In despair. Husband is taking ages to find a role

Well that’s great for you, of course it’s not impossible but just because it worked out that quickly for you it doesn’t mean it’s a reasonable expectation for everyone

You’re very lucky. It’s difficult atm.

Well if you managed that it's great evidence that no one else should be struggling.

I can't agree with people saying its only been a month
I was made redundant in January on a Monday and had a new job by the Friday. It is one that pays 8k more.

It might not be that he’s refusing to apply; it’s that the roles themselves are being erased. I’ve had to retrain and start over at nearly 40 because the video game and film industries fundamentally collapsed under the weight of AI and mass layoffs. This isn't isolated to just one sector, either - AI is hollowing out careers across the board, and there simply might not be a 'job' left for him to go after.

”you don’t sound very sorry”. 😂.

i appear to have hit a nerve.

what I’m trying to convey to the OP is that speaking to recruiters and having chats with them is part of the job search (in fact,
for many of us, it’s how we find our next role)

You don’t sound very sorry
perhaps if he had of been networking and chatting to recruiters for the fun of it, he wouldn’t be in the position he’s in now.
Most of the good jobs are never advertised
Just a thought

Apologies if I’ve offended you Ms Recruitment company . But what I mean is: he’s not chatting away to recruiters for the fun of it

a necessary evil ? I bet the recruiters that spend eight hours a day on the phone to the clients trying to secure people positions Would love to hear that their candidates think of them.
The margins are so tight these days it practically is charity work

@saminamama all those chats with recruiters are a necessary evil. At your husbands level, a lot of jobs are through networking. He was made redundant. That’s a self esteem killer as it is.

in the current market he is very very unlikely to find a new job in 2 weeks: you’re being completely unrealistic

Fucking hell. I’m glad my DH didn’t have this attitude when I lost my job

Yes sham redundancy - apologies for not using the correct terminology, it was a long time ago but the outcome was the same regardless.

I don’t want to be bullish but, no it couldn’t be. If they didn’t resign it cannot be constructive unfair dismissal. If it’s a sham redundancy there is relevant case law, but not for constructive.

Recruiters have to have these "pointless chats" especially if he is on a high salary in a senior role

They can't just spec him out to potential employers if they have never even spoken to him

It takes time and I can't totally get your frustration when you are looking after the kids and exhausted. I do think he is taking the piss with going swimming and leaving you to sort everything

Get him to get on LinkedIn and start approaching the hiring managers himself. If he can target businesses that are in the same sector he has worked in etc

I was made redundant last year, had best part of a year's notice, so not as quick as your DH.

I started looking for work in April - and the start of that was working on CVs, LinkedIn etc. - had nothing by the time I finished in the job at the end of September, no interview, not a single response, nothing. I was fortunate to get another job quickly once I was unemployed but that was through someone I knew through the old job. Trying to get something through contacts/networking doesn't seem completely unreasonable in the current climate.

DH has faced two redundancies in the last 10years. During Covid redundancy he decided to pivot slightly in his industry - 14months. Recently, 4 months. He’s at senior level, excellent reputation in his industry, but you can’t magic jobs and interviews from nowhere within 4 weeks. It was a full time job tweaking CVs, chasing ‘chats’ and looking for opportunities. While at home he also took over the large proportion of school runs, cleaning and cooking. I think it can also depend what level you are in the industry and what your industry is. It’s tough out there.

Some posts on here are fucking mental

Pay off your credits cards, apply for UC as a single mother and LTB.

I said could be, they are definitely circumstances in which it could be, it happened to a friend of mine - but it's not what happened according to the drip feed.

and I have felt mentally better and he is now picking up childcare a bit more to allow me to go back to work without using a nursery for our youngest or already exhausted and still working grandparents.

Im pleased to read your most recent post @saminamama because previously, your DH was being a lazy dick. And it didn’t sound good that he was difficult to work with and his manager didn’t like him.

It’s a shock being made redundant but life goes on and he was doing nothing around the house or for the care of his children.

If you are employed and returning to work after maternity leave, then he needs to take on the bulk of the household work and childcare. If he’s not working he needs to do the childcare of his own DC , thus making a significant material contribution while he’s not earning actual cash.

He can apply for jobs and do interviews around that - most women manage the “double shift” so he’ll have to learn.

Good luck and I hope you can find a more balanced sharing of the work of your family in the future.

Agree that an 80k job is going to be hard to find in the current economic climate.

There are loads of sales jobs about though. He needs to be prepared to take a lower paid sales job, and then potentially work back up.

I certainly agree with your second point - it may (I'd say is likely to) take months.

Look Asda was just an example, there are plenty of temp agencies that can provide temporary or seasonal work etc. I guess what I'm saying is you don't need to get a perfect job, just get something while you look for the perfect job.

If you are on 80k it may take several months to get a new job

Talk about snobby. That doesn't pay the bills

My ex bf had a very good job working in London and when he got made redundant he came home and got a job as a manager in a shop. He then started his own business selling fruit and veg and he's now a manager in Tesco

Sorry but there are lots of people who take other jobs because they have to