Well am I? My ex is an absolute arse.

Take the kids away as originally planned.

Exactly

Honestly, some of the comments on this thread are unhinged. Isn't this supposed to be a supportive platform where we look out for each other? It's like women have balled all their anger at the patriarchy into a seething pit of rage, and this is where they have decided to vent it—at each other. There's a distinct "I'm a better mother than you" vibe from some of these posters, who are all jealous as hell because they won't dare leave their precious children until they are at least 35.

Enjoy your holiday, and don't spare any of this ridiculous bollocks another thought.

@Mostlywilliow
Some of the replies on this thread are the strangest , most judgmental I have seen on MN.
READ THE FULL THREAD OR AT LEAST ALL THE OP’s POSTS.
Thank you.

You need to sit your teens down and explain that them telling you things like this; them sending him video “evidence” of the fridge contents - must stop. They are older teens and should know that doing this is just going be like pouring petrol over a fire.

Bloomin heck….. must be loads!

@Mostlywilliow I can't believe the hard time you are getting on this thread, the vipers really are out in force. I am so glad you are free of your abusive ex, he sounds awful and determined to cause problems. I hope your boys are able to see through (eventually) his manipulative and controlling behaviour.
Have a lovely holiday and enjoy all the exercise!

I’m not sure being a psycho and grandparent are mutually exclusive, most children are harmed by their own family.

Your kids are old enough to know that telling you things like this is going to just inflame the situation and piss you off.

And as for the recording of fridge contents and sending to their dad - that is unacceptable. They are certainly old enough not to have done this and known it was wrong.

Bollox off. No velcro strip attached to me!

Op just read your posts. No advice but I’m going away with DH and leaving DD aged 17 home alone 😱! My parenting must be awful……. I’ll miss all those memories we should make. Whilst she is at school, dance and with the boyfriend. I assume all the naysayers have little kids who can’t imagine one day they don’t need us quite as much! Enjoy

OP!! Have a fabulous and well earned holiday!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with an adults only week, and you've thoroughly covered all bases with the DBS nanny.....ignore the whiners, there seems to be a disproportionate number of martyrs in this thread who clearly decided that they decide no life from the moment they because a parent until........who even knows?!

Enjoy!!

How much are you paying for 7 nights full time overnight nanny?

To all those giving the OP such a hard time, GET A LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why are you not slating the ex who sounds like a complete twat instead of going at someone who has moved on from an awful ex and has planned a holiday for her and her DP and has made suitable and legal arrangements for her children to be taken care of by someone they know and trust.

Women deserve to move on with their lives and despite many of us being the sole or primary carer of our children, we deserve short breaks without our children, we deserve nights out without our children, we deserve a new partner and a sex life. WE DESERVE A LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@YourShyLion

"Either way, you don't leave your children"

Oh, yes, we do! 👍 🥳 😁

I agree OP that these threads show how it is women more than anyone who knock other women down.

It really, really isn't. And you don't have to do much research to confirm that the overwhelming majority of violence and abuse against women is perpetrated by men. This is an everyday sexism comment that add to the social conditioning that allows men to get away with treating women like shit. Put a similar query to this on a local facebook group page and see what the men say if you want to test whether women are worse to women than the men are.

Wishing you and your vagina the best of holidays OP!

At 16 my parents left me at home for 10 days to go on holiday. My younger sibling when with them but I had to stay home for GCSE results and some exam (cant remember what now). I worked in the day as it was the holidays and they have neighbours check on me in the evenings but they only stayed for half hour max.

I think arranging for someone to be there is a good thing to stop parties etc. You know your children and know the babysitter (if they have used them before). Only you know if your children are grown up enough to handle the situation

Some of the posts on this thread are absolutely wild. Is no one capable of reading the OP's original post where she clearly states that the original holiday was booked for her and her partner? Also, at 15, 16, and 17 (unless there are some mitigating health factors we know nothing about) they are all more than capable of surviving this long with or without a nanny. I fear this is why so many young adults today are complete snowflakes. If you don't teach them independence, how are they expected to adult when the time comes?

I think the OP left her abusive ex who then left his children, the DM is having a holiday without them.

I wonder how many holidays the father has had without his children? 🤔