To not make my son share?

I periodically open this thread hoping that the OP has come back. She won’t I guess. But I do hope that when she’s in the group in future she will look at herself and see what others see. It’s not the child that other parents there will be judging harshly (usually), it’ll be OP. Maybe she’ll see the looks and will help a change for the better.

You don’t know if anyone else’s was targeted by other children as you took your Child away to play alone

you also took 2 buckets and sounds like he had 7/8 toys

why go to a toddler swim if he prefers independent play

aka doesn’t want to share

why not just take him to the pool

That is a lot of toys you let your son choose. I let my kids choose one watering can at a time!
He couldn’t possibly have played with them all at once. Of course you should have said “you’ve had long enough now darling”

I think OP must have got her friends to come and vote that she's NBU. Or are 11% of mums that selfish/ socially inept?

Although given their posts of faux-innocent outrage, I doubt she had a great revelation about how selfish and wrong she was.

OP just doesn’t like the responses she’s received, and has gone off in a hissy fit.

Think op has realised they were wrong and ain’t coming back 😁

Love this simple explanation-🙌

Probably because your child had a lot of toys to himself!
An hour is a very long time to have all those toys without sharing.
You are that parent we all hate at the park that doesn’t make their little treasure share the swing and ignores the huge queue of kids waiting their turn.

Did the other kids have as many toys as he had? He may have been targeted because he had so many toys.

We don't live in a world where you get everything you want, whenever you want it, even if its is unsettling.
The organizer should of noticed and helped.

Shared toys are for sharing - simple. If you don't want your son to share after a prolonged period of playing, take your own.

"Whilst it's in use" is the key phrase here. The OP's son could not possibly have been playing with all those toys at once. He simply doesn't have enough hands. So some were floating around in the water unused but reserved. AKA hogging.

YABU

At our local pool what you have described is probably 1/3-1/4 of all the shared toys. I might have let him take them but acknowledge if someone else asks he would have to share because they are shared toys. That is an unreasonable amount of hold on to.

If they were his own, that’s different but as shares pool resources that was very unfair.

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius- yes I quite agree with you there and forgive my skimming of the OP.

I would somewhat disagree with this, @tonystarksrighthand - not because I think anyone should share their partner, but because, in this case, the things being hogged and not shared were not the personal property of the child/family - they were intended to be used by any child at that play session, and the OP had allowed her child first to take far more toys than he could play with at any one time, and then keep them for an hour. In this case, he should have been sharing with the other children there.

In my example the adult hogging multiple chairs with their bags/coat is using more seats than they need.

In the OP the child is hogging more toys than he can possibly play with at once.
Therefore the adult can give up the spare seats and the child can give up the spare toys.

Eerm so he literally had over 6 toys to himself? For over an hour ? Doesn't sound reasonable to me and of course he will prefer to play alone - then he doesnt have to share!!!

I agree with you. This thing of sharing is weird. Can you imagine adults behaving like that. “Oh my turn now with your husband, you’ve had him an hour, share!”

Most likely because your child had quite a few toys and the other children might have only had 1 or 2. At these types of sessions it's encouraged to swap toys so all children get a turn of playing with certain toys.
Your behaviour with your son was very selfish and entitled.

So your kid have like 5 tots for an hour and you don’t expect him to share???

no way

we need to teach kids to share and be empathetic! Help others.

At first I was thinking you were going to say they were his toys. If these were shared toys available at the pool for all, clearly they were limited (otherwise I don’t see why they would have made it such an issue) and you should have given up one of the buckets, no matter how nicely he was playing.

There is a difference between sharing and borrowing. OP is borrowing toys from the pool and intends that her child will use them for their entire session. Sharing is not this.

if you are going to hog sorry borrow a toy for the whole session then take one toy, not multiple. It’s selfish and greedy.

Do you have a problem with reading - nowhere ever, on any comment have I even suggested what she did was warranted!

Ive simply said she didn’t HAVE to give them up, but she should have because that’s what a society and civilisation is about. Never ever have I said otherwise. You just jumped on me without reading properly.

In your example that’s not sharing, that’s taking a free seat. Gosh there are some nitpicking nancies on here today - I’m literally saying what she did was wrong and people are coming at me for a generalisation. Get a life.

You’re one of those parents. You are being totally unreasonable letting him have so many and not share with others but so long as your child gets what he wants!