To not go to brothers house again if dog is loose?

Ah your update paints a better picture.

both my dogs do this, for them it’s their way of asking for a stroke/wanting to feel closer to you.

obviously you can gauge the feeling better than we could, but when my dogs do it it’s not to threaten - it’s to feel closer and initiate fuss

Agreed.

My dog is a leaner, but I wouldn't describe his leaning the way OP does. When my dog does it, his body is soft, his tail doesn't always wag, but if I speak to him or look at him, it starts to, even if what I am saying is, "dude, personal space." I also wouldn't describe him as standing over me, looking down at me, even though when he's standing on the sofa, and I am sitting, he's taller than me; that does seem more like dominance than wanting a hug. Not dominance as in the dog thinks it's alpha, that's been debunked, but as in OP was in the dog's seat and he was trying to reclaim his space.

Without being there, it's impossible to say what was happening, but I don't think people should be telling her to ignore her instinct in this instance.

I don't necessarily think the dog needs to be locked out, but it should be supervised at all times by the brother and not left alone with OP if she is not comfortable with it.

Im still not quite sure what the OP means TBH. Leaning heavily on them would just indicate wanting to be friendly, in a really overbearing way! (or you where sitting on the bit of sofa they wanted!!LOL).
But standing right on top of you would seem more of a dominance thing.

Yes as pp said, Boxers are not respectful of personal space. You are absolutely NBU to feel uncomfortable. I have a number of dogs but I would never, ever be one of those dog owners that puts their dog before the comfort of guests.

My default is and always has been - guests = dogs get put away elsewhere unless guest specifically says otherwise.

Boxers have no idea when it comes to personal space and tend to think they are lap dogs they are very rarely aggressive. You were probably sitting in his preferred space. For than reason my boxers were never allowed on the sofa.
A firm down usually does the trick but if your brothers dog is not trained this may not work.

I was thinking exactly the same. My friends have a large dog and he does the same. And tries to stick his tongue in your ear (🥴). Luckily I know the dog well but I can imagine to others it might feel threatening.

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Well aren't you blowing things out of proportion! The dog a) didn't actually do anything wrong... the dogs actions the way the OP has described them are usually more affectionate than aggressive and b) it was the dogs home c) the dog didn't even get away with it... he was quickly removed from the room 🙄

Haha, what? My dog does all kinds of things I wouldn't want a bloke to do. Like hide under my bed, lick my leg after I come out of the shower, eat the crumbs I drop on the floor. You are right that I would be horrified if a bloke did that, but my dog is not a human bloke and communicate and act differently.

As others have said, when they lean into you like that they are giving you a hug. He was being snuggly and then told off for it and sent into the garden,.

It doesn’t sound dominant or aggressive to me, more likely an affectionate lean and good natured invasion of your personal space. But if you’re not used to dogs, it’s intimidating. Then you tense up, the dog picks up on that and gets tense too, wondering what you’re worried about. It’s totally acceptable to ask your brother to intervene in whatever way makes you comfortable. Or spend more time with him and the dog to get to know it better is another alternative.

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Dogs aren't men. Different body language. And you can always see the whites of human eyes. Ridiculous post.

This sounds like affection from the dog, not aggressive behavior -boxers are funny dogs and it sounds like it just wanted to sit with you. They aren't really dogs for people who don't like dogs though , and you aren't unreasonable to want to see your brother without the dog- maybe he can visit you or you can meet out elsewhere?

If it was your brother’s friend over visiting, a bloke, and he leaned on you, put his hand on you and showed the whites of his eyes you’d be horrified.

Why do dogs get away with it ?

It's a boxer, it was leaning into you and sharing your space, it's affection not aggression.

as someone fjsdcssud, ask your brother HK stay in the sane room & keep an eye on your his dogs behaviour until you feel comfortable.

it's not fair to put his dog out of its own home when you visit, if it's not misbehaving.

Have you spoken to your brother and asked him about this? Ultimately you’re within your rights to say you don’t want to be in a house with a dog you’re afraid of. Your brother is within his rights to say his dog his house. Which would be a good way to create a rift that doesn’t need to happen. Speak to him, tell him you were uncomfortable, ask if he knows why the dog behaved like this and how it can be avoided when you next visit. He may offer to move dog to a different room (in our house we would put dog in kitchen for a short visit but otherwise we’d suggest meeting up elsewhere)

ALWAYS trust your gut instinct! It’s there for a good reason

Not unreasonable. You need to feel safe. Trust that survival instinct we have when something is telling us it's not right. Dogs are animals at the end of the day that can turn. I've known it even with a Labrador which are supposed to be friendly. I think it pays to be wary because you never know.

A dog leaning on you is generally a sign of affection but without being there it’s hard say for certain

Could he be picking up on how you feel? Or could you be poorly and smell different somehow? Our old dog was very laid back and chill and quite good with visitors. We had a visitor once and he just sat on the sofa next to him and just stared. He got closer and closer. I have never seen him like this before or since I got him off the sofa and put him out but this person had an epileptic fit the next day (not at our house). I’m not saying that will happen to you but perhaps something smelled different.

Definitely ask your brother, if that’s your preference. I wasn’t there so can’t be sure, but that sounds like a dog leaning scenario rather than a dog aggression scenario. Bad manners rather than risky.
A friend’s dog announces he’s comfortable you by sitting on your feet and leaning into you. When the dog is a chunk, it’s a significant thing!

The eye thing- some dogs just have floppy saggy eye lids, especially if overweight.

However, you weren’t comfortable and that’s all that matters. I’d probably be ok with visiting as long as your brother doesn’t leave the room, so he can make sure the dog doesn’t bother you.

Best case scenario, bad manners on the dog’s part. If you are uncomfortable then it needs addressing.

Without actually seeing the body language no one can tell you. Boxers are leaners and it was likely just leaning on you. If it’s never growled or snapped and is of a good age then it’s unlikely to have been aggression. If put in another room or garden would the dog not bark or bash the door? Our dogs wouldn’t tolerate being locked out. If you’re very nervous have him come to your house.

This. Dogs pick up on your feelings remarkably quickly.

It doesn't sound like your brother would be offended though. He put the dog out straight away, and called you afterwards. I think a quick text before you call over next time saying "Any chance you can put the dog outside" would be met warmly.

Obviously that's on the presumption you are only going over for a few hours and not staying overnight etc.

I would just tell my brother that I’m scared of his dog now and please could he put it outside?

if he said it’s the dog’s house, and refused, well then I would know where his priorities lie!

could he go to your house instead to see you (without dog)?