In despair. Husband is taking ages to find a role

Very similar situation happened to my husband. His role (and a few others) was made redundant as it went Asia. Useless manager who didn't really manage properly so maybe that's why. Had ten days to accept the redundancy package which was better than statutory so was forced to accept. Redundancy was out of the blue so was shocked this had happened.

Think you're being unfair that it took 2 weeks to apply for a role as it takes a while to consolidate what you have done in the previous role, add to CV and write a letter why you're interested in the role. This takes time and the job market is challenging. However by now should be much quicker! Took husband 4/5months for a new role and he was very lucky. Did lots of applications but often they got ignored. Had many chats with recruiters but very few formal interviews.

Do agree with the other posts he should taking on more household responsibilities and you'll need to talk about the future. Have a timeframe of applying for jobs in his field and then to apply for any job. At this point he should be very motivated to find another job. If applicable, try linkedin as recruiters would reach out there as well.

how long had he worked there? That feels a low redundancy payment

You need to have a strong conversation with him. Tell him he needs to get ANY job at this point in time. Tell him to call the mortgage company and switch to interest only. Tell him to make a budget showing how to eke out the savings you’ve got to see how long it lasts.

If you don’t have much in savings can you get UC in a month’s time?

Make it VERY clear that on the days you’re working HE is doing the food, the chores, the kids - unless meh has an interview . That still gives him 5 days a week, and all his evenings, to hunt for jobs .

You’re not working and he’s looking for work so I don’t think you can really complain about this! They might be fruitless conversations so far but a job isn’t going to magically land in his lap without such calls and meetings.

You are very stressed he can’t really do right for wrong at the moment can he. Those chats could just lead to a job
That said he really does need to pull his weight at home as well, you need to make that clear to him.
one thing that could help is a mortgage holiday, it will give you some breathing room

You are unfortunately being utterly unreasonable.
For senior (ish) positions, it takes a while. CV ready, chat with recruiter. Recruiter taking to employers (probably happening now). Employers getting ready for interviews (easily 4-6 weeks for a big business), several rounds of interviews….
Loads of companies getting rid of remote employees now as travel to location gets way to expensive. Not his fault.

He's taking the absolute piss out of you. He needs to pull his weight on the domestic front right now at the absolute minimum. He also needs to be doing childcare to enable you to go back more hours to keep yourselves afloat. You need to get a bit angry I think.

I think you are being a bit harsh, cant take weeks for application forms to be sifted. Also each application should take a few days of you want to tailor your andwers

What are your relative skill levels? Maybe you should be looking for higher paid work instead of looking to kick him when he is already down?

I understand you are worried, but times are tough right now and it has only been 4 weeks.

It is a hard job market at the moment.

I was made redundant last June, had a few interviews and 3 final interviews and still nothing in my field.

Thankfully a friend helped me get a retail job while I look but it seems to have slowed even more since then!

My ExH recently changed jobs.

it took a lot of chats to generate a few job leads and a lot of applications to get an interview.

obviously I don’t know how hard your dh is working on his networking and applications but interviews are hard to come by at the moment.

exh got his new job through the chats with former colleagues/networking.

You need to make an application for universal credit asap.

I am sorry but have you looked at the labour market at the moment? It depends on jobs of course but if I was made redundant in my field will take a minimum of 5-6 months to get another role. A month is nothing. I understand the anxiety but you need to chill and build savings so that doesn’t happen again..

Well none of us know for sure. I don't think there is any point in dwelling on it now either to be honest. He's probably reeling a bit too isn't he? I would be.

I’ve just started a new role after looking for a year, it’s hard out there. It’s important to have communication and discuss concerns on both sides in this situation, he’s probably just as worried as you are

Yeah he's going to have to change his mindset on that. He could job hunt 3 days a week and you could work 4, and he can job hunt whilst the baby naps.

I would suggest he needs to have a good look at his CV - is he applying in the same field? How niche is it? How transferable are his skills.
Lots of roles come from contacts rather than cold applications, so he needs to be really proactive on LinkedIn - update his profile, show recruiters that he’s available for work, contact his existing connections and make new ones in areas / organisations that he’s interested in.
I don’t think you said how old he is, but, if ‘older’ he may want to only show the past 10 years’ experience on his CV plus relevant qualifications. I say that as someone in their 50s who was made redundant last year and did this. Has he contacted recruitment agencies for contract work as well as perm?
If he struggles to get organised maybe a daily list or dedicated time each day to get these things done would help?

If your wage just about covers the mortgage, and he got a deal for £11k, I think you should be able to make that last longer than 2 months. I'd sit down and look at all your outgoings and cut what you can back for now. I'd also look at if you can take a break from your mortgage. And work out when he needs to take any work versus a job he wants. I'd also make sure he's claiming job seekers.