Dh getting up and walking off mid conversation

Bit harsh - are you happy for people to do the same to you?
We never really know when people are only politely listening to our own fascinating stories...

wow
this has got to be one of the rudest things I’ve read on here

I do one of the three. Depending on the topic of the conversation, I either:

• tell them straight away that it's boring (if it is to me), I'm not interested, and I'm not going to talk about it;
• If it's ok, I listen, but if the other person keeps on droning on and going in circles, I tell them they're droning on and they should stop;
• If they don't stop, I do what OP's husband does: just walk away.

I just can't be bothered anymore. When I was very young, I could feign interest longer, but now I'll do it for 10 mins and then cut the boring convo. Obviously, if it's important information or something interesting, then that's another matter.

I do it to everyone, not just my partner.

I doubt he does this at work or with other people (eg in public) when they're speaking to him, and therein lies the answer. It's a respect thing, he doesn't overly care about what you're saying, doesn't overly care whether you feel heard and acts on his own impulses instead. I don't think it's got much to do with not being talkative or personality types at all to be honest - that isn't a normal or polite thing to do but it is something you'd do if you simply weren't fussed and had been doing it so long and getting away with it that it had become normalised. Being "conflict averse" doesn't mean he has carte blanche to walk away from disagreements at your emotional expense, it simply means he needs to do better and work on himself (but obviously has no intention of doing that).

It sounds a bit depressing OP, sorry. I totally understand how you can end up with someone who seems calm when you've previously had the opposite, I've done it, but it doesn't mean it's the best you can do or that there aren't men out there who do care who are emotionally available and are interested, genuinely interested in what their partners are saying.

My husband does this too. It seems to be a poor attention span thing and he gets something into his head like a small task that needs done!

I just say ‘hello, are you still there?? That was rude!!’ He doesn’t even realise he is doing it!!

Got one like that
I can offer empathy but no advice except to keep reminding him how rude he is and how demoralising his behaviour is.

It sounds very rude. But then again, is it repetitive? Are you repeating the same thing? I have this with work colleagues and just walk off because I just can't deal with a conversation that goes in a circle.

My DH does it too. Im 99% sure he has ADHD, it fits with other traits and both his brothers are diagnosed with it.

It's frustrating but I actually find it worse when he does it to DC and I always tell him hey they were talking. During family meals he often seems to zone out ....but on the rare occassions he participates in conversation, hes usually a topic behind (if that makes sense) so he'll say something related to what we talked about 2 minutes ago rather than something that fits in with the current flow of conversation.

Does he do it with anyone else or just with you? It’s very disrespectful.

My H does this too and he works on his own , quite highly paid as well - Thing is if I do it he says’I was talking to you ‘

Was it one of those ‘prattling on’ monologue conversations where all the information had been conveyed early on? Admit it, we DO do those…. :-)

I was going to say the same, my DH does it and he's ADHD. I call him back and tell him I wasn't done but I do find it rude. I don't know what the answer is as they don't seem to be able to help it.

I have exact same experience of this. I call it out too, so rude!! But.. Is he neuro divergent? I think it may be the case of not being able to consolidate the information and give an immediate response for serious discussions and/or pure lack of interest in banal chat! I used to find 'discussions' so frustrating .. i got no response ! 2 days later he would offer something up, needed to consider it in peace. Ive given him the same treatment and he was confused.. but it seemed mean and was very hard to keep up lol. It got better over time and with a sense of humour

Are you married to my DH, OP?! He does this so much, and I HATE it. He always says 'I thought you were finished', but clearly wasn't actively listening at all because most times I'm MID SENTENCE. Winds me right up 🙄

I would query neurodiversity, specifically ADHD

Start doing it back to him. I bet he will be annoyed.

Does he do it with everyone OP, or is it mainly you?

I wonder if he does this with people at work.

😂

I must admit I sometimes do it with dh.

He’s very much a talker, I’m not, especially if I’ve had a hard day. So, mid —one sided— conversation, I will find something to do in another room. I will tell him though “I’ve just got to sort X out”. I do think it’s rude to walk out and say absolutely nothing.

Try it on him. Next time he’s mid monologue about something just walk out without saying anything. See how he likes it.

Get up and walk out in the middle of sex.

I mean, I might be guilty of this with my DH. He just drones on and on about stuff I have absolutely no interest in. After spending the day with DC who just talk at me I just don’t have much left in the tank to humour him.

I know it’s rude but I’m tired and most of the time not interested in what he has to say.