AIBU to let my nine year old shave her legs?

I let my Dd shave her legs at 10 i just bought a wet/dry shaver from superdrug, if your Dd is self conscious to the point as not wearing shorts then someone has said something to her probably in .p.e 9-10 is the age other kids start noticing these sorts of things, just let her do it then it isn't a thing.

I’d let her and support her and also try other methods of hair removal

Could you try veet instead ?

I’d take her to have them waxed. It lasts longer, regrowth is softer, no stubble.

I wouldn’t allow it.

Ive commented on threads like this before.

100% show her teach her help her.

This isn't a slipper slope to getting acrylics etc. This is her confidence, her mental health, her happiness.

I only wish my mam had let me whenni was that age. I had to suffer for years.

I bought my daughter this electric shaver when she was about 9.
She has a lot of fine hair on her legs & other kids commented so she wanted to shave it. I wasn’t happy with a razor but this was on sale so I got one to try.
legs aren’t as smooth as razor/wax but it does the job.
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I took my daughter to get her legs waxed at that age as she was self conscious. The beautician was so sweet with her and it was a lot more long lasting than shaving.

I bought my DD and electric shaver when she was around 10. I can't remember the make, it was a ladies one from argos and wasn't expensive. It made a difference to her in summer at school xx

I have an electric shaver I bought myself for Christmas (sad I know!) haha. Anyway yes it is SO much easier not to cut yourself. I have found it works better with shaving gel/cream. I can't believe I was without it for so long.
Totally not unreasonable, much better that your daughter is comfortable and confident.

I was really reluctant at first to let my 11 year old remove hair from her legs until I realised that she was so self conscious that it was hurting her confidence in herself. We spent one Saturday afternoon together with me teaching her how to use veet (I felt no blade was safer). The difference in her was huge and I felt so sad that I hadn’t listened to her earlier. After a year or so on veet, we progressed to shaving using the Gillette razors with the big attached soap bit and now she looks after herself. The world is cruel and although I’m all for feminism, if she’s not comfortable in herself, give her an easy win.

I take it you didn’t have thick dark body hair at a young age? If she feels self conscious it’s a very small thing, what’s the age limit? Died she need to go 3-4 more years not wearing shorts?

I help my 11 year old DD shave her legs and under her arms.
We’ve been doing this for nearly a year and she has just started trying herself.

she did hit puberty early.

I was about 14 when I needed to do this and my Mum handed me a pack of Bic Razors and I cut myself so many times.

in a way I’m glad that my DD hit puberty early so she felt safe to share this with me

I was told no by mum aged 10 so i tried it anyway didnt have a clue what I was doing and did it dry with no foam! Had terrible razor burns both legs. Wish mum had been supportive like you.

I’m a bit on the fence about it because where does this self consciousness come from? Is this other kids at school or is there someone at home wanging on about grooming. I never discussed this at home and my own DD probably became aware of it at around 12 and a half when I got her some safety razors. ( she goes to a girls school ). What follows is pressure for acrylic nails and belly button piercings and random serums from Space NK so I’m slightly inclined on the side of No - too young.

No. I would not be encouraging this at such a young age.

YANBU! I shave my legs and would help my DD to (if I had one - I'm the only female in my house!)

I remember being really embarrassed by my hairy legs and frustrated that my Mum wouldn't let me shave. My older sister asked why I didn't just do it anyway...so I did! I felt like a film star walking into school the next day with lovely smooth legs 🤣

Yep. My mum didn't let me either and I have myself a horrendous scar when I tried it myself .. about 3inches long and it bled sooooooo much. Definitely support her op, or she may do it secretly and hurt herself. Electric sounds like a good idea.

I shave my legs with shaving gel and a Venus razor, only about every 2 weeks. My daughter had seen me do this several times and asked if she could do the same. She was about 9 at the time. I stood with her for the first time and told her to take her time. No issues at all. Bit of body cream after.

I started shaving mine at ten. I fail to see what a 'patriarchal society' has to do with it, I didn't like the look of my hair legs and enjoyed being smooth, still do at 76. It's far less patriarchal now.

If your child wants to, how can you stop her? I imagine she is past the age of having you bathe her.