To think there is no genuine reason a 40-year-old man would be interested in a 22-year-old?

maybe my is making me sensitive but he's not old. he's 40. i think 40 is a weird age. I read a post about 42 being the age where no one has the same notes. some people are grandparents at 42, some just having their first child, some are getting engaged, some divorced, some spend weekends sleep deprived at soft play, some sleep deprived in Ibiza.

it wouldn't be better if she was telling a 22 year old guy she'd nelver met before either. it's either bad regardless of age, or it's fine regardless of age

but it isn't either or. no one is saying the law should only be a random sum someone once thought up for a laugh or a free for all. I'd happily support a law saying under 18 there can't be any age gap or more than 2-3 years, cos they're still a child. it's super it up to 21 TBF. not sure how enforcement would work, but at least it would set boundaries.

legally the day before counts, morally it doesn't. I don't think two 15 year olds having sex the day before their birthday is somehow worse than a week later. it counts legally because the law needs a line. it's worked around by very little happening if a 15 year old is having sex with someone their own age or similar.

Not stupid no, can you not read.? Just young and inexperienced

I think that the key difference is that your friends met organically. They weren't in an environment which principally exists to facilitate dating (such as an app or a bar), they would have had the chance to get to know one another before dating was on the cards.

Passport Bros aren’t exactly looking for a trophy wife - more, as has been disgustingly, said ‘b-tches to bang’

She would only believe that if she’s stupid, tbf.

Yes I agree with this, like there ha to be a reason for her not to, rather than I don't want to and I'm not going to being enough

Unfortunately men are becoming lower quality over time. I always dated men my own age but they were horrendous! Flaky, rude, inconsiderate, in need of mothering. Lots of bad dates with forgotten wallets, only walking as far as their own front door at the end when mine was only 5 minutes further on, not replying to texts for days followed by weird love bombing, phoning their mums every day for a chat. These were, on paper, good catches - men with good jobs and from ‘nice’ backgrounds. But they were just absolute turn offs.

Then I met DH who is older than me (although not by as much as mentioned here) who had his own place, drove to pick me up and drop me off (I didn’t have a car I hasten to add!), remembered my birthday, organised nice dates, could hold interesting conversation beyond childish nonsense about gaming and football, didn’t need parenting. It was a bit of a revelation tbh.

I’ve just got into bed after having a conversation about what would happen if we woke up tomorrow and America had vanished 😂, and now he’s bringing me my nightly cup of tea.

I want to start out by saying I totally get your point of view and if it were my daughter, it would make me very uncomfortable too. My children are early teens, but I work with a lot of older teens/early 20s and completely agree with you that, to me, they are still children. I'll happily have a chat/joke with them and some of them I genuinely enjoy their company, but at no point have I ever thought about getting into a relationship with one! But... I say that as someone who has been married and got two children, helping to look after elderly parents while also trying to run a household. Basically, I find them immature, because they literally are! However maybe this man is at a different stage of life to us and despite the age difference is actually closer maturity wise to your daughter. For your daughter to be interested in him, I'm presuming she is fairly mature for her age.
Personally, I'd just be reminding your daughter to stay safe, don't rely on a singular method of birth control and take things slow.

Sweeping statement as in all 20w something women are vulnerable, and all 40 year old men are creepy.

A sweeping statement? Sounds dramatic, which my comment was not in any way. Just an opinion

You’re not wrong… but she’s an adult. You just have to let her get on with it and find out for herself.

Sweeping statements on both sides. People are individuals.

I don’t know. I started sleeping with a 55 year old man when I was 25 and still am at 37. It’s lasted almost 12 years and I’m fairly certain he’d interested in me as a person.

Also, a 40 year old man would know how inexperienced and possibly vulnerable a 22 year old would be in comparison to a woman his own age whereas a woman of 22 would only believe she is as mature and adult as a 40 year old adult.

Absolutely baffling and grim

He was looking for a woman in her 20s, she was looking for a man in his 40s.

They are both adults.

Doesn't make it ok

My cousin ended up dating a 32 year old at 18. The family were supportive but I always thought it was odd. I’m personally now 33 and I just cannot imagine dating anyone that young. They got married when she was 20 and he was nearly 35, they’ve now got two kids and they’re still married so age gaps can sometimes work but it’s rare. And it still does not sit right for me that a fully grown man wanted a teenager. I’d say you’re right to be concerned.

Id also be very suspicious that he’s already married. Not the first time something like this has happened.

Ultimately there’s not a lot you can do but I’d just tell her to be careful, be wary of love bombing and treat any conversation about long term or serious commitment with serious skepticism.

Wonder how high hers was set?

Yes potentially a creep but you need to let her be and live her life. I met my partner at 23 he was 35. I'm pretty sure there was some raised eyebrows but we are 19 years down with a child and it's not perfect but we are happy. I don't think I could tolerate a man child my own age.
It really depends on her maturity and if he is young at heart.
The fact she's warned him she is on her period whilst cringey it does show she has not had much good experience with people her own age who are also after just one thing.
Just safety tips for her dates is the only advice you should be giving.

I agree with you 100%

But hers would have been set to 40s.

Bit odd. I’m a 45 year old man and the early-twenties women at work seem like children to me.