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Overreaction or?

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shellyleppard · 16/05/2026 19:37

Please bear with me. My son is 20 and going to his first "sex party" in a few weeks.
We are close and thankfully can talk about these things.
However I am very worried about him being sexually assaulted. Worst case scenario I know.
AIBU to suggest he takes a friend/ wingman or drug testing strips for his drink in case it gets spiked?
Know I'm probably worrying too much but I can't help it 😔

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TheThirteenthFairy · 21/09/2026 13:29

PennySweeet · 16/05/2026 20:41

I really despair sometimes lol.

Think I'll open a bottle of wine instead Wine

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What she said.

PennySweeet · 21/09/2026 12:03

LobeliaCider · 21/09/2026 11:59

One of our happiest memories as a parents. We've got lots of lovely photos to help us remember too. 🥰

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😂😂😂

LobeliaCider · 21/09/2026 11:59

PennySweeet · 16/05/2026 20:03

Aww bless, your little boy's growing up OP.

There's not a single MNetter here who doesn't remember their DC's first sex party once they reached 20.

All part of being a parent Flowers

One of our happiest memories as a parents. We've got lots of lovely photos to help us remember too. 🥰

TheThirteenthFairy · 21/09/2026 11:02

His first sex party?

Idontjetwashthefucker · 21/09/2026 09:15

So just a social event then? Where does sex come into it? What was the social event called?

swimsong · 21/09/2026 09:08

shellyleppard · 21/09/2026 09:03

@Greenscreennightmare it was a social organised by the LGBTQ at his college

Why did you originally think that it was a "sex party"?

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shellyleppard · 21/09/2026 09:03

@Greenscreennightmare it was a social organised by the LGBTQ at his college

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Elieza · 21/09/2026 08:58

Sex Party. Um well that’s a new name for a Meet And Greet event.

i must try that name at my next work event when new staff start……not lol. The turn out of middle aged male management would be overwhelming….. 😂

swimsong · 21/09/2026 08:52

Mistachio · 21/09/2026 08:45

How completely and utterly fucking grim.

Sounds like fun to me.

So OP - was it a sex party or a meet-and-greet social with wine and nibbles?

Mistachio · 21/09/2026 08:45

How completely and utterly fucking grim.

Greenscreennightmare · 21/09/2026 08:42

Normally when someone revives an old thread I roll my eyes, but many thanks to whoever dug this one up, gave me a good laugh which is a great way to start a Monday. OP please tell us was it a sex party, if not, what made you think it was?

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shellyleppard · 21/09/2026 08:39

@Buzzlightyeartowel it was the LGBTQ group that organised it 🌞

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FiveShelties · 21/09/2026 08:35

PennySweeet · 16/05/2026 20:41

I really despair sometimes lol.

Think I'll open a bottle of wine instead Wine

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Mine's a large one........ very large 🍷😂

Buzzlightyeartowel · 21/09/2026 08:31

shellyleppard · 21/09/2026 08:15

@Buzzlightyeartowel why is it weird???

That your adult son goes to sex parties arranged as social events at his uni!

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shellyleppard · 21/09/2026 08:15

@Buzzlightyeartowel why is it weird???

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HelmholtzWatson · 21/09/2026 04:45

AIBU to suggest he takes a friend/ wingman

Vaseline would be more practical.

Millytante · 21/09/2026 04:17

Is he going into politics?

Buzzlightyeartowel · 21/09/2026 02:04

This is weird AF

WhatTheHellsGoingOn · 21/09/2026 01:03

shellyleppard · 20/09/2026 07:32

@Mirsine yes he went and had a fantastic time.
@Beekman it was a LGBTQ+ social organised by the college social group.
Thank you all he's doing okay 😉

But was it an orgy or just a get together with other LGBTQ’s?

IndigoBluey · 21/09/2026 00:37

I’d start by asking him who is wearing the balls and who is wearing the chains. Then you can navigate the shops for his (sissy) essentials. Has he said if he is the sissy? Were you a swinger fam?

Mama2many73 · 21/09/2026 00:31

PennySweeet · 16/05/2026 20:41

I really despair sometimes lol.

Think I'll open a bottle of wine instead Wine

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You made me proper laugh out loud! 🤣

And some of the responses even more so!

Enjoy your wine!🍷

BibbityBoppityTwo · 21/09/2026 00:29

shellyleppard · 20/09/2026 07:32

@Mirsine yes he went and had a fantastic time.
@Beekman it was a LGBTQ+ social organised by the college social group.
Thank you all he's doing okay 😉

These things usually have very strict protocols, particularly around consent. If you’re ever worried about similar things in future you can ask him about this. If it’s a safe a reputable event he would have been issued with information about this before the event.

swimsong · 21/09/2026 00:23

shellyleppard · 20/09/2026 07:32

@Mirsine yes he went and had a fantastic time.
@Beekman it was a LGBTQ+ social organised by the college social group.
Thank you all he's doing okay 😉

So how did you get the idea that it was a "sex party"?

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shellyleppard · 20/09/2026 07:32

@Mirsine yes he went and had a fantastic time.
@Beekman it was a LGBTQ+ social organised by the college social group.
Thank you all he's doing okay 😉

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swimsong · 20/09/2026 04:35

blythet · 16/05/2026 20:51

An LGBTQ+ social event arranged by the college doesn’t really sound like a sex party to me.

Did your son call it an LGTBQ social event and you’ve jumped to the conclusion it’s a sex party? Or did he actually tell you it was a sex party organised by this group?

presumably he’s already friends with members of that community if he’s been invited so he will already have people he knows with him?

Why would the college be arranging it?
Traditionally, students organise their own parties.

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