Friend said my home, furniture and clothes are UGLY AND POOR

@Yourgurlmaddie - she's not your friend. Don't have anyone in your life who is a cock. It's too short as it is.

I believe you OP. People don't believe these strange others really exist until they're stuck with them one day.

Once long ago my H did a massive favor for a coworker, saved his job and got him back pay etc. Coworker insisted we must visit his resort home across the state for a weekend. We went and it was the most bizarre weekend of my life. The resort home was a camper in an admittedly nice resort but cramped, no running water, no toilet etc. All the food, plates, cutlery was from fast food restaurants. No spoons, only mcdonlds stir sticks, everything was pocketed from elsewhere.

Worse yet, the wife was batshit crazy. She went on and on about money. How much things cost, how she saved money, how her entire family hated her and accused her of stealing inheritances (I bet she did). I mean hours of discussion of drapes, faucets, flooring, literally anything I learned the cost of and how she swindled someone to get it free/dirt cheap. They fully expected their daughter to support them as soon as she finished college.

I wished I had a gun to either point at her to get away or to remove myself from the hell I was in. H had to take me on a nice weekend away the following month to make up for it.

The funniest part was as we were leaving the wife said sadly 'we'll never see you again will we' and I thought oh others have managed to escape you too thank god.

+10

"friend
/frɛnd/
A friend is a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, trust, and support, typically excluding sexual or family relationships. They are peers who offer companionship, encouragement, and understanding, often sharing similar values or interests. Friends are not enemies; they are allies in life."

I don't know what definition you're using!

Sounds like she is actually a business associate of hubby and not actually a friend, in which case her personal opinion is completely irrelevant.
Also some people are obsessed with shiny, new things. They dont understand why somebody might keep a 15 yr old couch or 10 yr old jumper when they are perfectly fit for purpose.

It's rudeness dressed up as honesty. She has absolutely no social intelligence as evidenced by her staying so long and then her comments. She also has no respect for you.

She is no friend…….cut her out of your life!

Perhaps she likes her furniture and clothes.
If they are functional and they like them why should furniture be replaced?
Good furniture should last for decades.
Similarly there is no compulsory to buy new clothes every season.
It's a waste of money.
But mainly it's no one elses business

Well she’s no friend, that’s for sure. I used to have a friend like this, also Eastern European who’d start every sentence with ‘as a higher rate tax payer’ - I think she was deeply insecure. The thing is what she sees as old or scruffy may just be a difference in taste, my ex-friend had a Massive expensive car on HP that her and her husband had to share and was actually quite inconvenient, she looked down on our two mid-range cars that were a few years old even though we owned them outright.

Urgh yeah this. ^ The 'I tell it like it is' brigade.

They act like voicing their (often rude, unpleasant, and negative opinions) is a positive trait. Hint: it's NOT.

No-one cares about their barbed and spiteful comments, so WHY do they do this????? As I said, IMO, they are either jealous, and trying to bring the other person down/make them feel like shit, or they're miserable and unhappy and hate their life, and are trying to bring the other person down/make them feel like shit.

Nice, decent people who are happy with their life do NOT come out with the nasty shit that the OP's friend has come out with. Happy people are NOT spiteful.

Doesn't make sense. Why would someone you obviously dislike so much be a friend

I cannot believe someone would say that! That is nuts, OP. Bet you anything she is in tons of credit card and Klarna debt because she's addicted to shopping for useless shit.

She’s socially inept. I’d not seeing her again and would hope DP chose not to do business with her.

Thing is, while Putin may be dominating enough to waltz into a house and take over, he probably would have better things to do for 7 hours.

Do what the others have done and drop her. Blocking exists for a reason.

She sounds pathetic to be honest OP, I would have found this amusing if I'd received it (just so over the top and egregiously rude isn't it) but why were you allowing her in your home for this amount of time when it became clear she had no reason to be there?

Surely your DP can arrange his own freelance work if he wants it. Had she any plans to pay for this time that she arranged and subsequently took up for no reason?

I'd just message back something fairly final without engaging much, like " Thanks for the insights, don't recall asking but all the best, DP and I best you find someone else to sort (whatever it is your DP is supposedly doing) as this hasn't been a very good use of his time so far, please don't try to contact us any further about it' - then block and move on, she's not your friend.

yup.....the digging a brand new patio kind.......

Why are you wasting your time with someone like this? She’s a rude user. Not a friend .

This person is not your friend, you can do without her.
I hope your husband's injury repairs soon, poor soul. x

this person is not a friend. You may wnat to keep her as a business contact to get work for your DH but friend she ain't

You are as rude as the friend is.

How the OP has her house decorated is a matter of personal taste. Commenting is downright rude and the whole "i'm just being honest" stuff is rubbish, it's just out and out rudeness.

I'd be tempted to reply 'if I was your friend I would tell you that you are a boring, self obsessed, bad mannered, superficial and arrogant woman. However I don't want a friend like that so I won't say it. I'll just block you and move on.'

Yep, the 'friend' of the OP isn't fitting that description really is she?! 😬

It was rude - it doesn't matter if she thought she was being honest or not - she wasn't asked for an opinion. Also see "don't mean to be rude" - no one should finish that sentence unless they wish to be rude because that's what's going to happen.

FRIEND

A friend is a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, trust, and intimacy, distinct from family or romantic partners. They are typically defined as someone who provides support, companionship, and joy.

Wow! Sounds like you went to the same school of charm as the OP's friend!