To think there is no genuine reason a 40-year-old man would be interested in a 22-year-old?

I can’t see a problem I am a lot older than my wife and we have been together for almost 25 years so I wouldn’t worry too much

To be fair I think a lot of the younger generation talk about their periods way more casually than someone older.

The answer is the last word of your post.

Missing point but isn’t a Monday a strange choice of night for a date. Sounds like he could be in a committed relationship and stringing your DD along.

My dad is my mums carer, he is 89 and she is 86.

Thats the problem with age gaps. If only they were the same age eh!!

I too am baffled as to what a 40 year old would see in a 22 year old who has told them they're up for having sex

He can get lots of experience with kids getting know DD’s friends too

Just to add, there were no “daddy issues” here. I had my life together and, I think, I liked that he seemed to too.

I had known him as a colleague for a few years before we go together. Turned out he was a complete Walter Mitty, I fell for it because I was young.

I know some age gap relationships work out, and the age difference wasn’t a contributing factor as to why our marriage failed. It failed because of who he was, but who he was is why he’d never settled down age 42…or, it turns out, had a relationship lasting more than a year.

I think for unmarried / childless men at this age, kids is a factor. Both she won't be trying to rush into having kids cos time is running out and I've gout tien to have them I na sensible time frame.
I'd be more concerned that she's intending to have sex on the first night of meeting men, and have a serious talk about going double Dutch on the contraception.

All you can do with this man is support her, keep your eyes out, welcome him in so you can judge him better and so she doesn't feel isolated and then she's more likely to be open about things

There's nothing wrong with it per se. She's an adult and in her prime years in terms of beauty and fertility. If she's mature and likeable in other ways too then, why wouldn't he be interested?

I’m a fully grown adult and I take the advice of people I trust if I’m about to do something stupid as I enter a new or unfamiliar life stage.

@Frequency He wants the kudos of bedding a woman in their 20s.

This isn't something that men consider when dating. Men don't give a shit how other people see them, or how other people see their partner. Men date women that they like, and other people's perspectives have no influence.

There is something wrong with him, and women his own age are too old and wise to tolerate his bullshit, so he needs to target women too young to know better.

The number of available women on dating apps is extremely low, and getting matches is difficult (even with swiping right on every profile, men may only get 1 match a month). So men tend not to filter women based on factors which have low significance, like age. He's ended up talking to your 22 year old daughter, but she is likely the only person who actually responded to him and engaged in a conversation. It's entirely possible that, if a 50 year old had responded to him, then he would have ended up dating a 50 year old. It's very unlikely that he deliberately targetted someone based on age.

“She's a fully grown adult.“
I beg to differ. If my daughter was entering into a conversation like that with some bloke she’d never met I’d not let her out of the house.

Anyone can become a carer at any age. I know women in their 30s whose children are their carers.

Ugh the best case scenario is he wants a girlfriend that is incredibly in awe of his perfectly average to slightly below par life achievements, like he’s a guy that needs a cheerleader. How tiresome.

The boundary being I normally have sex with a guy the first time I meet him but you're a week out?

Speaks volumes?

About what?

The fact he's not your DH speaks volumes though. Theres also a high chance you'll become his carer and the fact he likes younger women to worry about.

I was in my 20s when I met my DP who was in his 40s. We’re now 40s/60s with two DC. Not all men have bad intentions.

I think often on apps men are yes men. They tell women what they think they want to hear. Dd says she is into x band he will agree. Yes the only reason is sex. Women their own age are much less likely to want shit one night stands where the man disappears and can see through the conversation or lack of.

I used to have old men try and hit on me all the time in my late teens/ early twenties.

Most of these men kid themselves such young woman want them for their looks or personality. Certainly in my case, it was only the rich ones who stood a chance.

I find it creepy too OP. I am wary of men in their late thirties/early forties who haven’t been married or had a long term relationship.

Peter Pan syndrome comes to mind.

And she would have set hers to include 40 year olds.

Similar age gap between my best friend and her DH. They met when she was early 20s.. Been married for 25 years now.

I mean they met online dating, which means he likely set his age preferences to include 22yos at 40. Whether he's been able to attract many 22yos is another matter but he's actively trying

He may genuinely like her for who she is, Im sure she has a lot about her. That doesn't mean there isn't a power/maturity imbalance