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to just keep changing my name on here because sooner or later someone will drag up old posts I have made?

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wirey · 21/04/2026 11:32

AIBU to just keep changing my name on here because sooner or later someone will drag up old posts I have made?

I sometimes think there is no point sticking with one username for too long because the minute you post something people disagree with, someone starts digging through your posting history to use it against you.

It is so irritating when the actual topic gets ignored and instead it turns into well on your thread from six months ago you said this, or last year you posted that. Half the time it is not even relevant, it is just a way to undermine you or make you feel stupid.

I am not talking about being inconsistent or saying something outrageous. Just normal posting where your views change a bit, or different situations bring out different opinions or you do not want every random detail from previous threads tied together by strangers.

Part of me thinks I should just keep changing names and start fresh every so often. But then people start saying interesting first post so can't win.

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Frequency · 21/04/2026 12:07

thisfilmisboring123 · 21/04/2026 11:58

Only time I’ve done it was because I’d lost access to email address registered to account.

I don’t say anything I don’t believe so people are free to scroll through my old posts if they are that interested lol.

I’ve never scrolled back through a poster’s other replies and tbh think it’s a bit weird that people do.

Edited

I don't post anything I don't believe either, but things in my life change, and what was happening 12 months ago may no longer be relevant.

The example I gave above, I'd posted to defend a poster who was being shit on for her cleaning routine. I posted that I also only mop my floors once a week unless something utterly disgusting occurs.

Someone dragged up a thread where I'd posted about being frustrated that I was the only one cleaning and decorating, etc., in the aftermath of DH's death. I'd mentioned on that thread that I was sweeping and mopping twice a day, every day. Which I was. That was true. It's also true that I usually only bother once a week because 99% of the time, I am not trying to distract myself from grief with OCD level cleaning.

People change. Circumstances change. X and Y might both true.

C8H10N4O2 · 21/04/2026 12:05

You can do what you wish but I suspect much of the trolling/nonsense on here is enabled by the extent to which name changing is both permitted and encouraged.

I can see a case for allowing one username per topic/subgroup but unlimited name changing across the piece is asking for trouble.

thisfilmisboring123 · 21/04/2026 11:58

Only time I’ve done it was because I’d lost access to email address registered to account.

I don’t say anything I don’t believe so people are free to scroll through my old posts if they are that interested lol.

I’ve never scrolled back through a poster’s other replies and tbh think it’s a bit weird that people do.

Everybodys · 21/04/2026 11:58

Name change if you want. Loads of people do, and on a site with this level of readership it's a practical option.

Seilean · 21/04/2026 11:57

ImFineItsAllFine · 21/04/2026 11:56

YANBU. I've never been on a forum other than this one where people go looking for other people's old posts and then drag up the details in newer threads. I think some people have too much time on their hands.

Really?

I've seen it all over the place

Seilean · 21/04/2026 11:56

Do whatever you want to.

The problem with people that dont change their names, and then post something completely outrageous is that other posters get annoyed

eg:

AIBU to celebrate my 12th wedding anniversary alone because my DH and DC forgot

and
AIBU to say I should not be discriminated against because I am single and childless by choice

I've seen examples of this, which clearly show total and utter BS

ImFineItsAllFine · 21/04/2026 11:56

YANBU. I've never been on a forum other than this one where people go looking for other people's old posts and then drag up the details in newer threads. I think some people have too much time on their hands.

Propagandalf · 21/04/2026 11:54

ilovesooty · 21/04/2026 11:47

You're allowed to do as you see fit. Personally I think name changing is too unrestricted on here.

Yeah this is the only forum I know on the internet where you can have multiple usernames. On other forums, the admins will usually ban you if you're found to have multiple usernames. They can tell because they'll be on the same IP address.

CarsairsItReallyDoesHurtMeGirlNsoull · 21/04/2026 11:53

MoonWoman69 · 21/04/2026 11:49

I can't seem to change my name on here! I did have another user name, but they won't let me use that now! I have no idea why, unless it's because I don't pay subs?

I name change all the time and I'm not on the premium account but the free with adverts.

EarthlyNightshade · 21/04/2026 11:50

I'm always name changing. I have a few different personalities with different names. All true to me, but one I might talk about my kids, one I might say where I'm from.
I've always thought that there should be a way of differentiating between a First Post and a name change. I'm happy to engage with a controversial post with a name change, but not with a newbie.

MoonWoman69 · 21/04/2026 11:49

I can't seem to change my name on here! I did have another user name, but they won't let me use that now! I have no idea why, unless it's because I don't pay subs?

Frequency · 21/04/2026 11:49

YANBU.

I've had it done to me a few times. Someone once dragged up a thread about my DH's sudden death to prove a point on a thread, not started by me, about cleaning Hmm

Half the time what they drag is from X years or months ago and is no longer relevant. People are not static; circumstances change, and that's never taken into account.

ilovesooty · 21/04/2026 11:47

You're allowed to do as you see fit. Personally I think name changing is too unrestricted on here.

TelevisualArseGravy · 21/04/2026 11:45

I don't post anything very "serious" on here, but I do name change frequently as I might reference holidays/TV programmes/things that drive me up the wall that I have also mentioned to friends/family and i wouldn't want them digging through everything else I have commented on.

DuchessOfStuffit · 21/04/2026 11:41

Litterally name change monthly!

Selloonacup · 21/04/2026 11:38

I name change all the time- I think lots of people do. I'm not particularly worried about someone bringing up old posts (my posts are consistent and never particularly controversial), just think it's better from a privacy pov- I have certainly recognised people I know IRL on here and if anyone recognised me I'd rather limit what they see.

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