To think there is no genuine reason a 40-year-old man would be interested in a 22-year-old?

Disgusting. A family friends 23 year old daughter is seeing a 48 year old man - been going on a few months. His own son is 21. What the hell is wrong with these men? Perverts. Just because they can, doesn’t mean they should!

Exactly, its not 'targeting' to be on a dating site looking for each other. Is she targeting him then given she set out her own parameters?

Theres nothing to indicate SEN. Just just 22.

She's probably quite inexperienced dating actual adult men. Telling men your on your period to avoid sex is normal for someone in their late teens/early 20s. Hence why people that young should shag people their own age

Well so are hers, shes been fairly up front about it, she wants a friend with benefits

Nothing wrong with that at all.

i would just say to dd its to big an age gap almost 20y.
He’ll be 50 to her 32. I dont really think 40+ men should be having kids either. Theres an increase in MH issues in the kids. (We had a dd with mh issues and the nhs wont do anything.

Increased rates of autism, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, suicide attempts and substance abuse problems were all reported.

Comparing children of a 45-year-old dad to those of a 24-year-old father it indicated:
autism was more than three times as likely
a 13-fold increased risk of ADHD
double the risk of a psychotic disorder
25 times more likely to have bipolar disorder
2.5 times more likely to have suicidal behaviour or problems with drugs
lower scores at school
There was no starting point after which the risk started to increase, rather any increase in age had an associated increase in risk.
However, the overall risk is likely to remain low. Even if a the risk of a rare disorder is doubled, it is still very unlikely to affect a child.
The problem is small increases in risk scaled up over millions of people having children later can lead to an increased incidence of such disorders.

Like hundreds of thousand of adults all over the internet and OLD apps. This isn't the Victorian era any more.

Devils advocate, what if it were roles reversed?

'Targeting' is a wild overreaction. She's not a child, neither is she a victim.

So are hers by the sound of it.

She probably thinks she’s being all sex-positive and proactive by telling him she can’t shag him yet because she’s on her period. Lots of young women these days seem to have been deluded into thinking that’s feminism now 🙄

His motives are painfully simple, and very obvious.

EXACTLY!

It's probably been said already, but what she's actually implied is that sex won't be happening because she's got her period, which in turn implies that it would happen if she hadn't.

I've always worked on the assumption that sex just won't happen on a first date. I could always change my mind if I felt so inclined.

She doesnt know this guy! Having been on many online dates myself, I know that at least 70-80% of the time they look very different from their pictures. They often seem completely different. You can't tell what weird thing they're going to do that will give you the ick. And you definitely can't tell from online conversation if they're going to be aggressive

That's why you don't tell them in advance that you're going to sleep with them!

He doesn't like the same things as her, she's 22 and he's much older.

The problem is that she's 22 so she can't see it. When she's his age she'll understand why it's not what she thinks it is.

It's gross and she should definitely steer clear.

Is she genuinely running to bed with him.....from a first date?What was this thing about period

True. I was this age when I dated a 52-year old man and it was all about sex - from me. I fancied him like mad and so did a friend even though he looked every day and more of his 52 years. The other young woman was quite jealous, I recall.

I went on to date a gorgeous man in his late 30s so very nearly 40. I fancied him like crazy too.

There was no effort at coercion or grooming on their sides. I was driven by hormones on mine. Sex drive is very high at that age and yes, the brain isn’t fully developed

You've completely missed my point but I'm not sure how I can make it any clearer.

OP seems more concerned about why this man wants an actual relationship with her daughter, than the fact her daughter is discussing her period with a strange man online before a first date.

I think the biggest issue is her telling him about her period. She's pretty much told him she would sleep with him if she didn’t have it. She's told that to some random older man on the internet

I have never done OLD or apps like Tinder, but people do match on them, talk for a bit, then meet for sex.

Or a 22 year old targeting a 40 year old man. It is most likely a bit of both.
Both are adults.

No she’s not. One is a bit of fun. The other has the potential for her DD to be manipulated and left raising children with a much much older man who will then likely die well before she does.

Yeah, like others, I’m also concerned that your daughter felt the need to say she was on her period. What were her thoughts behind that? I would be curious about that. No one can expect sex in any situation—eg is that what she wanted or did she think that would be expected. I’d have a conversation to understand what’s going on for her.

Indeed. What I find weird is that she hasn't even met this man, so has no idea if she's even going to fancy him, yet has already decided she wants to have sex with him.

That's a bit worrying, in my opinion.

It's a 40yr old man targeting a young seemingly naive and immature girl. It is weird and creepy.