To not make my son share?

Maybe we’ll get posts from the Op
when their DC starts school detailing the injustices of having to share in the true meaning of the word.

Your child had all the toys, that's why. Maybe the other children took what they could play with and shared the rest.
Sorry, I'm pretty sure that had a member of staff been made aware, your child would have been expected to share.
Bring your own toys if you aren't prepared to share. It's not a good lesson for him when he starts school. He will be expected to share with others and he will find it really tricky if this has not been modelled to him.
I'm a teacher and regularly have to sort these things out between children, take what you can play with one thing at a time. Clearing off to the other side of the pool with all the resources so that other children go without is unreasonable and very entitled. Sorry, you were in the wrong.

It’s not clearly nonsense.

So if you’re charging your phone and someone asks to borrow your charger - any kind adult would offer it over. They don’t demand it. If you’re not done because you’ve got 2% battery, you’re not done. It’s ridiculous to say you share everything! You don’t.

If it was your child in the pool, and he was happily playing with his own toys for an hour and a kid comes grabbing at it, would you use that as one of your sharing moments? if he’s watching his iPad while your changing in the changing room, and a kid comes demanding it, would you insist he gives up his iPad? No you wouldn’t. Don’t say it’s nonsense.

you definitely didn’t read my post properly because I said while sharing isn’t a right, it’s the morally correct thing to do especially in this situation and she should have encouraged her child to play with something else as it was not his property.

Having a turn before sharing item - reasonable.
Having a turn that lasts an hour or more - not reasonable.
Having a turn which includes reserving toys you're not actively playing with in case you fancy doing so, when there are barely enough to go round - not reasonable.

You’re creating a monster and in 3 years time you’ll be back here asking what went wrong and why he’s struggling socially at school.

“I'm genuinely interested to know what others think. Would you have said something, or would you have left it?”

Should you have said something? Yes you should have said “So sorry I didn’t realise that some of the children didn’t have any toys to play with….. son you’ve had a lovely long turn with all these toys but can you see these children here don’t have anything to play with - can you choose 3/4 of your toys to give to the other children please. It’s not fair if you have seven and they have none.”

It’s a bit naughty to effectively reserve the toys and not let anyone else play with them because your DS wants to play with other toys if you see what I mean

😂 I can’t

That's absolutely not what you wrote and that's not how anyone else interpreted it either.

And I absolutely would have a go at another adult and tell them they needed to share if they were hogging everything.

Hmmm, strong is the entitlement with this Mother says Yoda....

You and your son were hogging a lot of toys.
Unless you are absolutely sure that every child had more or less the same amount of toys as you did, I think you are being incredibly unreasonable.

@drearyllama I find it frankly worrying that you don't see the problem. You are coming across as incredibly entitled and I fear not a great role model for your child when it comes to sharing.
Going to group sessions with young DC is all about socialisation. Learning how to play well and share with his peers.

So we use this strategy. At home/ other people's houses etc, their turn can last usually as long as they want. Except when it's a public setting and there are a few toys for a number of children. Then we talk about how they're for 'everyone' and our turns have to be shorted. Depends how many toys there were, I guess.

Op won’t be back unless it’s a dramatic reverse

No you didn’t read my post properly - we don’t go over to people and insist they share their chairs, or demand they hand over the iPad charger.

We offer it though, because we’re nice.

Read the full comment - do we have to? No. Should we because we’re kind and respectful…yes?

he chose 2 buckets, a watering can, a few small toys and a float,

🙄

I did read your entire post. I just responded to the bit where you claimed "adults don't share things they're not done with" which is clearly just nonsense.

So you cherry picked the toys, then to ensure he wouldn't be required to share, you took him away from all the children who might want a turn??? Wow, entitled much?

My kids are expected to share all toys. If they have toys that are extra special to them we dont bring them out. At soft play/park etc where we do not own the toys or equipment you have your turn and you give to the next child. If my child had of been playing for something for 45 mins before another showed interest that is fine but the minute another child shows interest it shall be passed to them to play with. I think you are being unreasonable.

You took several shared toys and kept them. The whole purpose of this is sharing and socialising. You missed the point. Next time take your own toys and just use them.

Did you miss the bit where he in fact had way more than 2 toys...?

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Entitled Karen

You rushed to respond and didn’t read my entire post.

'We absolutely teach our children to share, but our rule is that if they're still actively playing with something, they can finish their turn first. Once they're done, sharing is expected.'

That's not sharing. When you're finished with something you're not sharing by letting someone else play with it, as you're no longer playing with it either way.

And the prize for not reading the thread and making up complete shit goes to……. @Booboobagins

I disagree it's bad form no child should monopolise toys for an hour in a shared environment and you refused to share when asked politely. It's your appalling parenting that meant other parents over ruled you and quite rightly