To think there is no genuine reason a 40-year-old man would be interested in a 22-year-old?

I don't think there's anything weird sounding about this guy tbh.

Guy prefers to date hotter younger woman and young woman prefers to date maturer older guy. Tale as old as time. Nothing to see here.

Man: Hey want to go on a date?
DD: I'm on my period!
Man: Umm, ok?

This thread is clearly a bash on relationships with a large age gap. Most 22 year olds will be in a full time job or have just finished uni and will be starting their careers.

Or he's incredibly immature and lacks responsibility so no women his age would go there!

Also worth doing a claires law to check him out. He may go for young girls as they are easier to coerce

I saw a similar study with the age at 18. It was the lowest age and I do wonder if the men would have gone lower if allowed.
Women tended to stick to men their own age, or a few years older.

When I was 21 my 40 year old boss pursued me, he was divorced but at least single. I said no but he still sent me flowers anonymously, huge bouquet, very expensive and also another gift on my doorstep. I was repulsed because he was old enough to be my Father. Maybe others would have been impressed by his gestures. Obvious power imbalance there.

I find men that like anime sometimes creepy. Now some anime is dodgy and some isn’t but overall it has very tiny childlike women in it. I have my issues with anime due to the sexualisation of some childlike characters and how it feeds in to the yellow fever narrative for western men. Something that I have endured as a woman of Chinese heritage, almost all women have been sexually harassed but many of my experiences were racially motivated.

I do not want a return to Victorian values but for women this very free no holds barred OD is a risk as they are always the one left holding the baby. Men take no risk when they sleep with women apart from an STD.

When I was younger, I dated someone with a similar age gap. He was nice, sane and it was long term. We are still friends now. We met by chance and neither of us would have dated anyone else had we not met- neither of us were really interested. It worked out okay.

However, now with age, I’d be very wary of this sort of thing . Especially online dating where you know someone’s age upfront. Having met men even a little older than myself who are single, there is normally some reason why they are single and women their own age aren’t interested. I made this mistake with my daughter’s father. Like you, I couldn’t imagine dating someone that young. They’d get on my nerves to be honest.

You won’t be able to do anything but gently mention some issues- like the fact you’d never date one of her friends. Might put it in perspective! Unfortunately, she may have to learn the hard way.

What music are they both into? Seems odd to me they are both into the same but not impossible. Were all the correlating likes and dislikes on his profile or has he just agreed with everything she said she liked?

Not being funny she's an adult choosing to talk to someone this age tho

I saw a study recently where men and women had to say which age they found most attractive. The men's average was 24, no matter what age they were. The women's tended to match their own age.

She told him she was on her period? Are you sure she's not the one on there looking for sex? (As well as him- you're right about him)

She said she’s looking for casual fun in her profile? Sheesh yikes have changed. Usually it would be in code not so obvious. How times have changed. Let her make her mistakes.

I'm just saying, you asked how things can be not disgusting apart, but disgusting together - and that's a light-hearted example.

Or to rephrase what you said:

"Women in their teens (who are of legal age to have sex) aren't disgusting.
Men in their 50s aren't disgusting.
There are attractive people at all those ages.
How do they somehow become disgusting together?"

It’s not an ideal situation but why mention her period ! The thing women don’t understand is ALL men of any age from 15 to 60 only seek sex ! It’s natural.Too men it’s sex first then decide if you want to get to know someone,All the dating at the beginning is to see if she’s going to give him what he wants.The getting to know comes later.To a man there is no reason to get to know a woman other than sex,you will find that men may have women as friends but they would have known them from a very early age like from primary school.How many men you consider your friend end up trying it in at some stage !.I am a father’s of 4 Grandfather of 11 married 40 years so have some life experience.Your daughter sounds very immature or knows all men will try it on on the first date if possible,age isn’t relevant.This chap may be have been working hard and getting important stuff done like getting a house etc and now wants to find someone to share it with.Leave her to it but keep an eye out for her.He may be the One.Be there for her if it goes wrong but don’t try stopping her ! otherwise she won’t tell you what’s going on and she’ll get damaged for ever.Good luck

I know! And at 22. My Mum knew next to nothing about my social/sex life after about the age of 15.

Mr friend’s 22 year old DD is living with a 45 year old man. Met at work. Friend says the DD insists it’s all great and he treats her so much better than men her own age. She is quite vulnerable with lots of mental health issues and is quite needy.
Friend is letting it play its course whilst staying alert. There are already cracks appearing around control and domestic expectations. But she can see why DD is enjoying the relationship. All she can do is watch carefully and keep gently reminding what a future might look like.

It's really not similar. It's just two people shagging .

Men prefer younger women; women prefer older men. More news at 11.

Being ‘young and inexperienced’ doesn’t preclude someone from knowing that at 22, she’s not as ‘mature and adult’ as someone almost twice her age who has nearly 2 decades more of adulthood under their belt. That’s common sense. Unless, as I said, she’s stupid.

He's an old man Wait till she sees his saggy nads

If she was perfectly fine with it she wouldn't be asking other people's opinions on the age difference

Is he married or living with someone. a lot of married men online looking for fun

Why would she tell this man she is on her period when they haven't even met yet? Was she going to have sex with him had she not been? I just can't imagine telling someone I was yet to meet this, "would you like to go to dinner?" "Yes, I'd love to but I am on my period" how is that a normal reply? Maybe this is why he goes for girls this age? I have a few girlfriends who are very early 40's and have just started dating after divorce, one is on date 5 and still hasn't kissed him, even though they are both very attracted to oneanother and things are going great. Maybe age appropriate women are harder to get into bed?

A 40 year old with a 22 year old is utterly grim though, I would imagine he's either a sleeze bag just out for sex with young girls or he just can't get women his own age so he goes after naive just out of uni girls. I wouldn't be happy, even though my daughter would be an adult by this point and there's nothing illegal about it.

She told him she was on her period before a first date? What the hell? It’s all just totally ick! Of course he is interested because she’s young and she’s also sexualised the whole thing.

Honey is delicious.

Marmite is delicious.

Honey and marmite on a sandwich together is disgusting (I'm sure someone will pop up to say they love it 🤣)

I really don't get this.

Women in their 20s aren't disgusting.

Men of 40 aren't disgusting.

There are attractive people at all those ages.

How do they somehow become disgusting together?

Who answers a request to go out with, "I'm on my period?" 🤔

I do agree that the guy can't handle a woman in his age group.

Well, currently it's a free for all once someone is 16, which isn't great, imo. I don't want a 60-year-old to be legally able to groom and have sex with my 16-year-old.

The half your age plus seven actually works pretty well - if my maths is right, then for a 16-year-old, the max age would be 18, for a 20-year-old, 26, and for a 24-year-old, 33. And by the time someone is 25, I think they should have enough life experience to make those decisions responsibly for themselves (hopefully!)

But yes, it's a little complicated, and probably wouldn't be easily normalised or enforced, so not very realistic. I agree that what they call a 'Romeo and Juliet law' should be put into place for people aged 16 - 18, though.