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To think I’ll be stuck at 16 stone forever

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justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 06:45

I’m in the process of losing weight and since the start of the year I’ve lost about 13lbs.

But I seem to be in a loop. I’ll hit 16 stone 0.3 on the scales and then go back up to 16 stone 4, then go back down, then back up. It’s like an annoying cycle.

I eat well:

breakfast - yoghurt with berries and sometimes a drizzle of honey. On low protein days I’ll add some skyr.

lunch - something from home. Usually soup, a salad or a bit of meat with some veg.

dinner - again something prepped. Can be another big salad, cottage pie, pasta bake.

I eat 1550 calories a day, which is a deficit for my height and weight. I go to the gym twice a week (under the direction of a PT, to lift weights), try to run 3 times a week but I’m waiting on some new running shoes, and the other two days a week I’ll walk 10k steps minimum. I try to drink 4 litres of water a day at least.

my clothes fit better but the scale just won’t change 😥 do I just accept I’m stuck here?

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Monty36 · 23/04/2026 11:48

Are you on any medication OP?

I am amazed at the amount of medications that ‘may gain weight’ as stated in the side effects. As if it is nothing to worry over.
I once gained two stone on medication that my consultant changed. I didn’t eat or exercise differently. I still cannot shift it. When I talked to him about it he said at least it wasn’t five stone !

Some medicines can make people gain weight.

BeesAndCrumpets · 23/04/2026 11:46

Also, running and the gym absolutely work me - for e.g. a 5K (35mins) run I can burn 350 calories for me, according to my stats.

Scarlettpixie · 23/04/2026 11:43

Weight loss injections?

SomethingFun · 23/04/2026 11:42

Op to lose less than a pound a week I am doing

  • intermittent fasting
  • 1200-1400 cals
  • wli
  • walk at least 10k steps a day
  • exercise various ways and jog

I remember doing atkins and losing 10lb in a week, doing slim fast and losing half a stone in a week etc etc in my 20s. In my 30s gym and calorie counting worked. In my early 40s Body Coach eating plan and exercise worked. Zoe I didn’t lose a pound in the year I did it. Now mid 40s I’m doing all of the above to lose weight slowly. What I will say with doing wli is it shows there are other things happening in your body that impact weight loss - I have plateaued and gained weight even when taking the same medication week in, week out.

BeesAndCrumpets · 23/04/2026 11:42

Ahhh @justmeandthedogs - I feel your pain.

A reminder to the snipers: Weight loss isn't linear. It is personal.

I think you're doing an amazing job if your clothes feel better. Scales are not your mate - perhaps hide them for a week or two. Take the pressure off.

I would suggest some slight tweaks and see if it makes a difference? Drop some carbs (mix courgetti with spaghetti/cauliflower rice with normal rice) and up the protein on the calories you're having at the moment. Think about intermittent fasting perhaps a day or two a week - just in essence dropping one or two meals a week - it might shift something in the scales for you. It works a treat for some of my friends.

I had to give up oats (completely - overnight oats with water, berries/banana/0% yogurt had to go, I was devastated!) and everything bread based that wasn't sourdough (I only have sourdough rarely now). That was all that was needed for me to see a shift on the scales - and I maintained the suggested calories via Nutracheck, so it wasn't a calories thing, for me, it was a food that didn't agree with my body and my goals.

Good luck OP.

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 11:39

DannyDeever · 23/04/2026 11:36

...and the fact you've lost a stone demonstrates that. But now you've plateaued and the original calculation is wrong, you need to adjust intake. You'll get used to it just as you did before.

Yes but actively challenging what I say I eat. I count the calories in a slice of avocado and sourdough and egg and people are going “no you’re wrong”

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Ang69 · 23/04/2026 11:39

Take a look at Team RH. Not everyone's cup of tea granted but honestly, they are brilliant ( to me anyway).

I was just a little bit overweight but wanted to feel better in my clothes and not look pregnant by the evening.

I'm 5ft 3, starting weight was 67kgs. Started March 9th do a little over a month. Calories set for me are 1550, I walk 7 to 10,000 steps a day, no running. 20 minutes of weight training x 3 weekly and 2 to 3 weekly sessions on exer ise bike. My weight has dropped to 63.kgs.

Their app is brilliant, much much better than MFP. It is so easy to underestimate your calories even when tracking. Take a look if you haven't already. Good luck, it sounds like you're determined and are doing all the right things. I would absolutely not drop further, this will cause you to binge and lose muscle. I suspect your tracking is not as accurate as you think.

purpleygrey · 23/04/2026 11:37

Tellmetomorrow57 · 23/04/2026 07:04

I don't know why posters are so quick to disbelieve you about calorie counting!

Because it’s so easy to go over on your calories when you’re not counting them properly.

dips/oil in cooking/milk in tea all the little things really do add up.

if OP is really having a 1500calories at her weight she should be loosing.

Fooledaroundandfellinlove · 23/04/2026 11:37

I would cut down on the carbs and up your veg and protein. See if it makes a difference.

DannyDeever · 23/04/2026 11:36

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 11:32

Fuck me I don’t mean to be rude but are you just not believing me because I’m fat?! I calorie count. I weigh it out and count.

...and the fact you've lost a stone demonstrates that. But now you've plateaued and the original calculation is wrong, you need to adjust intake. You'll get used to it just as you did before.

LillyoftheValleys · 23/04/2026 11:36

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 11:32

Fuck me I don’t mean to be rude but are you just not believing me because I’m fat?! I calorie count. I weigh it out and count.

Wow- that's a pretty tetchy response OP.
You okay?

I said an avocado can be 250 cals. And?

I made the point that you shouldn't need to calorie count at all if you focus on the general principles of smallish portions of lean protein, lots of fruit, veg, bit of dairy and some nuts.

Anyway I tried to help and I'm not here to take swearing etc..

All the best.

.

Sunnysideup999 · 23/04/2026 11:35

Lift heavier weights to increase muscle mass to increase metabolism.
cut bread and refined sugar and white carbs

LillyoftheValleys · 23/04/2026 11:32

Lemonthyme · 23/04/2026 11:23

I read an article recently that said Zoe are quietly dropping their claims on glucose spikes and moving to being focused on gut health. Quite often their claims in the past (and the Glucose Goddess) have been based on some pretty weak evidence.

That all said, insulin resistance is thought to be a contributor to weight gain or at least making weight loss hard. But it doesn't mean glucose spikes or avoiding them is the answer. Or at least not the advice GG gives. I'd be more keen on reducing or avoiding refined carbs as a strategy than worrying about necking vinegar.

Zoe has never been just about glucose spikes. I don't know where you're getting that from unless their marketing has changed recently. I did Zoe around 2 years ago. It was never just about glucose but more about gut health.

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 11:32

LillyoftheValleys · 23/04/2026 11:27

That does not sound right.

Depending on the size of the avocado ,it can be 250 cals.
2 eggs are around 120 cals.
Sourdough- depends in how big slice is .Or how many you have.

As I said, I've looked at guides for weight loss or daily intake (not to lose weight) online and they are BS.

If I followed the guides I'd gain weight.

You said you ate lots of lovely sourdough- now it's just on a Saturday.

I do feel for you but I also think there is a mismatch between what you need to eat to lose weight and what you're eating.

How may grams of carbs are you eating in a day?
How much protein?

That's the basics.

You need just under 1 gm protein/ per kg weight a day (more if you're an athlete or older person), the rest should be piles of green veg, a small amount of wholegrain carbs or beans as your carbs, some fruit, a few nuts and some dairy.

Fuck me I don’t mean to be rude but are you just not believing me because I’m fat?! I calorie count. I weigh it out and count.

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PomPomSugar · 23/04/2026 11:32

LillyoftheValleys · 23/04/2026 11:17

But glucose spikes usually only come from eating carbs.

So what did you eat and not eat?

I've done the Zoe gut assessment and I monitored my glucose for 2 weeks with an arm patch. It rose after carbs including food like bananas but dropped quickly with exercise.

I didn't eat any fruit other than berries for a start - I was eating lots of varied fruit before because, you know, 'health'.

I followed GG incredibly strictly for months and within two weeks I was losing weight were I had been stagnant for months and months previously.

I am autistic, and part of that (for me) is routine/strictness so I always found it easier to stick to diet plans/methods religiously. I literally just did word for word what was in the book.

I have lost five stone in 13 months.

Frequency · 23/04/2026 11:31

LillyoftheValleys · 23/04/2026 11:27

That does not sound right.

Depending on the size of the avocado ,it can be 250 cals.
2 eggs are around 120 cals.
Sourdough- depends in how big slice is .Or how many you have.

As I said, I've looked at guides for weight loss or daily intake (not to lose weight) online and they are BS.

If I followed the guides I'd gain weight.

You said you ate lots of lovely sourdough- now it's just on a Saturday.

I do feel for you but I also think there is a mismatch between what you need to eat to lose weight and what you're eating.

How may grams of carbs are you eating in a day?
How much protein?

That's the basics.

You need just under 1 gm protein/ per kg weight a day (more if you're an athlete or older person), the rest should be piles of green veg, a small amount of wholegrain carbs or beans as your carbs, some fruit, a few nuts and some dairy.

I eat avocado sometimes, it's really good for you and tasty. If I were having it on toast, I would not be eating an entire avocado; at most, I would eat half.

OP's clothes are fitting better, which tells me what she's doing is working; she just needs to be patient and wait for the scales to catch up. Lots of things affect our scale weight, water retention, periods, muscle growth... Her shape changing is a far better indicator.

If in a month's time the scale still has not changed, then maybe she should alter something, but for now, she's doing great.

DannyDeever · 23/04/2026 11:31

Unpaidviewer · 23/04/2026 11:21

Its a massive oversimplification and not particularly helpful. This is a good article which explains why.
https://www.sydney.edu.au/news-opinion/news/2023/07/05/its-time-to-bust-the-calories-in-calories-out-weight-loss-myth.html

Nothing in that article debunks calories in/out at all!

One of the things it says is your body gets more efficient and managing with less calories. Well yes it does. So you have to reduce calories more. That doesn't mean your body is magically creating energy.

If I go into a calorie deficit now and remain so I will die.

Lemonthyme · 23/04/2026 11:30

PomPomSugar · 23/04/2026 11:26

But it worked me, it has completely changed my life.

Really glad for you. Tried it. Did all of the tips. Didn't lose an ounce. Actually I think I even gained weight.

Might be wider things in my diet at the time I was unaware of. But that's why I said you might need to try a few things.

PetsPalace · 23/04/2026 11:28

I have many of the same issues and I think different things work for different people so you're probably going to have to try a few things over several months to see if they work for you.
If you don't fancy the 16:8 system all the time, I've found that just doing a one day fast can help. I had to do a fasting blood test and then couldn't eat straight after so it was about 16 hours and then had better results when I next did my measurements.

I have horrendous periods which cause me all sorts of problems, including bloating. I eat a lot of veg but have found a fibre drink (ispaghula husk) for a few days before or at the start helps. I think it absorbs some of the water into the bowel which then helps with that side of my issues too.

I eat sourdough too but try not to have pasta more than once a week because I know it doesn't work for me. Have you tried quinoa? I use that instead of rice/pasta where I can so in salads for lunch or combined with mixed veg for dinner with salmon etc. It's a protein source as well so quite useful.
Have you heard about chilling carbs, it changes the structure (of the starch?), making them better for some people's digestion? I follow this advice for new potatoes and pasta so have them in a cold salad if I have them at all. I understand you can warm them back up again once you've chilled them and still get the same benefit. I freeze the rest of the sourdough loaf for toast and think it works the same way.

Do you drink the squash after meals or any time during the day? That could be affecting your digestion more than you realise. Try not to have it between meals because your body might be treating it like a snack, same with other drinks, even if they're low calorie. I only have water or black coffee between meals and if I want something else I tack it on to the end of a meal.
I'm obviously no expert so do your own research, I'm just telling you what seems to work for me.

LillyoftheValleys · 23/04/2026 11:27

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 11:15

So say on a Saturday I’ll have some sourdough toast, with avocado and eggs. About 400 calories.

That does not sound right.

Depending on the size of the avocado ,it can be 250 cals.
2 eggs are around 120 cals.
Sourdough- depends in how big slice is .Or how many you have.

As I said, I've looked at guides for weight loss or daily intake (not to lose weight) online and they are BS.

If I followed the guides I'd gain weight.

You said you ate lots of lovely sourdough- now it's just on a Saturday.

I do feel for you but I also think there is a mismatch between what you need to eat to lose weight and what you're eating.

How may grams of carbs are you eating in a day?
How much protein?

That's the basics.

You need just under 1 gm protein/ per kg weight a day (more if you're an athlete or older person), the rest should be piles of green veg, a small amount of wholegrain carbs or beans as your carbs, some fruit, a few nuts and some dairy.

Woodfiresareamazing · 23/04/2026 11:26

Woodfiresareamazing · 23/04/2026 11:21

From the sound of what you're eating, you need more protein and fewer carbs like bread and pasta.

I lost 3 stone in 5 months by intermittent fasting, no/low carbs, unlimited veggies, good lean protein at every meal, and walking every day.
(built up from a mile a day, having to stop frequently, to an easy 3 or 4 miles including uphill with no problems).

I went from 14 stone 4 to 11 stone.

Good luck!

Edited

Also, if you're building muscle with the exercise, that's more dense than fat (apparently - I was told this) , so you're building a healthier body but it's not showing as a loss on the scales.

Keep going! 💪

mzpq · 23/04/2026 11:26

OP, have you tried skipping breakfast completely?

I know some people can't because they get too hungry, but when was the last time you tried it?

PomPomSugar · 23/04/2026 11:26

Lemonthyme · 23/04/2026 11:23

I read an article recently that said Zoe are quietly dropping their claims on glucose spikes and moving to being focused on gut health. Quite often their claims in the past (and the Glucose Goddess) have been based on some pretty weak evidence.

That all said, insulin resistance is thought to be a contributor to weight gain or at least making weight loss hard. But it doesn't mean glucose spikes or avoiding them is the answer. Or at least not the advice GG gives. I'd be more keen on reducing or avoiding refined carbs as a strategy than worrying about necking vinegar.

But it worked me, it has completely changed my life.

DannyDeever · 23/04/2026 11:24

try something different

The OP seems to be doing exactly the the right thing. She's got total knowledge of calories going in and she's lost a stone. The only problem is she's slightly out on her calorie budget now and instead of allowing herself 1500kcals a day she needs a bit less.

She doesn't need a change, she needs a slight tweak. (Albeit a rather miserable one!)

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