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Friend said my home, furniture and clothes are UGLY AND POOR

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Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:15

This friend said she has a lot of work for dh. (He freelances). I told her dh broke his leg and unable to travel so she said I’ll come to him!

i never had this friend over before. (And she the kind of person who talks for hours and hours about herself only never asking how you are or letting you talk) and I don’t like having people over but it’s for work reasons so I agreed.

She comes, brings nothing! Just one document and says she forgot rest at home.

She then sits in our home for 7 hours! Playing music, chatting, talking about herself. From 1pm to 9pm

she then only leaves because her son calls her some kind of issue at home

she invites me for coffee few weeks later and she was complaining about how her son in bad with money, wastes all his money and has no savings etc

says “I don’t get it”

she then says “I don’t get you guys either. Your home and furniture are awful. So tatty, unattractive and old. when was the last time you had renovation? Your clothes too, when was the last time you went shopping? You live like poor people. I mean you live Like you are in poverty. To be honest I don’t get it either.”

she later texts me saying “ don’t get offended, I was just being honest, what kind of friend would I be not to tell you the truth xx”

wtf!

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Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:51

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 21/04/2026 15:38

plus you haven't told us if there was any actual work for your husband in the end, and what, if anything, he said to her about that?
If he works freelance, surely he's used to dealing with people and should have been capable of (a) asking her what the 'work' was and (b) insisting on a more professional, work-focussed visit?
also, if she stayed from 1-9pm, that would be 8 hours, not 7, and I'm still struggling to understand why anybody would have allowed that to happen...

ETA: if this was 'work', will your dh be invoicing her for his time?!

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He did.

when she came she was like when he would get started on the task “ oops my bad forgot this. Forgot that. Oops haha forgot that. I’ll bring it next time. Forget it then. We’ll just hang out! I brought drinks, chocolate and snacks! “

he charged her and for wasting his time. And left the room. She seemed annoyed and unhappy about this and said

“I thought you guys would be happy to see me anyway”

I let it happen because I’m a socially awkward pathetic push over who is always scared of sounding rude

not first time we had guests overstaying

though not this long….

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CautiousLurker2 · 21/04/2026 15:47

She’s not a friend. At all.

Mute/block/fade/ghost/air or whatever you want to call it.

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 21/04/2026 15:43

What did you say in reply OP?

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 21/04/2026 15:42

What did you reply to her comments OP?

AccordingToWhom · 21/04/2026 15:42

ThejoyofNC · 21/04/2026 15:16

Is she right?

I don't think that's the point at all.

Viviennemary · 21/04/2026 15:42

Yes your friend was rude so she was being u.

You are u for calling this person a friend.

DeltaVariant · 21/04/2026 15:40

She’s not a friend … but if she genuinely has plenty of work for DH treat her as a client.

WildLeader · 21/04/2026 15:39

And if there’s a job that needs doing and IF your H is desperate to do it… make sure the money is SUPER GOOD. That awful woman needs to pay the arsehole tax.

outerspacepotato · 21/04/2026 15:39

If she came over on a supposedly business matter and forgot the actual business, why would you let her hang around for hours? Much less trash talk everything?

She's rude, don't ever let her in your home again.

Nancy, we have things to do and it's time for you to leave now. That's all you have to say.

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 21/04/2026 15:38

plus you haven't told us if there was any actual work for your husband in the end, and what, if anything, he said to her about that?
If he works freelance, surely he's used to dealing with people and should have been capable of (a) asking her what the 'work' was and (b) insisting on a more professional, work-focussed visit?
also, if she stayed from 1-9pm, that would be 8 hours, not 7, and I'm still struggling to understand why anybody would have allowed that to happen...

ETA: if this was 'work', will your dh be invoicing her for his time?!

Shmee1988 · 21/04/2026 15:38

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:31

Why are you so sure this never happened?

im actually interested

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Good lord. Ignore them. I posted a little while ago about my mot garage leaving a sanitary towel in my car and people piled on saying I was lying. I honestly dont get why anyone would bother.
Your 'friend is rude'. Tell her so. What do you have to lose?

WildLeader · 21/04/2026 15:38

Your reply @Yourgurlmaddie to this wagon is “you’re not my friend. I don’t have such rude people in my life insulting me/my home/my life”

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:37

InterviewGhost · 21/04/2026 15:37

This whole post is weird.

Why?

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InterviewGhost · 21/04/2026 15:37

This whole post is weird.

Maray1967 · 21/04/2026 15:36

All you need to do is send her a very clear message.

As you’re a fan of honesty, you’ll not mind me saying how rude you were to …(list all the things she did).
Our friendship is over.

-that’s all you need to do.

Tryagain26 · 21/04/2026 15:36

She doesn't sound like a friend

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:34

AttentionPlease · 21/04/2026 15:32

Because no one agrees for a friend to come over with work for their husband which it turns out they forgot anyway, and then lets them sit around for seven hours . You’d just say ‘Well, you’d better go home and get them’, surely? And then ‘We’ll, I must get in. Nice to see you’ after the work was done. I mean, no one has a spare seven hours to devote to a random playing music in your living room.

Your comment makes me realise what a horrible push over and pathetic i am

we always have people over staying because I can’t tell them this

this was Saturday, we had nothing going on. Hubby had broken leg so nothing to do. (He was in another room) But still I was getting tired of her and wanted her to leave.

“Well, you’d better go home and get them’, surely? And then ‘We’ll, I must get in.”

See I can’t say that. I don’t know why or what’s wrong with me. I’m totally socially awkward and I worry too much about sounding rude.

i can never in a million years say that

i know I should of, it’s my fault I know

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DoloresDelEriba · 21/04/2026 15:34

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Error404FucksNotFound · 21/04/2026 15:34

What are you going to say to her?

Because since she's such a big fan of honesty, I advise you to drop a fuckton of it on her.
Starting with how rude it is to sneer at people.

DoloresDelEriba · 21/04/2026 15:33

What a bizarre post. And sort of pointless. And my bar is pretty low…

Noodledog · 21/04/2026 15:32

ThejoyofNC · 21/04/2026 15:16

Is she right?

Bloody hell, that's completely irrelevant, she shouldn't be so rude. Are you one of those "tell it like it is" horrors?

OP, I think you might have meant to say "ex friend" in your first post.

AttentionPlease · 21/04/2026 15:32

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:23

And here we go

tell me what is so shocking and unrealistic about this that you are so sure it never happened.

this is why I hesitated posting this. Can’t post anything happening in your life anymore without someone jumping in accusing you of making things up

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Because no one agrees for a friend to come over with work for their husband which it turns out they forgot anyway, and then lets them sit around for seven hours . You’d just say ‘Well, you’d better go home and get them’, surely? And then ‘We’ll, I must get in. Nice to see you’ after the work was done. I mean, no one has a spare seven hours to devote to a random playing music in your living room.

Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:31

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Why are you so sure this never happened?

im actually interested

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Yourgurlmaddie · 21/04/2026 15:31

And What if people she was visiting and said this too were having financial problems?

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deserthighway · 21/04/2026 15:30

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