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Transgender niece

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Stargazelamb · 19/06/2026 20:26

My niece lives in another country and I’ve just heard that she is becoming a he. She has changed her name, is taking hormone medication and now has facial hair. She is a transgender boy. However she sees herself as a boy. AIBU to think she will never be a biological boy and to refer to her as a transgender boy? I realise this could be an emotive topic.

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Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:46

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:20

I guess @MyBlueCritic is at least keeping the mods busy.

So many deletions!

Soooo many.

Nice to know the mods are on shift tonight.

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:42

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:38

No, not really, I have a social life. With real people.

"Totally real people! In real life! I swear!!"

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:41

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:40

Hey, maybe "uncouth" is a quality in lady beetles?

Ooh! Like your thinking.

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:40

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:38

No, not really, I have a social life. With real people.

And yet here you are with all the hateful old ladies.

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:40

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:36

I'm with you on the self ID as young. I'm not old and I'm not and never have been a lady. I'm much too uncouth to ever be called a lady!

Hey, maybe "uncouth" is a quality in lady beetles?

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:38

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:37

Do you actually understand how Mumsnet works?

No, not really, I have a social life. With real people.

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:37

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Do you actually understand how Mumsnet works?

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:36

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Maybe take your own advice love.

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:36

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:33

Well, I want to believe that they are 15yo 25yo at most, so I'm old enough to be their mother, which makes me old in their eyes, I suppose :P

But as far as self-ID goes, I definitely identify as "still very much young, goddammit!" 😂

I'm with you on the self ID as young. I'm not old and I'm not and never have been a lady. I'm much too uncouth to ever be called a lady!

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:34

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It's the heat. It brings out the best in people!

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:33

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:31

I didn't think you identified as old either.

Well, I want to believe that they are 15yo 25yo at most, so I'm old enough to be their mother, which makes me old in their eyes, I suppose :P

But as far as self-ID goes, I definitely identify as "still very much young, goddammit!" 😂

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:32

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Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:31

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:30

Holy Mary mother of God, give me strength to deal with the complexities of these balloons 🙏

pats head Poor you.

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:31

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:26

You calling me an old lady? Because if so, you're being transphobic. JSYK.

I didn't think you identified as old either.

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:30

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:26

You calling me an old lady? Because if so, you're being transphobic. JSYK.

Holy Mary mother of God, give me strength to deal with the complexities of these balloons 🙏

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 21/06/2026 20:29

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Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:29

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And now you're being ageist as well.

Well done you.

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:27

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So you can't own it but instead just insult anyone who pulls you up on it. I'm not claiming victimhood. I'm saying you made a threat with that meme. Whether you realise it or not that is what you did.

Also, believing you can't change sex does not make a person part of a hate movement.

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:26

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Where is this 'hate' you keep referencing?

Disagreeing with people is not hate.

Acknowledging basic scientific facts is not hate.

So please enlighten us what you're talking about?

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:26

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You calling me an old lady? Because if so, you're being transphobic. JSYK.

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:25

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AccidentallyWesAnderson · 21/06/2026 20:21

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Oh no. Least I’ve got a grasp on basic biology though. Silver linings and all that!

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:20

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:19

This is the last reply to you, sorry x

By "you", do you mean this forum? Because if so, YESSS! I mean, the second-hand embarrassment was getting painful...

I guess @MyBlueCritic is at least keeping the mods busy.

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:19

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:17

OK, I find you extremely basic and boring. That tactic of "wHaT dO yOu tHiNk aBoUt (x) iS (y)" is particularly grating, because it demonstrates such lacking. In multiple areas.

This is the last reply to you, sorry x

This is the last reply to you, sorry x

By "you", do you mean this forum? Because if so, YESSS! I mean, the second-hand embarrassment was getting painful...

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