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AIBU to think neighbours should not be naked in their garden?

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babypickles · 25/06/2026 20:06

For context: Our house is on a new build estate and the houses are pretty close together. It’s fairly easy to see into neighbours gardens because the trees etc are not well established yet.

AIBU to say my neighbours shouldn’t be naked in their garden. They are often out in the garden totally naked taking photos of themselves. They have parties quite often and it’s not uncommon for them and friends to be out in the garden naked / using the hot tub etc.

Am I being a killjoy ? Seems excessive to me.

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 26/06/2026 01:12

StPetersburg · 26/06/2026 01:10

Makosi and Anthony? 🤣🤣

Michelle watching from the secret room as chicken stu got in the hot tub with someone else - can’t remember who! But yes, big brother back in the glory days.

StarCourt · 26/06/2026 01:12

I wonder what son’s school would think if they heard about it

StPetersburg · 26/06/2026 01:10

ConstantlyFuriosa · 26/06/2026 01:09

No. Naked. Jacuzziness!

IYKYK

Makosi and Anthony? 🤣🤣

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 26/06/2026 01:10

CinnamonJellyBeans · 26/06/2026 00:58

I think you're the one who is equating mini-,skirts and cleavage with nakedness, not me.

It didn't enter my mind at all and my post certainly does not lend itself to oppression of the female body.

That's quite a misogynistic leap you've made there.

You want to police people and their clothing.

Somehow you seem to think that the line you draw is the "correct line"

I'm showing you that it's a continuum, from total body covering, to full nudity.

Somewhere on that line are other situations that you find acceptable yet others do not. If we adopted their "correct line" then women would be oppressed about their permitted clothing.

Dont know why you think a warning about a slippery slope is somehow misogynistic - or is it just a slur in place of thinking about the issue?

ConstantlyFuriosa · 26/06/2026 01:09

No. Naked. Jacuzziness!

IYKYK

suki1964 · 26/06/2026 01:06

So glad we live rural, me and he use the hot tub as nature intended and the odd tractor drive might have had an eyeful

We dont parade around the garden naked, we hang our robes and clime in where and knobbly/wobbley bits are when hidden from general view. We are naked to world for less then a minute

ruethewhirl · 26/06/2026 01:00

CaseClosedWineOpened · 25/06/2026 21:48

Any pampas grass out the front of the house?? 😉

Damn, you beat me to it. 😂

CinnamonJellyBeans · 26/06/2026 00:58

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 26/06/2026 00:45

It's not the body that bothers, me, it's the lack of permission: "You have to look at my nakedness because I have decided to make you see".

Whoa. You're heading down the road of slut shaming - wanna make a similar statement about girls wearing stupidly short skirts, or showing "too much" cleavage?

I think you're the one who is equating mini-,skirts and cleavage with nakedness, not me.

It didn't enter my mind at all and my post certainly does not lend itself to oppression of the female body.

That's quite a misogynistic leap you've made there.

Missey85 · 26/06/2026 00:57

Muffsies · 25/06/2026 20:48

Wtf, she's allowed to look out of her windows. Stop being so childish.

And the neighbours are also allowed to be naked in their own garden 🙂

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 26/06/2026 00:57

Goatsarebest · 26/06/2026 00:19

It can. Context is a consideration and the impact on people, particularly children, of your exposure when assessing if it is 'indecent' in law.
Standing at a window for a prolonged time naked in view of children will almost definitely meet the test. Walking across your window naked whilst changing highly unlikely to meet the test. Any sexual act that can be witnessed from a public place whilst using the public place as intended, will probably meet the test of being indecent. That would include walking down a road and seeing sex acts, but probably not if you had to climb a tree to witness it. It would be you in trouble then if caught.

I agree it can.

My point is that is not, by definition, without additional context, illegal - though that's what a few PP are asserting.

I get quite annoyed by people who seem to think they have an absolute right not to see or hear things they just don't like.

We seem to be moving further and further away from tolerating others.

suburberphobe · 26/06/2026 00:57

Not on.

There's beaches in northern and southern Europe - well hidden - that you can strip off on. Sure there are long-grass fields you can do it too. I have a friend who does it in a gay cruising place. "They're all looking for sex, but not with me" LOL

I thought it was not allowed to parade around naked in public.... Well, I know it isn't!

They sound deranged. Are you in suburbia?!

I live in a city, never seen anyone strip off in this heat, or any other, the cops would pick them up. It's a psychological weirdo anyway.

I'd hate to have my children exposed to this.

Missey85 · 26/06/2026 00:50

BaronessBomburst · 25/06/2026 20:10

Chuck your car keys in the bowl and join in.

😂😂😂

SnowFrogJelly · 26/06/2026 00:50

As long as they’re not having sex in your bushes

Missey85 · 26/06/2026 00:49

Why are you looking at them? Keep your nose on your side people are free to do what they like in their own garden 🙂

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 26/06/2026 00:45

CinnamonJellyBeans · 25/06/2026 23:57

Foisting the sight of your naked body on someone, just because you can get away with it is quite aggressive and crosses boundaries. It's not the body that bothers, me, it's the lack of permission: "You have to look at my nakedness because I have decided to make you see".

If you can see your neighbours and their naked guests, when you're doing normal garden activities, you should tell them to put up fencing.

It's not the body that bothers, me, it's the lack of permission: "You have to look at my nakedness because I have decided to make you see".

Whoa. You're heading down the road of slut shaming - wanna make a similar statement about girls wearing stupidly short skirts, or showing "too much" cleavage?

Pinkflamingo10 · 26/06/2026 00:43

Ew! Unless you have a private garden then wear clothes

itslikecakesbutitsnotcakes · 26/06/2026 00:20

All these people saying ‘don’t look’, ‘mind your own business’. Madness
Naked man in supermarket - just don’t look
Naked people washing their cars - mind your own business
Naked people in a restaurant - just don’t looooook!

Seriously.

Goatsarebest · 26/06/2026 00:19

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 25/06/2026 23:27

No. It does not.
Neither does standing at your window naked.

It can. Context is a consideration and the impact on people, particularly children, of your exposure when assessing if it is 'indecent' in law.
Standing at a window for a prolonged time naked in view of children will almost definitely meet the test. Walking across your window naked whilst changing highly unlikely to meet the test. Any sexual act that can be witnessed from a public place whilst using the public place as intended, will probably meet the test of being indecent. That would include walking down a road and seeing sex acts, but probably not if you had to climb a tree to witness it. It would be you in trouble then if caught.

SpaceRaccoon · 26/06/2026 00:19

I don't think some of you realise just how overlooked new build gardens are - you're basically naked in public.

StPetersburg · 26/06/2026 00:17

babypickles · 25/06/2026 20:26

My son is 11. He thought it was most amusing.

Im not a Peeping Tom. I’m allowed to look out of a window in my own home and not be confronted by my neighbours cock surely ?? 😆

Must be a big cock if it confronted you all the way from their garden to your bedroom window.

NeverLookInTheMirror · 26/06/2026 00:16

FWC2026 · 25/06/2026 23:35

So what? They're just bodies. It'll help him understand normal bodies are less than perfect porn bodies.

would you be saying that if it was the OP’s DD?

babypickles · 26/06/2026 00:13

Goatsarebest · 26/06/2026 00:08

Why have you not been invited is the real concern.

Exactly. I might gate crash the next one. At least I wouldn’t have to think about what to wear 😆

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Goatsarebest · 26/06/2026 00:08

Why have you not been invited is the real concern.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/06/2026 00:06

@babypickles put up a fence topper of some sort. If the neighbour asks why just say, Too much skin, Mike. 🙂

KnittyKnotty · 26/06/2026 00:03

I would find that hilarious tbh! Are they fit of jiggly?