To say 'make your own breakfast' to Husband

The fact that your 16 year old is incapable of making himself a sandwich, hot chocolate or any sort of lunch. Lord knows how he will cope if he goes to university.

The correct response to “Can I get some toast and eggs too” is “sure, I’ll be out of your way in a moment as I’m start work/whatever job”. Fuck that for any day other than a Sunday when I may do a cooked breakfast (perhaps once in 4 weeks).

You say ‘that’s right son’.

You are doing the world no favours at all in raising another lazy, entitled man.

Wait - YOU STILL MADE YOUR SON THE SANDWICH?! Ffs op - i give up!! Good luck to you.

Why cant he turn on the washing machine himself???
I am genuinely agog at this! I have 2 adult sons. At 16 they could do all this stuff for themselves, plus make an evening meal for the family, make a fab gin and tonic and whatever else needed doing!

He's 16!!!! Old enough to join the army!

This is all a bit mental.
I work part time and don't make all the meals and hot chocolates you make, not even for a seven year old.

'Rod' and 'your own back' come to mind.

Doing more eggs and toast, while doing eggs and toast, doesn’t seem like a big ask. 🤷‍♀️

FFS do not go part time. If you do that will give them more reason to expect you to wait on them. Stop being a martyr, let themselves sort themselves out. Your son needs to be able to look after himself and you are not doing him any favours. He’s certainly not going to be an appealing catch of a partner later on is he?

Why did you get into the habit of cooked breakfast, cooked lunch, cooked evening meal and cooking chicken goujons as an evening snack for your DS ?

Madness! You're probably exhausted not just from all the cooking but also from all the food !

My 10 year old cooks herself lunch. Ramen, beans on toast, cheese on toast, oven stuff, stuff that needs a saucepan like soup, stuff that needs a frying pan like peppers, stuff that needs an air fryer like jacket potatoes, stuff that needs a microwave like defrosting or porridge.

The 13 year old could to (under 10 year old's tuition and guidance!) but prefers sandwiches and is lazy.

No. My 10 and 13 year olds make their own lunches. Have done since 9 and 11.

So you can’t put another 2 slices of bread in the toaster and crack 2 extra eggs? It would have been completely different if you were intermittent fasting or having cereal or something but you were already making toast end eggs!

Your husband’s request was perfectly reasonable but his sulking isn’t.

What is the matter with people? FFS his request was neither reasonable nor is any sulking. You were fed up and not being petty. It was rude to ask you to make food after you had already offered and was told no and just as you’re about to eat your own breakfast!

When I asked him before I started making mine he said no thanks when I was taking mine off the stove, he came and said can you do mine too
Yes I do feel like I was petty, and he did look very shocked

All these women acting like you’re a stepford wife. It is bloody exhausting looking after everyone else and working a professional job. Your feelings are valid here.

Give him a recipe book.

I can't remember getting drinks for my kids when they were that age. I think you could make life much easier by cutting back on that.

Is your husband so tired he's thinking of working less hours?

Having said that it might be worth getting your bloods checked.

Yes. They’re perfectly capable of making their own lunch and have been for years, at least since y7.

So he gets bloated from bread but wanted eggs & toast for breakfast?

Would the sandwiches have bloated him if you had made them?

Why didn't you get your son to make his own sandwich?

My 7 year old can make his own lunch, I do it most of the time but he can, does and likes to. A sandwich, something on toast, a wrap etc he can grab fruit from the bowl and yoghurt from the fridge

Agree. You need to stop taking all these hints as instructions and learn to ignore or say, ‘ooh! Yes please. I’ll have one too as your making them’

Breakfast is making your own for sure. If you’re literally about to crack the eggs in the pan and can fit another, sure but otherwise no way would I during the week. Likewise would not be making anyone lunch unless whatever I was having made more than one portion easily.

I also always think, what would DH be doing if he wasn’t making his food? If the answer is sitting on the sofa on his phone while I rush around the kitchen, he can do it himself!

No shade from me for having a mini lie down!! Being a martyr doesn’t benefit anyone!!

I just meant that they’re revising. They’ve already had language oral exams this week and they had coursework that had to be submitted after Easter so they’ve just been really busy and at home a lot. (Twins)

I cannot believe you are tired because you are running around after two idle blokes who think they are entitled to maid service and your solution to that is to reduce your independence so you can be a better, more energetic maid.

I want to shake you till your teeth rattle.

I agree, cutting her hours would be a really poor decision.

Why on Earth can’t your teenage children make their own breakfast, lunch, snacks? You aren’t doing them any favours by infantilising them.