Transgender niece

I'm talking about clothes. I am absolutely clear that there is no such thing as "male-coded clothing." That does not exist.

You... think... I'm talking about clothes? Clothes!? ... OMG...

The word trans literally means changing from one thing to another 😂

@Seethlaw Girls are being told by society from the moment they are born how to live. That is the simple truth. End of story.

If you don't want to wear a dress, there is nothing to stop you from wearing a shirt and trousers.

That's your prerogative, but you cannot extend it to others. Some of us carry the scars of our education for decades.

Girls are being told by society from the moment they are born how to live. That is the simple truth. End of story.

Mind you, boys are too (toxic masculinity, anyone?) Men just don't care to protect themselves and the boys, as much as women care to protect themselves and the girls.

@Seethlaw I myself grew up in a Christian fundamentalist family and church. I had to follow strict rules, or face harsh punishment and possibly expulsion from my family and congregation.

Once you're 18, you're legally able to make all of your own decisions.

I tend not to get overly hung up on things that happened when I was younger than 18. That was a long time ago.

Afghanistan is part of the world society. Thus, the world society restricts women's choices.

Ah, but you want to talk only about Europe, right? Or even just the UK? Well, it's well-known that these countries do NOT harbour their own "weirdos", such as religious extremists who teach the women in their families and congregations how to live. Very well-known indeed.*

I myself grew up in a Christian fundamentalist family and church. I had to follow strict rules, or face harsh punishment and possibly expulsion from my family and congregation. Telling me that every choice I made was of my own free volition is beyond laughable.

( * This is sarcasm, just in case it's not obvious.)

I don't live in Afghanistan. Why would the expectations of a bunch of weirdos in Afghanistan be relevant to anything? Are you in Afghanistan? I don't understand your point.

Exactly. It is completely offensive to suggest otherwise.

Go tell that to women in Afghanistan.

@Wadsworthy Gender = historically and culturally specific and changeable set of ideas about how male and female humans should behave. Often used to oppress women and constrain their education, activities, voice etc etc because women are the reproductive half of the species.

There are no societal expectations of how men or women should behave. If you didn't do something because you're a woman, that's because you chose not to do that, not because of "society," whoever that is.

Janet now is James - that’s all you need to know.

their gender is their business.

go with the new name and pronouns

don’t over think it .

Hmm not really. People have these wild things called eyes. Usually does the job.

Er, no they’re not.

Sex = immutable biological condition of any mammal - male and female

Gender = historically and culturally specific and changeable set of ideas about how male and female humans should behave. Often used to oppress women and constrain their education, activities, voice etc etc because women are the reproductive half of the species.

You're right that not all trans-identifying people have surgery or take hormones.

Trans rights activists are very keen to tell us both that:
A) children and young people should be encouraged to have puberty blockers, cross sex hormones and surgery

Yet also that:
B) There's no need for adult men to take hormones or have surgery in order to enter spaces where women are naked and/or vulnerable

It's almost like a small group of aggressive men are using vulnerable children and young people as a human shield 🤔

Indeed: converting gay kids to trans isn't appropriate. I totally agree.

It means conversion therapy isn’t appropriate.

@ToiletKaren , love the username 😂

I can just imagine you: “Janet, my blonde identifying brunette colleague” or “James, my straight nose identifying friend, who is really my deviated septum friend” - because it’s up to you to disclose the background of everyone in your orbit.

The problem with this is that trans people are trans asd long as it suits the trans community for them to be and covers a range of behaviours so massive that even stonewall had to reign it back.

It used to be much simpler.

lolno.

Signed, a transman.

I've no idea what you're saying.

Gender and sex are the same thing.

Well, considering that "trans" means whatever an individual wants it to mean, yes, trans people are obviously trans - but that doesn't mean anything.

Maybe…. trans people are actually trans!

I see the OP as struggling between two positions (and correct me OP if I'm wrong)
One is believing "I know my niece is a girl but she's identifying as trans so I will use a new name and try to remember preferred pronouns" and the other is "I used to think I had a niece but that was wrong, I have a nephew who is a boy".