HolyCheeses and Mary… the spreadsheet, the bullshit bingo and the aftermath. Part deux

There is nothing he can do that would be worse than how he would have treated you had you moved in with him.
I would expect him to unblock you so he can message you, I’d block him back and ignore him.

What a lemon he is.

Let’s not get OTT now. The guy’s a dick. OP is well rid. But slagging off your ex on FB, blocking them and then unblocking to send a “please reconsider” mail is a long way off criminal harassment.

The poster I quoted says: One hint of aggression and report ....
If you broke up already and he trashed your character on fb, what is this play now with second budget sheets unless it is nearing harassment....

No, I was expanding on the post which I quoted

I don't know about it being a con (although it certainly doesn't sound great). My real concerns would be the unilateral/controlling/secretive attitude to money and budgeting, and the petulant and spiteful responses to being told "no" and to OP ending the relationship.

Those things might not be dramatic and laughable in the same way as the initial financial demand (not to mention Spreadsheet 2: Return of the Phantom Budget). But they seem to be even more fundamental and pervasive problems with him as a partner. It's not just a single event or disagreement. It's his whole attitude towards OP and towards the relationship.

(FWIW, I really don't think there's been anything so far on the thread to justify police involvement at all. Obviously that's just my opinion.)

@HolyCheeses All it makes me think of is that stupid MS paper clip "it looks like you are trying to keep your con going. Would you like some help?"
Because who, in their right mind, would think that a spreadsheet would undo all that he's done. Also having been caught out with his expectations that you would want to continue the relationship.
Seperate houses/finances is always the answer!

Has he addressed the actual problem- that he was attempting a con?

Wonder are his parents musing over their revised spreadsheets today as he wasn't going to let them off paying either 🤔

JADE. Do not justify, argue, defend or explain.

You're broken up. You do not need to open it. You do not need to respond to it.

Block him. If he's unpleasant you don't need to hear it, it's not your problem. You don't need to be waiting on tenterhooks thinking what's he gonna do next.

The spreadsheet is amusing, but it actually makes your blood run cold when you think about what he was realy trying to do and what could have happened if OP hadn't have listened to her gut and switched onto his scam.

Agree, a simple polite “no” is the way to go OP. He might see getting no response from you as frustrating or use it to contact you again. You also have a record. IMO it’s best to shut it down.

I am starting to think you should contact the police OP. This now is another level of harassment insisting on money he does not have a right over

He really is rather dim if he thinks sending you a revised spreadsheet showing you don’t have to pay towards the mortgage any more will have you swooning in his arms!

Ok, dear OP, you know your job now, give us the new bingo cards

It gets worse. I just realised his intention of fleecing you of the funds from your property sale. Whilst keeping his property in his name only.

I think that is the only answer. A man capable of buying a mansion but having this kind of thinking....and yes, we thought rich people are mentally ok, sturdy and better for having money ....wow

is he that blind to reality? As to when romantic relationship was about spreadsheet....wow...speechless....did not expect this...thought your thread was slowly dying off

Maybe the revised food bill is to reflect his newly single sad life 😞 😔 😢

Too good to go has me howling

in glad you’re able to see the funny side now. You’ve done the right thing.

there is no reply required tbh. Silence is far more powerful than any reply you could ever send.

OP, take the time to do the math in each area to figure out EXACTLY how much he intended to rip you off each month.

Definitely have screenshots of everything to hand in your phone.
You never know when you will get the chance to set someone straight.

He undoubtedly intended to deliberately completely rip you off, after convincing you to move hours away.

I think he is a very bad man.
He clearly thought you were a soft touch.
I would guess this plan grew over time.
But it shows that he is a seriously dishonest man.

I wouldn't hesitate to show the screenshots to his best friends wife if you get the chance, or anyone else.
Cold hard facts.
I would frame it as you being so hurt that he intended to use and completely rip you off, after convincing you to sell and move.

Be very strategic in your upset.
That will be far more powerful.

One hint of aggression, report to the police.
Don't tolerate for a minute and tell them of his plan.

A spreadsheet. Mind blowing. Who says the age of romance is dead!
Yes it would be delicious to respond to his nonsense with a perfect one liner . But I agree with PPs - don’t respond. It’s not worthy of a response is it. And anything that lets him know you are thinking about him- even negatively- will give him a buzz. Your silence will speak volumes.

How about

Thank you for the spreadsheet but MY computer says No......