HolyCheeses and Mary… the spreadsheet, the bullshit bingo and the aftermath. Part deux

Just to clear that up
Prized Pickled Popcorn mentioned a podcast which discussed about how some types of men ended up getting their partners to assume a sort of parent role, probably more commonly known on MN as "wife work"

I apologised for side track from OP's thread and asked if she had the link.

I don't know what was said in the recently deleted posts.
But there was nothing in the original post that mentioned the podcast that was anti OP as far as I recall.

Found the podcast by googling anyway. Not sure why this has caused a problem.

Screenshot the post and comments..
you can report untrue statements that are defamatory, or intend to damage your reputation to Facebook (three dots in the corner of post) and you may be able to get the post removed or the account frozen temporarily,

Screenshot the post and comments, in case it continues.

It's the hallmark of a grifter to public ally protest that they are the biggest victim..

Yes... its also the time taken up with going over design choices, and renovation labour, whilst OP's own house needed work before she sold... That would have affected her sale price (I'm just guessing)and then he wants her to have sold up in two months and start paying towards his household. And how much free labour would he have donated to help her achieve that sale and move I wonder. How much would he be doing the hour and something drive over to put in some hard work on her behalf I wonder. Even if his "financials" were reasonable and acceptable to OP... there's still a red flag in his theft of time and energy,

but there's never any gratitude from a cheeky fucker when they finally get a No. Just nasty comments about how you've let them down... because these characters are only ever focussed on themselves.

I'm glad you are feeling at peace. It does appear to be a very lucky dodge.

Hope you have a wonderful care free week OP x

So glad you ended it and he showed you that you were right about him. He sounds yuck and I hope other women avoid him like a plague on their assets!
Even more glad you feel like a weight has been lifted from you. Definitely a sign that you needed to leave.

Very glad you escaped this one. Absolute grabby fecker.

I’ve reported and asked it be deleted, I’ll try another way.

Why not? It’s the woman talking about parentified women and entitlement? I think I posted it in two threads because I couldn’t remember who asked for it.

This is on a few threads now. Do not click!

This may be off the mark for OP, but I sometimes think if you come out of a bad relationship with one man, the temptation is to look at the next potential relationship with rose-tinted spectacles - and overlook red flags . One can SO want to prove that there are good men out there, that one is valuable and desirable and that one CAN have a successful and positive relationship (like everyone else it seems), especially later in life. That was an experience I had anyway in my late 40s.

Because you were financially independent, with no dependent children, he could make it all work in his favour financially as well. More bingo for him! It’s just lucky you woke up and smelled the coffee when you did. So lucky that you didn’t entangle yourself with him further.A great learning exercise. I hope you go from strength to strength OP, and also get the move you want in the future.

A very stupid childish kind of person. Isn’t that what teens do?

In so many ways.

knob. better off out of it.

I mean yeah
surely he would go to the pub with his mates
get drunk
have a whinge
they convince him he’s best off without her

job done!

Just a lesson, if mine goes before me, I would be just slapping out there: I need a man who is willing to spend on me as it fits from husband to wife. They don't deserve anything else

Any of them nice?

Wow - that's a whole lot of responses from him!

But somehow managing to leave out any hint of "I'm sad about this because I care about you"....

@HolyCheeses Good on you for making the break from him.

Time to live life on your own terms now 🌞

I had something similar happen to me Someone maliciously accused me of shoplifting which was completely untrue then compounded it by posting complete lies about me on social media Its fucking awful having stuff about you on SM that isnt true.

You dodged a bullet there alright. I'd leave a link to the first thread and this thread on a facebook status. Something like 'what interesting drama...' And maybe close the status off for comments.

Well done OP. Hope you are ok. Can’t believe he wrote a FB post, that is so childish. You are well rid.

He would be putting his life on the line for the woman if this was a man ready to love a woman. And honesty about money would be priority ...what he did? Made his whole life about him and his grand appetites and left the woman last at the door almost sure she is coming with her care, housework, cooking and finance just for his pleasure....I wish I read this fb post and posted him what he deserves

Ooooh, I said ‘You led me on!’
I think that ties in with ‘you’ve been stringing me along’, so BINGO! 😂

Well done OP.
Enjoy your peace of mind and getting back into a real and fulfilling life. 🩵🩵