To think ‘you’re entitled to a child free life not a child free world’ is an excuse not to parent?

I've only ever heard people say that on social media tbh.

You're just listing bad parenting I'm not sure what it has to do with that phrase.

That phrase is normally used about adults huffing about children who are behaving/ merely existing in their presence.

I think your examples are extremes. The term I agree with but I usually see it used in the context of people huffing when a child boards public transport, a post on here with the OP complaining children shouldn't be in a chain restaurant at 7pm as they should be tucked up in bed, someone huffing when I brought my baby into A&E, overhearing my neighbours complaining that they can hear children in the play park in their garden that backs onto a play park.

More rage bait about rage bait.

Where I grew up, children never bothered me. Some were naughty, some were sweet, overall I don't recall any being allowed to make pests of themselves (I certainly wasn't).

Unfortunately in the UK I've had quite a different experience, even perfectly nice people that I know will sit there in gormless obliviousness while their children do something destructive or misbehave - at best you get the constant interruptions.

To the parents out there that actually parent, and teach consideration to their children, seriously, thank you so much. It must be extra hard when you're swimming against the tide.

But restaurants shouldn’t accept guests and take order from and serve them when they have kids only to ask them to go outside or take their food home. You either accept children into your restaurant or you don’t and it’s unfair to change your mind halfway through someone’s experience.

Here's the kicker.... they wouldn't bloody have to if people kept their kids under control.
Its unfair to every other customer who has paid good money to eat their meal to have to endure screaming children.
The fault lies solely with the parents.

Tik tok is just rage bait. Maybe these people exist, maybe they don’t. But wouldn’t your life be a tiny bit nicer if you deleted the app and just had to manage the irritating things that happen right in front of you than across the whole of the internet?

But on the flip side, I had some ladies huffing and puffing in a cafe, in the daytime, because our children were playing (normal playing not screaming or anything) in the play kitchen next to their table (that they chose next to the children’s area)

it works both ways

Depends on the context I think. There are some things even the best of parents can't prevent, eg a baby crying on a plane because their ears hurt or whatever it is.

The examples you have chosen are not this and I assume you have picked those examples to support your point.

Are any of those videos even real?! That sounds horrendous, I've never seen anything like that on social media. You need to re-train your algorithm and stop watching them!

I agree re the nappy. That’s just disgusting in every case.

But restaurants shouldn’t accept guests and take order from and serve them when they have kids only to ask them to go outside or take their food home. You either accept children into your restaurant or you don’t and it’s unfair to change your mind halfway through someone’s experience.

I think it’s bad enough having kids who don’t cope well in busy places without the guilt trip - I tend to look on sympathetically or try to help when someone’s clearly having a hard time with a toddler and not be judgmental that they’re trying to have a life and a fussy child….

Agree there ought to be some parental boundaries though and simply allowing your child to charge around or actively disrupt others can’t be allowed ti happen

You are a reasonable and community minded person parenting your DC properly.

God knows what these kids without boundaries will grow up to be, they'll certainly have issues at school.