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Dh getting up and walking off mid conversation

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Pizzaandpasta101 · 20/04/2026 18:27

I want to know if this is really rude or if I’m just being precious.

Dh has a habit of getting up and just walking off in the middle of a conversation.

So for example earlier today (but this happens on a regular basis), we were speaking about something that had happened with one of our dc at the weekend. It was only a short conversation for like 5 minutes, not like we’d been going on for hours. The conversation hadn’t reached a natural end and I was in the middle of saying something and dh just got up and walked off to do something else.

He does this all the time. It’s not even like he says “hold that thought I’m just going to do xxx”. He literally just walks off.

To be honest I didn’t marry him for his riveting conversation. He’s definitely a man of few words and he’s like that with everyone. He’s just not a talker. He takes several minutes to even respond half the time and he says he’s ‘thinking’.

But aibu to think it’s just plain rude?

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Walkacrossthesand · 20/04/2026 18:38

@Pizzaandpasta101 what would he do if you got up & left while he was mid-sentence?

newornotnew · 20/04/2026 18:37

It's potentially a stress response if he doesn't like conversation.

Or he's very distracted.

Or he's rude.

It isn't ok to do it to you, you may need outside help to ever get to the bottom of it though, if he won't think about it seriously on his own.

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Pizzaandpasta101 · 20/04/2026 18:37

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 20/04/2026 18:34

Wow. Very, very rude. What would happen if you did the same to him?

Sometimes me and DP will be talking whilst I'm making dinner, for example. If I have to go and get something from the pantry that takes me out of sight, but I can still hear I will say, "I'm just going to get X but I'm still listening!" and we carry on. If either us has to leave a room for a minute or two, we always let the other know.

He either doesn't give a monkeys what you're saying or is very, very socially inept. Does he work? In what job?

And yes exactly what you have said, if you’re going to leave you either say “hang on a minute”, or you say you’re still listening.

That’s normal.

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Pizzaandpasta101 · 20/04/2026 18:35

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 20/04/2026 18:34

Wow. Very, very rude. What would happen if you did the same to him?

Sometimes me and DP will be talking whilst I'm making dinner, for example. If I have to go and get something from the pantry that takes me out of sight, but I can still hear I will say, "I'm just going to get X but I'm still listening!" and we carry on. If either us has to leave a room for a minute or two, we always let the other know.

He either doesn't give a monkeys what you're saying or is very, very socially inept. Does he work? In what job?

He does work yes and quite a high paying job but he works mainly on his own which suits him.

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Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 20/04/2026 18:34

Wow. Very, very rude. What would happen if you did the same to him?

Sometimes me and DP will be talking whilst I'm making dinner, for example. If I have to go and get something from the pantry that takes me out of sight, but I can still hear I will say, "I'm just going to get X but I'm still listening!" and we carry on. If either us has to leave a room for a minute or two, we always let the other know.

He either doesn't give a monkeys what you're saying or is very, very socially inept. Does he work? In what job?

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Pizzaandpasta101 · 20/04/2026 18:33

Iwaitedthenpounce · 20/04/2026 18:28

this issue aside - what’s the marriage like?

It’s fine on the whole.

To be completely honest, after having put up with angry shouty men all my life (my father being one), I really appreciated dhs quiet nature.

He’s not a talker and he’s very unemotional but he’s also very quiet and calm and very much a doer. He likes to busy himself with various little jobs. Which is great.

But I just wish he’d politely interrupt rather than just walking off. I have told him it annoys me but he just sees it that he’s got to go and do whatever it always he wanted to do.

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PinkyFlamingo · 20/04/2026 18:33

Of course it's rude and he clearly doesn't care what you think. The things women put up with from men I see on here never cease to amaze me.

EmeraldDreams73 · 20/04/2026 18:31

Wonder how he'd like it if someone did that to him? It's rude and ignorant, YANBU at all.

Iwaitedthenpounce · 20/04/2026 18:30

Despite knowing you don’t like it and finds it rude?
not the brightest spark is he?

is he generally a rude and inconsiderate twat?

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Pizzaandpasta101 · 20/04/2026 18:29

Iwaitedthenpounce · 20/04/2026 18:28

Have you ever used words to tell him you find this behaviour rude?

Yes of course, but he just doesn’t see that he’s doing anything wrong.

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Iwaitedthenpounce · 20/04/2026 18:28

Have you ever used words to tell him you find this behaviour rude?

Iwaitedthenpounce · 20/04/2026 18:28

this issue aside - what’s the marriage like?