HolyCheeses and Mary… the spreadsheet, the bullshit bingo and the aftermath. Part deux

I can't get over he wanted you to pay half the mortgage for 4 people living there but he could have it paid off in 2 years and that insane food bill. He was going to bleed you dry to pay for his home for who knows how long and leave you with nothing.

I'm sorry you met such a financially manipulative type but at least you opened your eyes before you moved in with him.

What an absolute prick.

good for you.

Gosh - what a clever clever woman you are not being duped. Well done! You must be desperately hurt of course, but so relieved. What a bullet you dodged.

Good woman.
That is exactly the way to frame this.

You woke up in time and joined the dots.

Avoided a dreadful move, giving up your job, being isolated.

I never recommend ANY woman move away for a man.
No man is worth the risk of uprooting your life.

It is just too isolating.
I have heard of too many bitter regrets.

He’s the kind of bloke you read about in a Daily Mail article (not that I ever read the DM of course 🤣🤣)

It sounds as if a weight has been lifted from your mind. You’ve done brilliantly. Absolutely well played. I love it when there is such a positive outcome. Mumsnet at its best.

Haha. That was my one too. Ding ding ding!

I bet a million quid he’s been on the dating apps already this weekend looking for his next nurse with a purse. There should be a public health warning out about him.

His response really shows his true colours: for him this was more like a business transaction (him exploiting @HolyCheeses ) than anything else. If he had loved you he wouldn't have callously started to argue about the house. Well done for getting rid!

I called the 'I don't like how YOU decorated my house' (my only contribution to BS bingo). Be aware that he may still, as I suggested, ask for money to REdecorate with claims you've devalued it or made it unsaleable. With a little manipulation sprinkled in like 'it's only fair after you changed our agreement and left me with decor I'd never have chosen if I'd known'.

It is ultimately sad and painful that this guy has been so predictable. The assumptions he has made about OP to essentially rob her and destroy her life…he’s a scammer and a fraudster who is now loudly claiming the moral high ground on SM. It is truly revolting that he views this as how you treat someone you are supposed to love.
OP I am glad you can laugh but it is v shocking. You would have lost thousands and years of your life. So glad you heard those alarm bells ringing in your gut!

It's amazing how predictable his responses were.

When I first found MN I was floored by how complete strangers could be so certain about situations based on a paragraph or two from an online stranger.

Over time I've come to understand why people (including me now) can be so bold in their opinions and advice. There really aren't that many different types of people. Obviously everyone is an individual but there are broad patterns of behaviour that show up time and time again.

OR

Plot twist:

Cheeky Fucker has been following the thread and played reverse Cheeky Fucker Bingo on us 😂

The Facebook post is very telling it’s a certain type of person that goes straight to posting that type of thing on social media. Well done for staying strong & I wish you a happy future without that type of man!

Wow.

So despite him saying he was going to ask you to marry him...he didn't beg you to reconsider or that he'll change, he just insulted you instead?

Well done OP, what a nasty peace of work he is. You’re well rid of him.

Brilliant news @HolyCheeses Nice one.

I got the 'my parents love you' one, ha.
Well done, I hope it feels like a weight has been lifted. Onwards and upwards

I really don't think you knew him at all.
I think he was an opportunistic man who absolutely saw you as a really good ticket to use, the very definition of a nurse with a purse.

I think he has stomped off furious but may well be back for one more crack at you.

He needs a carer for his parents and that will be a huge factor in his thinking.

Well done for getting away.

Well done OP - what an annoying man. You’ve done the right thing - definitely come back and check the early messages as a sense check if you doubt yourself when he tries to love bomb you back into the fold.

‘I was going to ask you to marry me’… I just KNEW that one would come up - BINGO! 🤣🤣🤣
Well done OP. You’re bound to feel a bit wobbly now & then but you know that will pass. Plus I LOVE that you paid half for the coffee ☕️ 😜

Good luck 💐

If anyone’s tempted to feel even a little bit sorry for him, I’m willing to bet that before too long he’ll have found some much younger, naive and impressionable woman to move in and pay his bills and be his housekeeper and nurse.
But OP will have driven off into the sunset without a backwards glance!
Well done OP, you are a masterclass in standing up for yourself.

so he coudav this and coudav that but when was the correct time to give you proper info, he just came with lies and half truths. Even to the end this man was not sure what he really wanted to do, but one thing for sure, he wante full control over your life, money and time

Super happy for you @HolyCheeses, you really dodged a massive bullet here.

Sad though because

• I never saw the spreadsheet
• Never got a breakdown of the elaborate food budget
• Most importantly I did not win the bingo!

But seriously, well done. You are an inspiration to others to take control of their situation.

Classic, very predictable. You are well rid! Go enjoy your peace and quiet in your lovely home x