In despair. Husband is taking ages to find a role

Good luck to your husband 🤞. But you’ve just had a financial wake-up call, you have really low savings and significant debt, and your first reaction to him getting a job will be to fritter money away on unnecessary rubbish? I’m surprised you don’t at least want to build up a 12 month buffer first for the next time?

How do you support yourself for a year without a job

What a weird thing to say

My husband was made redundant a year ago and he still hasn’t found anything. However, I think it is to do with his age.

All the best to your DH, OP. Hope to see you back here with good news.

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Unless he is an actor, why doesn't he look for a job instead of for a "role"?

Just to say OP my son has also commented that the recruiting process seems very slow at moment - companies are using long application windows to get the right people rather than just get someone in hence why it probably seemed slow start - he’s in work but looking around and just now getting calls back 3 weeks after applications

Good luck, sounds like there has been some positive progress and if he doesn’t get these at least he is getting interviews. The time spend on the cv was probably worth it

Hope he gets it OP!!

Good luck to him, hope he gets the one he wants

Keeping everything crossed OP

I think there’s two separate issues here and some people are conflating them:

• The job market at the moment is brutal, particularly white collar jobs. Worst its been in about 30 years. People saying he needs to get on his bike and find something either don’t work in knowledge industry jobs or are being goady. It could easily take a year for him to get another job. Having coffee with recruiters actually isn’t a bad approach
• But, he can certainly be doing more to help you at home. Job hunting is tile consuming but he’s perfectly able to combine this with pulling his weight

I am glad he is getting balls rolling.
You did not give him time enough. The job market can be rather brutal in some sectors. And you were far too pushy and distrusting of him. You are scared, of course. I bet you he is too. And ge is the one on the spotlight, so ease up a bit.

Daft.

How quickly people find a new job involves so many factors: the sector they work in, where they live, their age (ageism is a thing), their level of skills, experience and qualifications...

The fact that you found a job quickly does not mean everyone else can. That's just basic common sense.

Lots are in this position right now, millions in fact. It’s a crisis and largely down to AI. It took one of my student’s a year to get employed after graduating (saw on LinkedIn). It’s sadly just very common right now.

My partner took 9 months to land a new position, and even that is a temporary contract.
IT management. They were following up 10+ leads per month, and basically landed the role via networking.

Hit a nerve? No you’re just being incredibly rude about the very people by your own admission that are able to help in these situations to navigate through AI and avoid the dreaded ATS and clueless talent acquisition team
Let’s hope you don’t find yourself in need of a role with your poor communication and lack of manners
You’ll be in the shit 😂

Op

as always two sides to this
i have been in similar situations a couple of times. These things really do take time. Many many seemingly pointless discussions are all part of it. It only takes one to hit gold
as well as agents and networking he should obviously be trawling LinkedIn, job boards etc. all takes time

but otoh yes it took too long re the cv. And of course many people looking for work currently have a job, so there is no reason why job hunting should be more than a couple of days plus couple evenings a week.

rest of time full on household management. Other than the breastfeeding he should be doing the lot….. you should both have equal downtime

Crass comment.
perhaps you were underpaid before…

There are people who take months to find a new job. It can be hard out there

Surely that depends on what sector you are in, competition and salary level - at the higher ends the process is longer and less opportunities unless with a very in demand skill and not many candidates

Especially since being a single mother with two kids will definitely not allow the OP to keep an expensive house and stay on maternity leave/work very parttime.
Sometimes it can’t be avoided, but as a reaction of a husband being made redundant from well paid job and being a bit shell shocked for 2 weeks its - very mumsnet (i.e. completely out of proportion).
i swear some people have no idea of real life….

Good for you. I lost my job in April (actual job ended at the end of May) and didn’t start a new one until July