Friend said my home, furniture and clothes are UGLY AND POOR

This is not a friend.

This is a BITCH.

If you haven't already, you'd be doing yourself a favour blocking her.

If you feel you really need to reply, I'd go for something like 'No, I don't appreciate your 'honesty' and would remind you that your opinions are neither desired nor required. please pay DH then lose my number'.

She's pestering you on a Saturday night because she has nobody else to spend it with.

I wonder why that could be?!!

So she complains about the way her son spends money, then tells you that you are not spending enough. Unbelievable.

People who finish their opinion with "I'm just being honest" usually enjoy making digs at others.

Don't dare blame yourself we all have our strengths and weaknesses. This is not a true friend shes extremely rude .

I know this will be deleted but because you asked:

1)Who would actually say those things, adding the clothes etc makes it sound more farcical.
2) it happened a while ago and you’re just discussing it now on a Tuesday
3) you know it’s unacceptable, if someone said this it wouldn’t be framed as clickbaoot fodder, it would be more about discussing a friend you’re having a difficult time with.
4) your user name is try hard.

Have you responded to the text?

if I was you, I’d plead bankruptcy and ask for a big loan. Then keep the money just to piss her off … hahahaha

she will bad mouth you amongst friends but then she is telling everyone you are poor anyway so 🤷‍♀️

But you deny your friends anything like that happened and drag it for few years. Make her miserable

@Yourgurlmaddie if you find it difficult saying in the moment then try setting expectations ahead of time. In this scenario you could have sent a text to say ‘be greet to see you but just managing expectations.. we are only free until Xpm’

As for the friend… she’s no friend. You didn’t ask for her option and so she shouldn’t have given it. I hate the ‘I’m just being honest’ bullshit to cover for being mean. Ditch her.

Who cares? She’s fucking rude!!

I'm the same . I think it's a lack of confidence for me . I've never been able to stand up to bullying types . I would just avoid this person , she's nasty .

She doesn’t sound as if she is actually a friend. She’s someone who employs your husband? Maybe you should have suggested she needs to pay your husband more so you can afford nicer things!

When photos of the inside of Princess Anne's house were published a while back, there were long threads on here with people arguing about whether her home was shabby, messy, out of date 🙄

More appropriate terms would've been comfortable, relaxed, heritage ... There are people whose only understanding of quality is brand-new and shiny. An original 16th century table just looks old-fashioned to them, second-hand.

Comfortable, relaxed and second-hand is a perfectly good look, whether it's been in your family for 20 generations or someone else's for 2. Your 'friend' is shallow, narrow minded, self-centred and is not your friend. She stole your time, effort and attention.

There are lots of books on how to say No. Get one!

Don’t be surprised if she taps you for money next.
What precisely does she do in terms of work for your DH?

Ahh the good old Mumsnet 'friend'.

A breed apart from any other 🤣

I'd hate to think how your enemies act...

A friend? Wow.

She’s no friend. Distance yourself and forget what she said. Real friends don’t behave like this.

She's a cunt

She’s awful.

You're a martyr, let's give it a rest with the oh I am so awful, I am so pathetic,, it's not helpful and just keeps you in perpetual victim mode and reinforces that you can't do anything to change - two things can be true, she's rude and you need to grow a backbone. You can't stop her being rude, you can stop hearing that rudeness by ending the call or not letting her come round but that doesn't stop you in general being a ) a pushover and b) resorting to woe is me aren't I terrible when someone (on this thread I mean) says why not tell her to go. You are making a choice, not easy when you are not naturally assertive but you can change.

Wow she sounds utterly bonkers! I had one lady tell me my home was dated and offered to help me modernise it, needless to say I didn’t waste any more of my time in her company. Life is stressful enough without that weird level of rudeness visiting.

I’d text back a comment listed here maybe give her a chance to explain further or apologise, but after that I’d block.

YANBU. Have you ever heard about the personal table metaphor? It says we all have our own personal table and we should be the ones to decide who sits at it and/or who remains sitting at it. If the people we allow to sit at our table do not honor the place we have allowed them to be, they do not deserve to be sitting there. We don't call them out on their behavior, we don't try to teach them good manners, we just don't let them sit there anymore. You don't have to cut ties if you don't want to, you just make a mental decision to not let that happen anymore. It's your table, after all.

You're a lot more polite up there in NI, down here we'd just call her a cheeky stuck up cunt.

🤣🤣

There’s plenty up here would call her that too @Mudflaps😃

Better to wear clothes for years rather than waste money on fast fashion that wears out after a few washes.

The fact she has cut contact as a result would suggest not

I would have replied 'my house is good enough for you to spend 8 hours in it, stopping us enjoying our weekend' - I would then block