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To tell my friend to shut her mouth

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WhatALiberty8 · 20/04/2026 21:31

I have a friend of around 6 years, we meet up once every couple of months. Sometimes just the two of us, mainly as a foursome by including our husbands. We either go to a restaurant, or we’ll take it in turns to cook and host.
I have no clue why but the last few times she has started talking with her mouth full of food. Not just a little bit either, literally stuffed full and spilling back out with every word.
I noticed the last time that her husband looked embarrassed by it. My husband thinks I should ignore it and get over myself. I’ll admit I can be annoying with how irritated peoples table habits (mainly DH) make me.. Think normal food noises/cutlery scraping noises, I’ve always hated this. But surely everybody finds talking with your mouth full grim. I’m genuinely concerned about going out again incase I throw up on her!
I think it’s reasonable to pull her aside and say… What the hell, you need to stop talking with your mouth full. What do you think, would you say anything?

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WhatALiberty8 · 20/04/2026 21:46

Seeingadistance · 20/04/2026 21:42

How old is she?

Not eating with mouth open, but a general loss of table manners showed up in the early stages of my DF's dementia.

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Seeingadistance · 20/04/2026 21:42

How old is she?

Not eating with mouth open, but a general loss of table manners showed up in the early stages of my DF's dementia.

WhatALiberty8 · 20/04/2026 21:40

MyLimeGuide · 20/04/2026 21:38

I think its her husband's job to say this. Are you sure she hasn't always done this and you have only just noticed?

I don’t think so, I think I would have noticed.

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MyLimeGuide · 20/04/2026 21:38

I think its her husband's job to say this. Are you sure she hasn't always done this and you have only just noticed?

Swiftie1878 · 20/04/2026 21:38

WhatALiberty8 · 20/04/2026 21:36

That’s what we do, play board games/get a Chinese, bbqs in the summer, that sort of thing.

Change it. Avoid food with her.

WhatALiberty8 · 20/04/2026 21:36

gamerchick · 20/04/2026 21:34

Meet up places that don't revolve around food?

That’s what we do, play board games/get a Chinese, bbqs in the summer, that sort of thing.

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BeMellowAquaSquid · 20/04/2026 21:36

Wonder in return what she says about you?

gamerchick · 20/04/2026 21:34

Meet up places that don't revolve around food?