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Asking family to pay for own meals when invited out

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ThePeachLemur · 31/05/2026 16:51

Its our DS's 18th this month and he's wanting to go to a local restaurant for a meal to celebrate, which is great. However, we want to invite the wider family. AIBU to request they pay for their own meal? The cost of eating out now is so expensive that it would cost us in excess of £500 and its money better spent elsewhere. We aren't skint, but like all of us, we have to be savvy. DH is embarrassed to ask his family to pay for their own meal. I've spoken to my side and its not an issue. Just hate feeling like I'm being tight.

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Nodancingshoes · 19/09/2026 10:13

I would never assume someone was paying for my meal - it wouldn't be an issue in our family/group of friends. I suppose it depends on what has happened in the past

MwaHaHa99 · 19/09/2026 20:03

Do a chilli and cake at home OP

Ayeayeayeaye · 19/09/2026 20:06

It would be custom in our family (who aren’t well off at all) that the parents foot the bill for big birthday meals out for their kids. If budget was an issue then you’re absolutely not being unreasonable, but you’re saying budget isn’t so yes you’re being slightly unreasonable. Host at home?

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