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What would you do about immigration?

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stateofthem · 07/05/2026 12:59

I’ve seen an awful lot of political posts here recently, generally displeased with labour (other policies are for a separate thread) and taking hard stances on immigration.

I often feel as though people have a very blinkered view on immigration which does sway the argument. It seems to be either “let everyone in” or “let no one in” as such.

One point I wish to make is that currently you must be in the UK to be able to make an asylum claim. This (in my opinion) is the biggest factor in small boats/mass migration.

If I were in charge I would propose the following:

Re-implement the ability to seek asylum from abroad via one safe legal channel. Enforce that applications must be made via this route (obviously with concessions for no internet, poor English etc).

Applications are reviewed on a case by case basis, and if rejected, a person is placed onto a register explaining the reason for rejection (and possibly a timescale of when they could reapply).

Anyone who does not follow this channel is returned to their country of origin.

Anyone who arrives having not followed this policy is returned to their country of origin.

I appreciate that the above would need a lot of work and investment, and it’s not quite as straightforward as how I set it out, but I feel as if it’s a reasonable response which allows some migrants but not uncontrolled.

at the moment it feels as though both sides of the coin are offering very extreme solutions either way, and I feel as though someone needs to offer a more reasonable and middle way approach.

I am interested to hear others opinions on this, and if you disagree, what would you do instead?

OP posts:
SunnyRedSnail · 07/05/2026 15:24

Anyahyacinth · 07/05/2026 15:06

Which countries have a legal route for refugees to the UK?

Afghanistan. ARP scheme. I think it has now closed but they are processing some of the cases still.

I taught in a a school which had several refugees that came to the UK this way, hence familiar with this scheme.

There was/is also a scheme for Ukrainian refugees.

Most countries make provisions to take refugees from war torn countries.

Lavender14 · 07/05/2026 15:23

ReallyOtter · 07/05/2026 15:07

When does a boy become a man? At 13? 16? 18? What if he is assumed to be older because non-white children tend to be adultified? What if he is older and his family naturally lie about his age to get him to safety and they are found out...and treated like liars, not like desperate folk?

Yes, you have specialist knowledge of the system and you help people. Great. I respect that.

But look at this thread and at the wider UK culture and you will see what I mean regarding gender stereotypes, and lack of respect for the integrity of brown family lives.

And dividing women from men and bringing them in disproportionate numbers will serve British patriarchy one way or another, sorry.

A boy becomes a man at 18 as he is then an adult. I understand that creates a difficult situation at that stage but life will always have cut offs at some point to try to prioritise those who are more vulnerable. As long as there are other open means for seeking asylum then families who want to travel as a group or with older teens could utilise those avenues instead like I said.

"What if he is assumed to be older because non-white children tend to be adultified?" This would be investigated and need to be proven by the home office to be the case as is the process currently anyway if its suspected that someone has given an incorrect date of birth. It's why it's so important that professionals working with unaccompanied or newcomer children are trained to address unconscious bias. This is something I've come across before and called people out on before.

"What if he is older and his family naturally lie about his age to get him to safety and they are found out...and treated like liars, not like desperate folk?"

Again, this is not uncommon in the asylum process and the home office is aware that people do this for valid reasons related to trauma, this would also be argued by a solicitor specialising in that type of law. There are plenty of people asylum seekers come across who give bad advice so this is not a new thing. Creating a safer route may make it less likely that people would feel the need to lie because there's an accessible pathway for women and children or families with adult men. When you're reliant on spending a huge amount of what's often family money, that only serves to increase the desperation people feel to be successful in their application because they've often sunk huge amounts of family savings into being trafficked out. Having an accessible route would also possibly connect people to more solid and reliable legal advice on the process so they can make more informed decisions.

British patriarchy will unfortunately thrive irregardless let's be honest, we live in a society that's intentionally structured against women, particularly women from minority/global majority or marginalised groups. But truthfully I'm not sure there's a way to solve that without dismantling much wider structures which is inter generational work. I do think it's important to try to create space and safety for women most impacted by those barriers though. Especially those as I say who don't have male relatives who can support them and who are at immediate risk. We already have very disproportionate numbers is my point. I'm talking about finding ways to balance that not simply flip it.

Anyahyacinth · 07/05/2026 15:20

Ablaize · 07/05/2026 15:03

“I’d much rather know my mum was being cared for by an immigrant who wants to care and will offer kindness and compassion, than an English person who will be full of resentment”

Immigrants are working in care because they want to live in the UK and that is where the jobs are. Few people choose to work in care because they are kind and compassionate.

Agree…but after 4 months in hospital..my experience of carers from Romania, Phillipines, many African countries, India and more was that they were spectacularly caring often qualified as midwives etc…really astounding people. I’m forever grateful they would suffer 12 hour shifts with an hour travel each way …so much good…food, vibrancy and more comes from immigration and has done for 100s of years. The world is globalised

Other working people are not my enemy and falling for that divide and rule is really sad

Slightyamusedandsilly · 07/05/2026 15:15

My suggestion would be to throw all the racist Reform / BNP / fascists out. God knows who'd want 'em but they could join their mates on the Costas, Dubai and in Asia. That would make a lot of extra room for hard working, tax paying individuals who don't want to exist solely on benefits and who value education and are happy to work in jobs the lazy racists think are beneath them.

Anyahyacinth · 07/05/2026 15:13

SunnyRedSnail · 07/05/2026 14:53

@stateofthem I agree our current system is ludicrous.

We already have legal immigration routes for refugees (e.g. ARP), which involve a scheme from the country that they are unsafe in.

We then have other migrant routes e.g. student visas, working visas etc...

THESE should be the only routes for immigration. Anyone entering the UK via other means should be deported or imprisoned.

Also, those on migration schemes for work/studying should speak a good level of English. Anyone applying for permanent residency should have to pass and English language test (including spouses).

(There are far too many people in the UK that have lived here a long time that speak very little English - the same should also apply to English people wanting to live abroad - learn the language!!).

As for benefits, they should be available for those who contribute to our society regardless of nationality. If you've paid in, then you should be able to claim.

A friend of mine moved to Australia a few years ago and he has T1 diabetes, so had to jump through lots of hoops to prove that his medical condition would not cost the country money. He worked in engineering so had a skill the country wanted. Australia has the right idea.

It’s the same here language tests and proof of ability to support self i.e. money in the bank

Anyahyacinth · 07/05/2026 15:11

Planesmistakenforstars · 07/05/2026 14:51

I'd like to see employing anyone staying illegally made very difficult, and ditto getting work if you're here illegally. ID cards, and temporary work permits for those claiming asylum. Punitive fines/business closures for those who employ without these, and increased funding for checks and policing of this.

This all exists. Asylum seekers cannot work…they are on very low sums …not UK mainstream benefits..lower

LeedsLoiner · 07/05/2026 15:10

Can you let us know which of the provisions and protections of the ECHR (set up by Britain) you'd particularly like to see removed ?

EarthlyNightshade · 07/05/2026 15:10

Winteriscoming80 · 07/05/2026 15:03

yes for them that work,most do not or they work the bare minimum and claim uc.

Have you got stats to back up that most do not work? Do you mean after asylum is granted?

Anyahyacinth · 07/05/2026 15:09

Sarah2891 · 07/05/2026 14:51

Me too. That poster certainly doesn't speak for everyone.

Or me

ReallyOtter · 07/05/2026 15:07

Lavender14 · 07/05/2026 14:56

Why wouldn't boys come when I said women and children? That would also create safe passage for children who have lost their families. Did I not literally just say that the young men I work with are opposed to anti feminist regimes?

"Maybe more British men will get Afghan wives, sex workers, or cleaners if the men do not come?" Where in the fuck did I say anything like this??? And why only Afghan women? If you come to a new country seeking asylum after trauma you need structured support to get on your feet because it is difficult, that's not patronising it's fact. There is currently wholly inadequate support for people seeking asylum here and their independence is actively suppressed by the home office refusing to allow them to work and earn while they have to wait years for approval on their application.

Where is the sex segregation if men still have pathways to seek asylum? Why are you opposed to removing barriers that make it harder for solo female asylum seekers and children at risk to get here safely?

When does a boy become a man? At 13? 16? 18? What if he is assumed to be older because non-white children tend to be adultified? What if he is older and his family naturally lie about his age to get him to safety and they are found out...and treated like liars, not like desperate folk?

Yes, you have specialist knowledge of the system and you help people. Great. I respect that.

But look at this thread and at the wider UK culture and you will see what I mean regarding gender stereotypes, and lack of respect for the integrity of brown family lives.

And dividing women from men and bringing them in disproportionate numbers will serve British patriarchy one way or another, sorry.

Jane379 · 07/05/2026 15:06

stateofthem · 07/05/2026 13:31

a very good point. There’s about a million things I could say in this country need proper investment, but no government is ever able to have the balls to do so.

Not to derail the thread, but I had a convo with a friend recently about finances. I said I’d rather have a 30% basic rate tax but have good public services (eg functioning nhs, public transport, schooling etc). Obviously it would take time and need a total overhaul for a lot of bureaucracy involved (particularly in the nhs) but overall life would then be better. Similar to Nordic models really. She was so shocked I had said this and couldn’t believe I was happy to pay more tax! I think we have a real greed issue in this country with no one wanting to pay for the things we want and need

I agree!

Anyahyacinth · 07/05/2026 15:06

SunnyRedSnail · 07/05/2026 14:53

@stateofthem I agree our current system is ludicrous.

We already have legal immigration routes for refugees (e.g. ARP), which involve a scheme from the country that they are unsafe in.

We then have other migrant routes e.g. student visas, working visas etc...

THESE should be the only routes for immigration. Anyone entering the UK via other means should be deported or imprisoned.

Also, those on migration schemes for work/studying should speak a good level of English. Anyone applying for permanent residency should have to pass and English language test (including spouses).

(There are far too many people in the UK that have lived here a long time that speak very little English - the same should also apply to English people wanting to live abroad - learn the language!!).

As for benefits, they should be available for those who contribute to our society regardless of nationality. If you've paid in, then you should be able to claim.

A friend of mine moved to Australia a few years ago and he has T1 diabetes, so had to jump through lots of hoops to prove that his medical condition would not cost the country money. He worked in engineering so had a skill the country wanted. Australia has the right idea.

Which countries have a legal route for refugees to the UK?

Jane379 · 07/05/2026 15:05

stateofthem · 07/05/2026 13:46

I appreciate that this (hopefully) isnt your point but I would say that I’d be very happy to welcome the women from the countries that you refer to. They are incredibly oppressed in the likes of Afghanistan and I for one would welcome women feeling that!

agree re the other points though! I’d get getting people going all kinds of manual efforts or charity work if they weren’t working

I agree about this. Unfortunately, economic migrants tend to be men. Harder for women to get out of places like Afghanistan, and generally women tend to flee when the physical costs are greater than staying. The process of coming on a small boat probably wouldn't necessarily feel safer to many, even compared to living under the persecution of the Taliban.

Let's spell it out here : most of the problem is NOT from 'immigrants' per se, it's from immigrant MEN. Men are not the default person. It should be spelt out. 'Immigrant MEN'. Immigrant WOMEN are not the problem.

Ablaize · 07/05/2026 15:03

“I’d much rather know my mum was being cared for by an immigrant who wants to care and will offer kindness and compassion, than an English person who will be full of resentment”

Immigrants are working in care because they want to live in the UK and that is where the jobs are. Few people choose to work in care because they are kind and compassionate.

Winteriscoming80 · 07/05/2026 15:03

Augustus40 · 07/05/2026 14:49

As more people are dying than being born in the UK we really do need immigration.

It helps the economy.

Anybody who does not agree with this is either racist or ill informed.

yes for them that work,most do not or they work the bare minimum and claim uc.

Lavender14 · 07/05/2026 15:03

Mix56 · 07/05/2026 15:01

Immigrants are coming in the vast majority because of the financial assistance. Many are not genuine asylum seekers. There should be a proper immigration procedure. If you are not accepted, you cant get entry, you won’t get benefits, free health care, or be able to work, or procure a NiNo
If I want to emmigrate to Canada, for example, I have to prove I speak the language, (a test with a fee), prove my qualifications with a fee(WES), pass a medical, prove I have no criminal record. Prove I have sufficient funds to survive until I get settled & get work & a whole list of other admin. & then PAY a considerable fee to IRCC.
Then I wait … & I may or may not get accepted.

Asylum seekers are a small percentage of overall immigration. Asylum seekers also get less than basic rate UC to live on. Its pittance. If you think people are coming for something like £45 a week, unsuitable accommodation and not being allowed to work then you need to consider what they must have been coming from. It also costs a lot to be trafficked.

Anyahyacinth · 07/05/2026 15:02

My view stop supporting wars, regime change, resource exploitation in the countries then destabilised which refugees flee from.

Educate the public …”no resource to public funds”, due process, current regrettable no right to work. The reliance of our whole country on immigration…whole sectors would collapse without it…care, NHS and more.

Mix56 · 07/05/2026 15:01

Immigrants are coming in the vast majority because of the financial assistance. Many are not genuine asylum seekers. There should be a proper immigration procedure. If you are not accepted, you cant get entry, you won’t get benefits, free health care, or be able to work, or procure a NiNo
If I want to emmigrate to Canada, for example, I have to prove I speak the language, (a test with a fee), prove my qualifications with a fee(WES), pass a medical, prove I have no criminal record. Prove I have sufficient funds to survive until I get settled & get work & a whole list of other admin. & then PAY a considerable fee to IRCC.
Then I wait … & I may or may not get accepted.

Jane379 · 07/05/2026 14:59

stateofthem · 07/05/2026 12:59

I’ve seen an awful lot of political posts here recently, generally displeased with labour (other policies are for a separate thread) and taking hard stances on immigration.

I often feel as though people have a very blinkered view on immigration which does sway the argument. It seems to be either “let everyone in” or “let no one in” as such.

One point I wish to make is that currently you must be in the UK to be able to make an asylum claim. This (in my opinion) is the biggest factor in small boats/mass migration.

If I were in charge I would propose the following:

Re-implement the ability to seek asylum from abroad via one safe legal channel. Enforce that applications must be made via this route (obviously with concessions for no internet, poor English etc).

Applications are reviewed on a case by case basis, and if rejected, a person is placed onto a register explaining the reason for rejection (and possibly a timescale of when they could reapply).

Anyone who does not follow this channel is returned to their country of origin.

Anyone who arrives having not followed this policy is returned to their country of origin.

I appreciate that the above would need a lot of work and investment, and it’s not quite as straightforward as how I set it out, but I feel as if it’s a reasonable response which allows some migrants but not uncontrolled.

at the moment it feels as though both sides of the coin are offering very extreme solutions either way, and I feel as though someone needs to offer a more reasonable and middle way approach.

I am interested to hear others opinions on this, and if you disagree, what would you do instead?

You sound very sensible to me.

womendeserveequalhumanrights · 07/05/2026 14:59

Also a lot of people claiming there is 'ill-will' towards immigrants is deliberately missing the point that it's the young men who rape children that people don't want and there are a lot of them. We have enough of our own rapists thanks, we don't need to add to the abuse of children. I think it's clear that if there were hotels full of Afghan women and their children the attitudes, in general, would be very different as they don't pose the same risk.

They'd also be far more likely to take up care jobs. Care jobs are disproportionately done by women. Agree with PP who said that forcing people to do care jobs is a bad idea - it will end with abuse of those being cared for. It's a difficult job and not everyone should do it.

Lavender14 · 07/05/2026 14:58

5MinuteArgument · 07/05/2026 14:50

So if its hard work ... we must get immigrants to do it (which is the same idea as Zack Polanski came out with, he didn't want to wipe bums for a living).

The reason that's its not solved is because there is no will to solve it. There's a lot of vested interests in the current dysfunctional system. Employers looking for cheap labour, politicians looking for votes, unscrupulous landlords, criminals and lawyers on a never ending gravy train.

Edited

I'm not saying we need to get immigrants to do work people don't want to do here but I'm saying that suggesting it should be British people in British jobs and off benefits is not a straightforward answer.

ChequerToRed · 07/05/2026 14:58

Sophiehoney · 07/05/2026 14:39

I'd make it safer and easier, that's what I'd do.

All welcome, it's a free world. Borders are imaginary lines 🤗

Let’s be honest here, that is just a vacuous fluffy soundbite and a batshit way of dealing with the issue. Have you even given it more than 15 seconds thought?
In a world without borders, how can you have a welfare state? How can you have free at the point of use healthcare? How will you prevent international organised crime? How will you prevent people trafficking? How will you enforce law?
How will you prevent exploitation? How will you collect taxes to pay for any of it?
As it currently stands a world without borders would turn into a two tier dystopian shit hole very quickly indeed.
It’ll be Hunger Games, not Star Trek.

5MinuteArgument · 07/05/2026 14:56

Fluffypuppy1 · 07/05/2026 14:45

This.

Apparently 406,824 student visas and 19,647 dependants just for 2025. Also around 15,000 students claimed asylum last year.

Yes, another racket that the dysfunctional immigration system is propping up.

Figcherry · 07/05/2026 14:56

The government need to have swift processes for determining whether someone is eligible to stay in the UK or not.
If we could turn around eligibility in 3 months then the immigrants who were allowed to stay could get jobs and get on with their lives which is what the majority want.

Lavender14 · 07/05/2026 14:56

ReallyOtter · 07/05/2026 14:41

I do not approve of replacing Bad sex segregation by the Taliban with Good sex segregation by the Brits.

Brown men are demonised and brown women are patronised.

Maybe more British men will get Afghan wives, sex workers, or cleaners if the men do not come?

Please, have some respect.

Boys may be gay, autistic, proto feminist allies, or all sorts. They deserve to travel with their mums.

Why wouldn't boys come when I said women and children? That would also create safe passage for children who have lost their families. Did I not literally just say that the young men I work with are opposed to anti feminist regimes?

"Maybe more British men will get Afghan wives, sex workers, or cleaners if the men do not come?" Where in the fuck did I say anything like this??? And why only Afghan women? If you come to a new country seeking asylum after trauma you need structured support to get on your feet because it is difficult, that's not patronising it's fact. There is currently wholly inadequate support for people seeking asylum here and their independence is actively suppressed by the home office refusing to allow them to work and earn while they have to wait years for approval on their application.

Where is the sex segregation if men still have pathways to seek asylum? Why are you opposed to removing barriers that make it harder for solo female asylum seekers and children at risk to get here safely?