To not make my son share?

Its not sharing though if he only gives the toys up when he’s finished playing. I think YABU given the amount of toys and length your son had them for. How can he even play with them all in one go surely there were some floating around or on the side

The child didn’t hog the toys, the mother did -a three year old can’t physically carry that much stuff. The post is mis -titled implying it’s about the son. It should be something like “AIBU hogging a pile of toys for an hour or more (some of which my child played with in turn during that time)”

Last year my friend and her new boyfriend came over for dinner. 7 of us were eating. I made a Greek style dinner, salads, lemon potatoes, halloumi and homemade dips and flat breads, moussaka etc but I also made a tray of 14 chicken thighs with oregano and garlic, I like to over feed instead of under, anyway friends new bloke ate 10 of the thighs. He had other stuff as well I even ended up making him extra halloumi but he was sat at the table with the chicken in reach (it was serve yourself) and once the meal was finished on his plate was 10 bones. I always make extras now but I think it was simply the fact they were next to him so he didn’t think about anyone else. Also I was more annoyed he was slim 😂

I digress but I think you’re right, not being taught young means you have people who simply don’t consider others.

We absolutely teach our children to share, but our rule is that if they're still actively playing with something, they can finish their turn first

But you understand though, that "a turn" is like 5 mins. Not the whole hour long session. Those toys don't belong to you and are there to be passed around and shared among all the children.

You had zero intention of your child sharing at all and its very clear. Why don't you buy him his own toys to take to the pool in a normal session if that's what you want?

You can't hog toys for the whole session. Im flabbergasted that you think you could at a public/group session.

If you want your child to have his own toys to play with alone, you buy them for him.

So glad my kids are up, do people actually say he was actively playing? OP sounds obnoxious and I’m sure her son isn’t far behind.
Hogging all the toys and being rude and teaching your son to be selfish isn’t the cool parent move you think it is.

Probably because they could see he couldn’t possibly be playing with all those items simultaneously?

If there were no other toys available he should have shared. He also shouldn't have taken more than one bucket in the first place. I work with older children - young adults really - and I've notice that at things like buffets, many of them, the boys particularly, have no awareness of the needs of anyone but themselves; they will help themselves to half the sandwiches without thinking that the rest of the queue also needs to be fed. Your little one is only three, so one wouldn't expect him to automatically think of anyone but himself, but it's good age to start learning it.

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Rude misogynist

It makes me wonder what is the point of going. It plainly doesn’t include socialisation.

Whilst I don't think children should be made to give up a toy immediately just because another child wants it, they do have to limit the length of their turn. By not doing that, you're just as bad as the parent who expects immediate surrender. You let your DS hog multiple toys for an unreasonable length of time so people called you out on it.

"We absolutely teach our children to share, but our rule is that if they're still actively playing with something, they can finish their turn first. Once they're done, sharing is expected."
The element missing from this rule is that their turn needs to be a reasonable length. Its like at the play park, if other children are showing interest in using the swings but can't get on because your child has been on them for a long time, it's time for your child to get off the swing- even if they would've stayed on longer if no other children were around.

Wow. Your children have zero chance of becoming good humans with you steering them. Basically you arrived early, segregated yourselves with a large number of toys for more than an hour.

What a selfish human you are. Take your own toys next time, one child does not need that number of toys. The centre should have intervened.

Your post made me think of this 😂😂 although the 'no thank you' in this context makes more sense.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/ScNhVC1kaf0

if they're still actively playing with something, they can finish their turn first. Once they're done, sharing is expected

🤣 so even if they had their "turn" for a whole hour, he still doesnt have to give his toys according to you, that's not sharing.

I can't believe you taught such a young child to be so entitled."No thank you, I'm playing" for a bloody hour. Entitled mum, entitled kid.

Were you just dying for a chance to boast about your tiresome child whilst simultaneously putting another child down. Good for you!

our rule is that if they're still actively playing with something, they can finish their turn first. Once they're done, sharing is expected.

So what happens if there are two children, just one exciting toy, and the child who gets to it first is still playing with it an hour later, while the other child still has nothing?
Would you still think it was reasonable for the child with no toy to be told "Hard luck but no, it’s still Damian's turn"?

I think your understanding of the meaning of the words "share" and "turn" is different from most other people's. Surely the value of sharing and turn-taking is that a child learns that other people have wishes too, and it’s good to make someone else happy by giving them too the opportunity to play with the item and have a turn getting pleasure from it even if you would really like to keep on playing with it exclusively yourself.

It’s the same principle as giving someone else some of your chocolate even though you would really like to eat it all yourself. There’s no moral value in only giving others things you don’t want any more yourself.

You sound an entitled inconsiderate selfish idiot and your son with his no thank you I would be saying what an absolute brat he will be disliked have no friends get bullied and that all stems from YOU not teaching him and encouraging this pathetic behaviour

This has got to be a wind up.

You took your son to a different end of the pool with a load of toys that are supposed to be shared because he likes independent play?

Bring your own toys if you want him to play by himself and not share the shared toys.

Or, try teach him social skills and how not to be greedy.

He sounds like he had a lot of the shared toys, and for a long time too. You said yourself that he should share when his turn is up but isn’t one hour a long turn?
gently, I think you were at fault here

i think you are teaching your child to be precious and entitled.

Great ragebait. Two posts then buggers off 🤔

Because he'd been hogging a large number of toys for 45 minutes. I have no idea why you weren't extremely embarrassed when the other parent was forced to talk to your child about his second bucket.

He took multiple toys and refused to allow other children to use them. They weren't his toys. YABVU.

You posted this on Facebook and got the same response. It's probably time to accept you're in the wrong.