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AIBU to apologise after DH barked at the neighbour's dog?

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Greyblankie · 23/04/2026 13:48

Last year the neighbour behind us got a small dog. It yaps.

Anyway DH has been complaining to me about this irritating dog ever since she got it and admittedly it is very annoying but what can you do? It’s during the day and it’s not constant.

He’s been away with work for 3 days and has come back grumpy and tired - last night he went outside to check on his plants and the dog started yapping. DH went absolutely bonkers, started running up and down the fence barking and snarling like a dog until the woman came out and hastily took her dog back inside. Mortified!! I know he was tired but Jesus he was acting like a psychopath

Hes back at work today and she’s sat outside in the sun - do I pop my head over and apologise/explain or leave it and assume we’re no longer on good terms 😬

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MyObservations · 26/04/2026 15:15

I'm with your DH on this; good for him!

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · 26/04/2026 15:12

Omg just seen this, thank you OP, needed this laugh 😂

If her dog is allowed to bark in its garden, your DH is allowed to bark in his garden. There's nothing to apologise for.

JudgeJ · 26/04/2026 14:46

BernardButlersBra · 25/04/2026 21:12

How do you tell a cat what to do or not do?! Plus it was your cats walk by the sound of it

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That's exactly what the cat said, this is my wall! He did allow us near it if he was feeling generous that day.

Looneytunez · 26/04/2026 10:56

When I notice my dogs are barking I tell them to stop and if they wont I bring them inside. Either way it is a noise nuisance and I applaud your husband for his creativity.

Harhar · 26/04/2026 10:16

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 26/04/2026 10:08

Hope you warmed up properly before that leap. 🤣

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I did yeah, in the garden whilst ribbiting. Funny huh?

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 26/04/2026 10:08

Harhar · 26/04/2026 09:48

Obsessed with pointing out that grown men barking in gardens is not funny. Rather that than arguing it is. How long have you been a furry?

Hope you warmed up properly before that leap. 🤣

Daleksatemyshed · 26/04/2026 09:50

Op, that's the best thread title I've seen on here in weeks 😅

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 26/04/2026 09:50

xerodo · 25/04/2026 21:40

It's obvious who are dog owners and who aren't in this thread 😂

If I lived next to a barking dog and was having a bad day, I would probably end up snapping too.

OP, your husband has nothing to apologise for. At least now your neighbour knows how annoyed you are with her yapping dog.

I’m a dog owner and lover and I’m Team DH.

My dog is trained, unlike most of the yappy little “cute” dogs that get away with everything. I’m a responsible owner who knows my large dog needs me to be the boss, not his indulgent servant. Can’t stand handbag dogs that are allowed to be utter pests to everyone.

Harhar · 26/04/2026 09:48

Obsessed with pointing out that grown men barking in gardens is not funny. Rather that than arguing it is. How long have you been a furry?

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 26/04/2026 09:44

Harhar · 25/04/2026 19:13

That’s ok. Very few of you know anything about comedy yet still feel able to comment.

So invested, so obsessed 🤣

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 26/04/2026 09:40

SetTheWorldOnFire84 · 25/04/2026 18:31

Yes apologise. If my neighbour did that I'm jump the fence and deck him. What a sad little twat.

Now that’s a response far more disproportionate than what the DH did. So much anger. Have you thought about self care to improve your internal rage? Wink

Harhar · 26/04/2026 09:36

What is life if you can’t bark like a dog without people thinking you’re weird?!

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 26/04/2026 09:33

Harhar · 24/04/2026 20:50

Yeah great result if you want a lunatic for a husband.

Oh chill. It’s not that deep. He did one daft thing. If you’ve never ever done one daft thing in your life, well… I’d say you’re lying. Or so uptight you don’t know what life is.

Harhar · 26/04/2026 08:12

Reminds me of this. Grim!

AIBU to apologise after DH barked at the neighbour's dog?
Daisythepussycat · 26/04/2026 07:45

Sounds entirely reasonable of him to me - I always bark back at annoying dogs.

Hopelessinhomecounties · 26/04/2026 07:45

I agree I’d be furious if it was me. I’d probably not apologies just say hi. And leave it at that. (You could have been out yesterday … so at least you’re on speaking terms. He can deal with the apology himself.
if she says anything play dumb

Nurturegrow11 · 26/04/2026 05:56

Say nothing, it’s almost like pretending it didn’t happen

Soccerislife · 26/04/2026 02:17

I don’t know why you’d apologise on his behalf.

Those small yappy dogs are so annoying.

IndigoBluey · 26/04/2026 01:51

did DH get down on all fours for the episode? I think that’s a key missing part. Could it be that he identifies as a K-9?

Daisyhon · 25/04/2026 23:41

Why are you apologising ? Anyway she should not leave a little dog outside on its own unattended . Sorry but the mental picture of a guy running up & down barking through the fence is hilarious 😂 Your neighbour probably thinks hubby is a nutcase 😂 maybe your hubbys behaviour has done the trick x

rwalker · 25/04/2026 23:35

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 25/04/2026 23:06

I have never owned a dog in my life. I still think the DH acted like a twat

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The dog owner is a twat for letting her dog bark
she got the message and did the decent thing and took the yappy fucker in

Bifster · 25/04/2026 23:13

Ha ha. When I was younger I worked all hours for social services. Often I would get in at 3, 4, 5 am. At 6 the attached neighbours would kick their mongrel out...bark bark bark. Having had an hours sleep I lost it and in my pants started hurling abuse at the dog and threatening to slice its head open with the spade I happened to have in my hand. My neighbours in the area had never ever heard me raise my voice and the dog looked a bit peturbed. The owners stayed inside. 3 days later the dog was gone. " James (aged 2 ) beit it on the tayel (they were welsh)". I think you have to stand your ground. 2 weeks later I heard her screaming so I jumped the low fence to find hubby (and first cousin) on the floor convulsing. He could pick a mini up he was so strong. He had pared the flesh off his hand with a grinder, and swallowed his tongue. As I put my fingers in to hook his tongue out he had another fit and bit down on my 2 index fingers with his neanderthal jaws. I manged to wriggle my right (now deformed) finger free and gave him a right whack in the face to save the left digit from amputation.
They moved and divorced shortly after that. He might have been an ignorant dick and I have no regrets about my extreme behaviour towards the dog. No thanks for saving his life but I dont regret my actions.
Ps how can a picture of a deformed finger be 'sensitive'?

AIBU to apologise after DH barked at the neighbour's dog?
LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 25/04/2026 23:06

xerodo · 25/04/2026 21:40

It's obvious who are dog owners and who aren't in this thread 😂

If I lived next to a barking dog and was having a bad day, I would probably end up snapping too.

OP, your husband has nothing to apologise for. At least now your neighbour knows how annoyed you are with her yapping dog.

I have never owned a dog in my life. I still think the DH acted like a twat

xerodo · 25/04/2026 21:40

It's obvious who are dog owners and who aren't in this thread 😂

If I lived next to a barking dog and was having a bad day, I would probably end up snapping too.

OP, your husband has nothing to apologise for. At least now your neighbour knows how annoyed you are with her yapping dog.

Webbo5 · 25/04/2026 21:39

Yes like keeping it in the house more.