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HolyCheeses and Mary… the spreadsheet, the bullshit bingo and the aftermath. Part deux

434 replies

HolyCheeses · 22/04/2026 17:36

Was asked to start a thread.

started a thread.

OP posts:
bigboykitty · 15/09/2026 18:02

I bet the listing is so grandiose. Lovingly restored. Sympathetically upgraded. Blah blah blah. My PMs are open OP 🙂. I loved your thread so much.

tiptoethrutulips · 15/09/2026 17:59

HolyCheeses · 15/09/2026 11:59

So which one of you Vipers had ‘mansion up for sale’ In the BingoCard
Not me!!! 😱

Sorry for the resurrection but so many of you good eggs were so invested, supportive and kind to me . , , I felt urge to post the update

My DS posted me the link

I'll admit it doesn't actually surprise me ... he was fully counting on you paying a RIDICULOUSLY inflated sum to live there which was a HUGE indicator he couldn't actually afford the property and to live the lavish lifestyle he wanted you to subsidize without you.

frozendaisy · 15/09/2026 17:17

Mansion for sale! Brilliant......

Make sure you find out which seaside town he drags his parents to, you wouldn't want to end up in the same one!

AcrossthePond55 · 15/09/2026 17:10

Hey @HolyCheeses

Don't be afraid to PM me the listing! I live in the US so won't have any idea where it is!! And I'll never tell!

(not serious BTW. I get that it would be outing, even if I am 5000 miles away!)

AcrossthePond55 · 15/09/2026 17:05

HolyCheeses · 15/09/2026 12:24

Nooooo! I don’t see it that way at all. He knows absolutely it’s dead in the water.

I suspect it’s a jab

TBH I wouldn't be surprised if he doesn't still have a teeny hope that you'll want to run back to him and partially finance his 'salt water dreams' if he thinks you'll be apprised of them. And whether or not he'll put about plans of buying another mansion, this time by the sea, in hopes of 'tempting you'.

What I want to know is if he's specifically mentioned your preferred bit of the UK coastline as his future home.

cantthinkofagoodusername1 · 15/09/2026 16:21

TheBlueKoala · 15/09/2026 16:19

I think it's because of his parents tbh. He realised that if @HolyCheeses wasn't there to provide free care then he really didn't want to have them around. I bet he didn't have any luck in looking for your replacement. I can't understand why...

Yes exactly, it's very easy to look like a generous benefactor when someone else is doing all the work.

TheBlueKoala · 15/09/2026 16:19

I think it's because of his parents tbh. He realised that if @HolyCheeses wasn't there to provide free care then he really didn't want to have them around. I bet he didn't have any luck in looking for your replacement. I can't understand why...

cantthinkofagoodusername1 · 15/09/2026 16:01

I would absolutely LOVE to see the property posting!

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 15/09/2026 15:59

What a weirdo.

Any chance of a link to the property by PM? I’m on the lookout for something biggish…

INeedAnotherName · 15/09/2026 15:46

HolyCheeses · 15/09/2026 11:59

So which one of you Vipers had ‘mansion up for sale’ In the BingoCard
Not me!!! 😱

Sorry for the resurrection but so many of you good eggs were so invested, supportive and kind to me . , , I felt urge to post the update

My DS posted me the link

😮😮😮

Thank goodness you got out!

Bombayss · 15/09/2026 14:25

He really was dependent on your money.
I wonder will be be taking his parents.
He's got a hard sell to find a woman who would contemplate being a carer for his parents as an attractive bet.

I'm a nosy cow but I'd love to see it on rightmove.

Alycie · 15/09/2026 13:57

That’s happened to me with two exes. They had the same dreams that I had after they’d been dumped, and not during our relationship. Someone should study that.

Thank you for the update! I bet he won’t be taking his parents with him…

ThisJadeBear · 15/09/2026 13:56

I’m heavily invested. Keep reports incoming.

Cherriesandapples1 · 15/09/2026 13:55

cantthinkofagoodusername1 · 15/09/2026 13:30

What's the bet he never ends up moving to the seaside? Sounds like a nice dream and as you say, a jab. He's likely all talk. Plus he has to factor getting a place big enough for his parents?

I'd also suggest him posting this on social media knowing ops son is connected to him on there may be an attempt to get this information back to op to make her feel jealous or consider getting back with him.

cantthinkofagoodusername1 · 15/09/2026 13:30

What's the bet he never ends up moving to the seaside? Sounds like a nice dream and as you say, a jab. He's likely all talk. Plus he has to factor getting a place big enough for his parents?

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 15/09/2026 13:26

HolyCheeses · 15/09/2026 13:22

Is she still with him?

No after they split he moved to the area she'd always dreamt of living in.

Did he nick your idea on purpose seeing as he'd originally poo poo'd the idea?

DwarfPalmetto · 15/09/2026 13:24

😂😂😂
That didn't take long

HolyCheeses · 15/09/2026 13:22

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 15/09/2026 13:10

This happened to a friend of mine.

At least you washed that man right out of your hair @HolyCheeses

Is she still with him?

OP posts:
DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 15/09/2026 13:10

This happened to a friend of mine.

At least you washed that man right out of your hair @HolyCheeses

HolyCheeses · 15/09/2026 12:24

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 15/09/2026 12:17

very invested !

so he is going to get back in touch when it's sold to tell you of his seaside purchase in the hope you join him...

Nooooo! I don’t see it that way at all. He knows absolutely it’s dead in the water.

I suspect it’s a jab

OP posts:
OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 15/09/2026 12:17

very invested !

so he is going to get back in touch when it's sold to tell you of his seaside purchase in the hope you join him...

cantthinkofagoodusername1 · 15/09/2026 12:16

And yes - very predictable that he can no longer afford it without you bankrolling him

cantthinkofagoodusername1 · 15/09/2026 12:15

Don’t apologise for resurrecting the thread - lots of us are quite invested!

HolyCheeses · 15/09/2026 12:05

According to DS (who didn’t realise he was connected to him on SM-until he saw a reel) ex is off to live by the sea when the property sells.

Massive newsflash- that was and is still MY dream which he absolutely poo-pooed many a time when I mentioned my retirement dreams and hopes when I was with him.

Fascinating!

OP posts:
Cherriesandapples1 · 15/09/2026 12:01

HolyCheeses · 15/09/2026 11:59

So which one of you Vipers had ‘mansion up for sale’ In the BingoCard
Not me!!! 😱

Sorry for the resurrection but so many of you good eggs were so invested, supportive and kind to me . , , I felt urge to post the update

My DS posted me the link

I'm gonna guess he couldn't afford it without you bank rolling him.

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