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To think people on benefits can’t win

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Flamingosareflummoxed · 21/05/2026 07:35

I’ve heard so many people this week, in real life, moaning about people on benefits. I get it that we are all struggling. The cost of living is crippling.
But every week there are posts on here from women who were in 70K per year HR positions who are finding it difficult to get interviews for MW jobs.
There are no jobs.
The few jobs that there are will be flooded with applications, why would recruiters chose someone who has been unemployed for years?
Plus all those with long term disabilities who need reasonable adjustments.
Its like people want to bash people knowing there is no real alternative.

OP posts:
XenoBitch · 24/05/2026 19:46

PropertyD · 24/05/2026 19:42

You seem to have a chip on your shoulder about doing these sorts of roles. I worked in Boots on a Saturday, then went onto to bar work.

What do you want to do for work?

What are you on about?
I got fired. I could not help that.

PropertyD · 24/05/2026 19:47

You say care work is shit and you got fired when you did a trial for bar work. What do you want to do?

PropertyD · 24/05/2026 19:48

Why did you get fired during a trial?

XenoBitch · 24/05/2026 19:50

PropertyD · 24/05/2026 19:48

Why did you get fired during a trial?

I spilt drinks everywhere and have very bad sort term memory.

thatsgotit · 24/05/2026 19:52

Boudy · 24/05/2026 08:17

@thatsgotit ..spot on post.and certainly resonates with my 2...unfortunately.

Sorry to hear that! Hope they find something soon. I've been there and it can be really demoralising.

ChaliceinWonderland · 24/05/2026 19:54

x2boys · 21/05/2026 07:52

Where?
Because my 19 yesr old is desperate for one and applying for everything at the moment .

TA in school. Look on mynewterm. There are many many roles in education

Pickledonion1999 · 24/05/2026 20:05

SinicalMe · 21/05/2026 16:44

They develop a bad back and switch to sickness benefits.

Exactly. I've just finished a job working in benefits advice for over 50's and many hadn't worked for years if ever.

XenoBitch · 24/05/2026 20:08

Pickledonion1999 · 24/05/2026 20:05

Exactly. I've just finished a job working in benefits advice for over 50's and many hadn't worked for years if ever.

What jobs can they do?
I know someone who has been declared 'fit for work' He is in his 50s and last worked in his 20s. What can he do?

Pickledonion1999 · 24/05/2026 20:15

XenoBitch · 24/05/2026 20:08

What jobs can they do?
I know someone who has been declared 'fit for work' He is in his 50s and last worked in his 20s. What can he do?

Agree they need more help to get back to work.

XenoBitch · 24/05/2026 20:17

Pickledonion1999 · 24/05/2026 20:15

Agree they need more help to get back to work.

what employer will take him on?
The job centre pushed him into care work. He ended up ill and is now in hospital. He has schizophrenia

Pickledonion1999 · 24/05/2026 20:20

XenoBitch · 24/05/2026 20:17

what employer will take him on?
The job centre pushed him into care work. He ended up ill and is now in hospital. He has schizophrenia

That clearly shouldn't have happened and he clearly has a valid reason to not be working but there are very many who have no valid reason to have been out of work for years.

Whatalunatic · 24/05/2026 20:20

PropertyD · 24/05/2026 19:25

I had two parents in care homes. Of course it’s not highly paid, it can be gruelling. I saw all of that. So what are these people who are desperate to work doing about ensuring that they can get a different type of role if care work, bar work is not their choice?

Ermmmm,….they’re not allowed back in education, are they? They have to be looking for work.

XenoBitch · 24/05/2026 20:21

Pickledonion1999 · 24/05/2026 20:20

That clearly shouldn't have happened and he clearly has a valid reason to not be working but there are very many who have no valid reason to have been out of work for years.

Tell the DPW that, told him he was fit for work. The system is broken for everyone

ThreadGuardDog · 24/05/2026 21:14

XenoBitch · 24/05/2026 20:08

What jobs can they do?
I know someone who has been declared 'fit for work' He is in his 50s and last worked in his 20s. What can he do?

Agree. The problem is that the DWP’s idea of fit for work is fit for any work, regardless of whether or not it’s available and viable.

XenoBitch · 24/05/2026 21:16

ThreadGuardDog · 24/05/2026 21:14

Agree. The problem is that the DWP’s idea of fit for work is fit for any work, regardless of whether or not it’s available and viable.

Yep, they kept saying he should do care work, because he has a friend. It is daft.
Well, he ended up ill and back under MH services. Not fit for work again.

ThreadGuardDog · 24/05/2026 21:25

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 24/05/2026 19:36

Lucrative? DLA?

DH earns fuck all - about 5-6k a year, self employed working stupid hours (sometimes he finishes at 2 or 3am) around the needs of our autistic DS.

We get £428 a month DLA, CA is about £350 a month. So less than £800 a month. The DLA is largely ringfenced for DS needs.

We are considerably worse off than when DH was able to work full time - and we've weren't well off then. DH also has considerably less down time and is getting burnt out, we're both chronically stressed and sleep deprived (imagine 13 years of the lack of sleep of the new born stage). But yes, we're raking it in and having a fantastic time.

The level of understanding of what disability benefits are intended for, how hard they are to secure, and why they are needed is abysmal. But that’s nothing new for MN. The general consensus seems to be that if you’re on DLA or PIP you’re coining it in. No thought to the fact that severe disability brings extra costs and that disability benefits are intended as a contribution to those costs. And don’t get me started on carers allowance. £86 per week on the understanding that you provide at least 35 hours of care per week - that’s around £2.30 an hour. It’s also deducted from UC in full and replaced with carers premium which is worth around half. It’s also subject to a cliff edge earnings limit of under £200 per week. That’s how much successive governments value unpaid carers, who, if truth be told, save the tax payer a fortune.

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 24/05/2026 22:43

ThreadGuardDog · 24/05/2026 21:25

The level of understanding of what disability benefits are intended for, how hard they are to secure, and why they are needed is abysmal. But that’s nothing new for MN. The general consensus seems to be that if you’re on DLA or PIP you’re coining it in. No thought to the fact that severe disability brings extra costs and that disability benefits are intended as a contribution to those costs. And don’t get me started on carers allowance. £86 per week on the understanding that you provide at least 35 hours of care per week - that’s around £2.30 an hour. It’s also deducted from UC in full and replaced with carers premium which is worth around half. It’s also subject to a cliff edge earnings limit of under £200 per week. That’s how much successive governments value unpaid carers, who, if truth be told, save the tax payer a fortune.

Edited

Funny thing is I don't think of DS as severely disabled at all. He's incredibly intelligent, very funny and lots of fun when he's doing well.

It was honestly a bit of a shock to do the DLA form and realise the extent of what we do that wouldn't be expected with a child his age. He's an only child so we didn't have much to compare to. It's becoming more apparent now that I see the kids he was at school with in primary out and about, doing things independently, picking up shopping for their mum's etc.

Also DS is very like me, so there were things I just didn't pick up on.

Holidayhooha · 24/09/2026 16:51

FlowerSticker · 21/05/2026 07:38

There are jobs.

Just people are too fussy a lot of times.

Also sometimes you're better off in benefits. My sister wants to work, but what's the point, because now she has hugely reduced rent, council tax, gets free dentist etc the kind of work she could realistically do, means she'd be earning around minimum wage.

Like my friend, he got fired from his job, has no money and absolutely refuses to even consider retail, hospitality, factory work or any "menial" roles.

Where as my nephew who is 21 finished his temp contract, applied for everything and was in a job within 2 weeks, working at Nero, whilst he finds a "proper" job.

Completely agree - my local pub advertised for kitchen staff. On a busy road , not an isolated country pub . No applicants at all.

Boomboomi · 24/09/2026 18:13

There are jobs .
I am a graduate and post grad as well as professional qualification holder.
Currently I clean . And pet sit .
it just about works.
Hate the cleaning- however, there is a market for it . It means a job . End of .

Gooseinthewood · 24/09/2026 18:25

PicaK · 21/05/2026 07:42

Yesterday I snapped at screamed at my daughter in frustration.
Because of her needs she can't cope without a 1:1 in school. So she can't do before or after school clubs. So I have to be there. She can't cope on her own. She wakes at night.
So I'm limited in the jobs I can do and I'm on benefits. And I don't want to be. And I'm really frightened of Reform getting in and losing that money because I don't know how I'll cope. And all I want to do is have a ft proper job. And I lost it with her cos I'm stressed.
So yanbu.

What does your husband do and what did you do before you had her? Maybe you can find your way back as a mitigation to stop you worrying?

Theunamedcat · 24/09/2026 18:31

FlowerSticker · 21/05/2026 07:38

There are jobs.

Just people are too fussy a lot of times.

Also sometimes you're better off in benefits. My sister wants to work, but what's the point, because now she has hugely reduced rent, council tax, gets free dentist etc the kind of work she could realistically do, means she'd be earning around minimum wage.

Like my friend, he got fired from his job, has no money and absolutely refuses to even consider retail, hospitality, factory work or any "menial" roles.

Where as my nephew who is 21 finished his temp contract, applied for everything and was in a job within 2 weeks, working at Nero, whilst he finds a "proper" job.

Jobs are area dependent there are no jobs in my area thats not care work (disabled people cant do that realistically) or work that's way way out of most people's league

thatsgotit · 24/09/2026 18:38

Boomboomi · 24/09/2026 18:13

There are jobs .
I am a graduate and post grad as well as professional qualification holder.
Currently I clean . And pet sit .
it just about works.
Hate the cleaning- however, there is a market for it . It means a job . End of .

Yes there are jobs. But not enough of them to go round.

codkaandvoke · 24/09/2026 18:46

FlowerSticker · 21/05/2026 07:38

There are jobs.

Just people are too fussy a lot of times.

Also sometimes you're better off in benefits. My sister wants to work, but what's the point, because now she has hugely reduced rent, council tax, gets free dentist etc the kind of work she could realistically do, means she'd be earning around minimum wage.

Like my friend, he got fired from his job, has no money and absolutely refuses to even consider retail, hospitality, factory work or any "menial" roles.

Where as my nephew who is 21 finished his temp contract, applied for everything and was in a job within 2 weeks, working at Nero, whilst he finds a "proper" job.

This totally

and if they increase hours they lose the extra uc so think what’s the point if working

I actually think uc should be paid on a scale - tho not sure how - but maybe if they work x amount of hours they get more uc then someone who works the basic 16 or not at all

and a time limit - to not be on uc for over 12mths without working or it gets reduced

there are jobs. But many think why work When They get the same or not by not working with reduced council tax etc

northernballer · 24/09/2026 18:53

There are jobs, but a lot of them are zero hours. You also need to drive unless you work in a big City, I'm in a large Midlands town and there is loads of temp warehousing work all paying above minimum wage, but a) it's agency so not guaranteed and b) public transport is so bad you need a car to get there.

I agree some people abuse benefits but it's also incredibly hard to get secure work. The just get a job in Tesco days are long gone!

Theunamedcat · 24/09/2026 19:52

And what really pisses me off is they are building more houses in areas with NO JOBS and not enough school spaces no way to expand the school the drs are oversubscribed too but there is a field! Let's build houses on it! Great idea! Where are they going to work go to school or get healthcare secondary

I could understand building houses in places with jobs