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Does anybody else dislike Pride?

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coulditbeme2323 · 04/06/2026 13:12

Does anybody else dislike Pride?

We have one in our town for the second year running, and it's just really off.

Now before I get the "don't be homophobic comments" I am very much live and let live.

It's just that it can be very adult in the middle of the day.

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Naunet · 24/09/2026 08:44

Getmeacoffeenow · 04/06/2026 13:15

I dislike the fact that people are persecuted and bullied because of who they love more.

I agree and that's exactly why I hate Pride now, because Pride no longer supports same sex attraction in women. Its just a display of male sexuality and dominance, no pride left in it.

Angrykevin · 24/09/2026 08:06

Pride may have lost its way with the corporate involvement and the mainstream expectation of hedonistic, outrageous behavior, but blaming trans people or radical feminism is just plain bigotry and an unwillingness to leave your comfort zone to demand human rights. How about a little selfless solidarity please?

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 15/06/2026 12:07

KeepPumping · 14/06/2026 17:39

What is it you think they are doing?

How should I know? I've never met them. I'm not going to invent someone's motives based purely on a photo because that's weird.

KeepPumping · 14/06/2026 17:39

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 14/06/2026 17:36

So you can't read their minds but nevertheless you know that they're not worried about discrimination or rights but instead they're just wanting attention.

How do you know this? Do you know these people personally? Or are you just looking at some pictures, making stuff up in your head, and then criticising them for what you're imagining?

What is it you think they are doing?

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 14/06/2026 17:36

KeepPumping · 14/06/2026 17:22

Ok I can"t read their mind, but that is about "look at me" not about "Gay rights".

So you can't read their minds but nevertheless you know that they're not worried about discrimination or rights but instead they're just wanting attention.

How do you know this? Do you know these people personally? Or are you just looking at some pictures, making stuff up in your head, and then criticising them for what you're imagining?

KeepPumping · 14/06/2026 17:22

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 14/06/2026 17:02

You can read people's minds? That's amazing! What am I thinking right now?

Ok I can"t read their mind, but that is about "look at me" not about "Gay rights".

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 14/06/2026 17:02

KeepPumping · 14/06/2026 14:49

The people in the photos are just trying too hard, it is ridiculous, the greatest fear they have is not discrimination, it is people being indifferent or ignoring them.

You can read people's minds? That's amazing! What am I thinking right now?

KeepPumping · 14/06/2026 14:49

SomeGarlic · 11/06/2026 03:01

It's amazing how people don't bother finding out about the past, preferring to squint through a lens supplied by someone with an agenda.

1994 was a big turning point for London Lesbian And Gay Pride (not LGBT, the acronym was and should remain LGB!) It was the first truly festival-style Pride, the first to feature a Bi Tent, and the first to showcase drag acts.

It was also the first time gay men paraded in the type of exhibitionist outfits they usually wore at gay clubs. It wasn't scary shit, though. Just flashy.

Have a read of the official magazine, you'll enjoy it!
⬇
https://bishopsgate-inst.files.svdcdn.com/production/Pride-1994.pdf?dm=1656352832

You'll notice the interviews make no attempt to 'trans' the drag performers. When referring to the performer himself, the pronoun is 'he'. His character's called 'she'. This is entirely in keeping with the long-standing British tradition of drag (or female impersonation) which, by 1994, was part of regular prime-time TV programming.

The people in the photos are just trying too hard, it is ridiculous, the greatest fear they have is not discrimination, it is people being indifferent or ignoring them.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 11/06/2026 13:04

For me, the worst thing about the trans rights activists taking over Pride, is how homophobic some of them are - screaming at women who want exclusively female lesbian spaces, insisting it is ‘transphobic’ not to have penetrative sex with a male who has decided he is a ‘trans lesbian’ and that his penis is actually female.

I support lesbians who believe that they are exclusively single sex attracted, and who want single sex groups and spaces.

CoffeeCantata · 11/06/2026 06:35

Heardy · 10/06/2026 21:11

I think the whole concept of pride has had its day. When gay people were oppressed it was good to see them being out and proud. Now the trans movement has taken over and I have no sympathy for men cosplaying as women. I find it highly offensive. I cannot see any difference between transwomen and people who reach for the boot polish and claim to be black.

I also think it’s quite patronising to say that we need to not be homophobic. I don’t know anyone that is. Most people are nice, open minded people.

100%.

The assumption that everyone is homophobic is insulting and disingenuous.

I too think Pride has had its day - especially in the way it's developed, which is a far cry from its perfectly reasonable and positive origins.

It now seems to thrive on controversy and divisiveness.

SomeGarlic · 11/06/2026 03:32

Btw, @Bobbingtons, I knew some of the women Rebel Dykes is supposedly about. Not well, we didn't like each other, but we had friends in common.

While lecturing us on our own history, you forgot to mention this important detail from the article you linked: The origins of the “rebel” dykes go back to the Greenham Common Women’s Peace Camp. As it says, some women joined Greenham not for political reasons, but to hook up. It caused quite a bit of bad feeling - which the 'rebel dykes' chose to interpret as moralistic oppression, of course.

This isn't the thread for in-depth discussion of those particular issues, but thanks for the link. Siobhan Fahey (not the Bananarama one) sounds quite a character. I'll try to see her other work.

mammat72 · 11/06/2026 03:11

used to go to it years ago and it was just about gay and lesbians wanting equality gay marriage etc and was a lovely vibe. now its been taken over by the gender ideology brigade most people avoid

SomeGarlic · 11/06/2026 03:01

Bobbingtons · 10/06/2026 20:07

It's amazing how people forget the past. London pride especially has always accepted the kink scene with groups like SM gays and SM dykes playing a prominent part, pride, especially in the 80s and early 90s was predominantly a protest and especially in the early 90s spanner played a large part in that.
I'm addition drag artists and trans people were prominent in the original matches, not just a phenomenon of the 2000s. Please do not rewrite our history this is not a modern phenomena, but part of the collective history of fighting for equal rights. You might not like some of the queer subcultures but don't minimise the part they played in liberation movement. Learn about it's history and the struggles people went through.
'Rebel Dykes' & The Untold Story Of Renegade S&M Lesbians In London - GO Magazine share.google/5cONDHcpVQh9JJN4K

It's amazing how people don't bother finding out about the past, preferring to squint through a lens supplied by someone with an agenda.

1994 was a big turning point for London Lesbian And Gay Pride (not LGBT, the acronym was and should remain LGB!) It was the first truly festival-style Pride, the first to feature a Bi Tent, and the first to showcase drag acts.

It was also the first time gay men paraded in the type of exhibitionist outfits they usually wore at gay clubs. It wasn't scary shit, though. Just flashy.

Have a read of the official magazine, you'll enjoy it!
⬇
https://bishopsgate-inst.files.svdcdn.com/production/Pride-1994.pdf?dm=1656352832

You'll notice the interviews make no attempt to 'trans' the drag performers. When referring to the performer himself, the pronoun is 'he'. His character's called 'she'. This is entirely in keeping with the long-standing British tradition of drag (or female impersonation) which, by 1994, was part of regular prime-time TV programming.

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KeepPumping · 11/06/2026 00:52

1dayatatime · 10/06/2026 09:06

I think we have a different perspective on what is liberating.

Personally I would find being mortgage free, with a passive income of £100k pa and my children all set up with secure jobs, homes and relationships would make me feel a lot more liberated rather than a gimp mask, ball gag and a leather thong.

But hey everyone has a different view on "liberation".

LOL, yes walking about dressed as a Gimp is just needy attention seeking.

CornishDaughteroftheDawn · 10/06/2026 22:35

Bobbingtons · 10/06/2026 20:07

It's amazing how people forget the past. London pride especially has always accepted the kink scene with groups like SM gays and SM dykes playing a prominent part, pride, especially in the 80s and early 90s was predominantly a protest and especially in the early 90s spanner played a large part in that.
I'm addition drag artists and trans people were prominent in the original matches, not just a phenomenon of the 2000s. Please do not rewrite our history this is not a modern phenomena, but part of the collective history of fighting for equal rights. You might not like some of the queer subcultures but don't minimise the part they played in liberation movement. Learn about it's history and the struggles people went through.
'Rebel Dykes' & The Untold Story Of Renegade S&M Lesbians In London - GO Magazine share.google/5cONDHcpVQh9JJN4K

Except that the trans organisations of the time like the Beaumont Society were quite explicit that they wanted no associations with homosexuality and wouldn’t allow them to join them.

One of the founders of Stonewall confirmed that no ‘trans’ people were involved in the organisation or marches.

They also strongly rejected being called ‘queer’ as it was so often used against them as a slur.

It is you that are rewriting history - your claims are wrong.

Heardy · 10/06/2026 21:11

I think the whole concept of pride has had its day. When gay people were oppressed it was good to see them being out and proud. Now the trans movement has taken over and I have no sympathy for men cosplaying as women. I find it highly offensive. I cannot see any difference between transwomen and people who reach for the boot polish and claim to be black.

I also think it’s quite patronising to say that we need to not be homophobic. I don’t know anyone that is. Most people are nice, open minded people.

ArabellaScott · 10/06/2026 21:07

Yes. Given as a surgeon he also amputated other people's legs, it raises some worrying questions.

LuckyHazelFox · 10/06/2026 20:47

ArabellaScott · 10/06/2026 20:13

Operation Spanner is an interesting one. Whether extreme sadism/masochism should be legal is still very far from being accepted as part of the 'liberation' movement.

The Eunuch maker et al being a recent news case. And this chap:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c5yvpx20le2o

I suppose at some point those who want to campaign against homophobia and for acceptance of LGB people may well diverge from those who want to campaign for liberalising extreme sexual practises.

That's one sick fuck amputating your own legs.

ArabellaScott · 10/06/2026 20:33

Noting that Spanner participants, and the Eunuchs, are all men.

'The kink scene' could cover anything from a little mild dress-up right through to the very extreme end of castration fetish. There are women on the kink scene, but often women supporting sexual liberation are being used by men with more extreme agendas.

ArabellaScott · 10/06/2026 20:13

Operation Spanner is an interesting one. Whether extreme sadism/masochism should be legal is still very far from being accepted as part of the 'liberation' movement.

The Eunuch maker et al being a recent news case. And this chap:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c5yvpx20le2o

I suppose at some point those who want to campaign against homophobia and for acceptance of LGB people may well diverge from those who want to campaign for liberalising extreme sexual practises.

The picture shows a person seated in a living room. They are wearing a blue shirt and have prosthetic legs. The room includes a coffee table and sofa.

Surgeon Neil Hopper jailed after amputation of own legs

Neil Hopper claimed that injuries to his legs were the result of sepsis and not self-inflicted.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c5yvpx20le2o

Bobbingtons · 10/06/2026 20:07

It's amazing how people forget the past. London pride especially has always accepted the kink scene with groups like SM gays and SM dykes playing a prominent part, pride, especially in the 80s and early 90s was predominantly a protest and especially in the early 90s spanner played a large part in that.
I'm addition drag artists and trans people were prominent in the original matches, not just a phenomenon of the 2000s. Please do not rewrite our history this is not a modern phenomena, but part of the collective history of fighting for equal rights. You might not like some of the queer subcultures but don't minimise the part they played in liberation movement. Learn about it's history and the struggles people went through.
'Rebel Dykes' & The Untold Story Of Renegade S&M Lesbians In London - GO Magazine share.google/5cONDHcpVQh9JJN4K

Valeriekat · 10/06/2026 18:53

A lot of you MUST realise how anti Lesbian/ mysogynistic some of these events can be.
Just because the ones in your area are fun doesn't mean that they all are.

Nothingeverlastsforever · 10/06/2026 14:36

I've been to a Pride even once and loved it.

Somehow though, I've managed to navigate most of my life without being near where a Pride event takes place. Guess I'm just not on the lookout for something to be outraged by!

Slightyamusedandsilly · 10/06/2026 14:10

Teddybear23 · 10/06/2026 11:03

The clothes worn on a beach are nothing like those seen at a Pride event.

No, true. Even bondage gear covers more than a thong.

Catladywithacat · 10/06/2026 11:53

I might be going this year with my friend funny enough lol never been