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Transgender niece

358 replies

Stargazelamb · 19/06/2026 20:26

My niece lives in another country and I’ve just heard that she is becoming a he. She has changed her name, is taking hormone medication and now has facial hair. She is a transgender boy. However she sees herself as a boy. AIBU to think she will never be a biological boy and to refer to her as a transgender boy? I realise this could be an emotive topic.

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Leafstamp · 19/06/2026 20:31

Honeyhonay · 19/06/2026 20:29

Is it necessary to post on the internet about your niece’s life though? Just seems like pretty awful behaviour from an aunt.

You obviously don’t understand how online forums work.

There are no identifying details on the OP.

Leafstamp · 19/06/2026 20:30

How old is she?

Of course YANBU, no one can changes sex.

You’ll need to decide how to play this depending on what you want regarding a relationship with both the niece and her parents.

Tumbler2121 · 19/06/2026 20:30

Non issue. Wish them well

NoelEdmondsHairGel · 19/06/2026 20:30

Obviously she’s not a boy and the adults around her who are facilitating her delusion (or desire to escape from the disadvantages of being a girl) are doing her a horrendous disservice.

Tricky to navigate though.

bigsoftcocks · 19/06/2026 20:29

Not really your business

Honeyhonay · 19/06/2026 20:29

Is it necessary to post on the internet about your niece’s life though? Just seems like pretty awful behaviour from an aunt.

Zanatdy · 19/06/2026 20:28

You probably have little to do with the child, and even less if you insist on doing that. None of your business imo.

Numbchill · 19/06/2026 20:27

its incredibly abusive for adults to make her think she’s anything other than a trans boy.