoffing response about how the police wouldn’t be interested in these neighbours.

Anyone who talks about one right trumping another sets my teeth on edge tbh. @Myli1 neither right you refer to exists, so it’s not possible for one to trump the other. Our legal system is based essentially on a list of things you can’t do, and we do not have a list of things you have a right to like America. As has already been pointed out not just by @chtewalk , being naked on your own property can be illegal, there is absolutely no right to it.

That isn’t strictly true, see below. Also by your own argument, logically anything that isn’t legally prohibited must be legally permitted? Please see my previous comments including the College of Policing document which does in fact cover the rights of naturists.

“Naturists have a right to freedom of expression which only
engages criminal law if they commit sexual offences or
use disorderly behaviour that they intend to or are aware
may be disorderly within the hearing or sight of a person
likely to be caused harassment, alarm or distress.”

“At the time that the Sexual Offences Act 2003 was
debated in Parliament, care was taken to word the
legislation in a way specifically intended to avoid it
impinging on the rights and activities of naturists.”

eastegg · 12/07/2026 14:32

chtewalk · 11/07/2026 21:11

You don't necessarily have rights to be naked in your garden. Nakedness even on private property is not always legal.

Exactly. I posted something similar up thread, and despite emphasising the word ‘potentially’ when I said that being naked on your own property could potentially be illegal, lo and behold that word got ignored and I got the predictable scoffing response about how the police wouldn’t be interested in these neighbours.

Anyone who talks about one right trumping another sets my teeth on edge tbh. @Myli1 neither right you refer to exists, so it’s not possible for one to trump the other. Our legal system is based essentially on a list of things you can’t do, and we do not have a list of things you have a right to like America. As has already been pointed out not just by @chtewalk , being naked on your own property can be illegal, there is absolutely no right to it.

ruethewhirl · 12/07/2026 12:36

chtewalk · 12/07/2026 10:41

If OP said to her NDNs that she was concerned about her son and asked them to put up a privacy screen above or by the side so that he couldn't see what was going on, and they ignored this, and she asked them not to have naked parties with naked butlers etc, and they ignored that, would you think that this might not be naturism but in fact something sexual which could cause offence?

I am not sure if you have already answered that, I haven't read all posts.

Agree it'd be very telling how the NDNs would respond to a request like this!

chtewalk · 12/07/2026 10:41

Myli1 · 11/07/2026 21:24

It is not illegal to be naked providing there is no sexual context and no deliberate intention to cause alarm, harassment or distress to others (as opposed to considering the likelihood of this
happening or the complainant personally finding
nudity distasteful or offensive).

The College of Policing guidelines explain further: https://library.college.police.uk/docs/college-of-policing/C849IO118-public-nudity-aid-revised.pdf

If OP said to her NDNs that she was concerned about her son and asked them to put up a privacy screen above or by the side so that he couldn't see what was going on, and they ignored this, and she asked them not to have naked parties with naked butlers etc, and they ignored that, would you think that this might not be naturism but in fact something sexual which could cause offence?

I am not sure if you have already answered that, I haven't read all posts.

Myli1 · 11/07/2026 21:27

chtewalk · 11/07/2026 21:09

Curious response to what I wrote. "Hearsay" is not relevant - it is only relevant in relation to legal actions - did you mean "I haven't seen this or thought about it therefore it doesn't exist"? If so, that is more to do with psychological theory of mind, not hearsay. Or did you mean "I have no interest in discussing the sort of things you mention"?

Sorry what I meant to say was that I don’t have any personal knowledge of the cases alluded to. I don’t mean to sound dismissive or in denial, I should make clear that I absolutely do not condone any one individual or group masquerading as naturists for nefarious purposes. As you might imagine, it gives the rest of us a bad name.