Dh getting up and walking off mid conversation

Part of my autism trait is exactly what your dh is, can't even explain why my mind sends me off to do whatever mid convo, I also work alone mostly as I work better that way and don't particularly like conversations as I can be asked to make a decision and suddenly at that moment my brains says woah confusing which is the right answer, so I just say I'm thinking but my family and friends aren't bothered they know it's one of the strong traits lol

Start doing the same and see how he likes it lol....that would annoy the heck out of me and start and argument as i find it highly rude. He is just showing that his thoughts are more important than yours. Either that or follow him continuing to talk and when he asks why, ask him why he finds it annoying and continue to do so. 😂

sounds like a bit if neurodiversity

Why don't you just give him a taste of his own medicine and do exactly what he does to you, when he's in the middle of a conversation

this sounds very autistic. My husband was the same. Very quiet, seemingly non emotional, struggled with empathy even with his children. He can manage social interactions for work but that’s about it. He struggles to listen to conversations and will walk away mid sentence. I used to get really upset but weirdly now I understand him better it doesn’t bother me.

He really struggled with the noise and chaos of children. We lived separately while they grew up! He has a good relationship though with his now adult children but it’s not a neurotypical relationship. He’s very dependable, never lies, is funny, great with money to an extreme degree (doesn’t buy annythibg he doesn’t see as necessary and there’s a lot he doesn’t think is necessary) I saw the Chris Packham documentary which really helped me understand him better and how they cope with it as a family. It’s a difficult one though.

I’d do two things. Firstly I’d walk off when he’s telling you something and see how he responds. If he responds angrily/ frustrated then he knows it’s unreasonable and he doesn’t care unless it’s happening to him.
Secondly I’d say (at an unrelated time) it upsets me of you walk off mid conversation please can you either wait until I’ve finished or say if your ready to stop talking.

OK, it seems like he doesn't know how to deal with confrontation, and it's likely ingrained and possibly due to nd, and learned behavior, let it go in the moment and pick it up later acknowledging that he finds it difficult to have confrontation possibly due to rsd, good luck.

Thank you for actually asking questions unlike all the people here calling another human rude and stupid.on the basis of half a report.

I’m afraid I do this to my dh he goes on and on talking rubbish sometimes I just have to remove myself - sometimes when I come back into the room he starts up again from where I left him!

I read your title as “wanking off” and now I’m disappointed 😂😂😂

No.
Other reasons. He has poor social skills.socially inept.
He works alone which suits him. No chatting.
I doubt he is deliberately being rude.
There is no comparing him to their DH. He has no skills.

Walking off mid-conversation would make me not want to chat with my husband, I think it is pretty rude. Although your husband does sound like a good person in other ways.

My ex husband used to fall asleep all the time while we were having a conversation. I'm an introvert and not the most chatty person. I got too hurt by it and it was one of the (many) reasons I decided to end the relationship. He stopped working as soon as he moved into my house and was also writing to other women complaining about me and organising to meet up with them, when I'd just had my second child.

I know everyone hates this question but might he be autistic?
prefers to work on his own
a doer. Not a talker
walks off when he thinks of something wise.
Conflict adverse.
might be rudeness. Might be autistic

Possibly neurodiverse? Just a thought, could explain things ..

I think it’s just his personality. He could be neurodivergent. Yes it’s rude, but if everything else is fine just don’t take it personally. None of us are perfect and definitely not like the perfect man MN think we should all have.

My DH is similar, he is neurodiverse. It’s not malicious he just forgets to keep listening 😆 Every one of your comments suggest to me your husband may be too.

Does he do it to his DC?

If he's not much of a talker it might be difficult to show him how it feels. You would have to ask him a direct question then walk away as he starts to answer. It sounds rude though.

Late DH did this and after DS2 was diagnosed with ADHD, DH and I both were convinced that he had it too. There was no way he could have changed by then he was late 60s, and he always said he didn't know I was still talking.

Could he be ND? This reminds me of my dad

Your husband could well be on the autistic spectrum in which case he isn't doing it just to be rude though I get its frustrating

I agree it’s rude. Possibly strange question is he an only child? My grown up DD was an only until her teens and she will just get up and wander off because she didn’t have anyone to tell she was leaving as a child. She is starting to do it as an adult but it took years for her to realise it was polite.

I'd say, given his good points, just roll your eyes and put up with it. We're none of us perfect

I will definitely do this to avoid an argument. I grew up in an unhappy house, and i don't feel I have to participate in arguments if I don't want to. I feel that's my right. No, is a complete sentence right? I know it doesn't help resolve anything and not very helpful, but I'm rubbish at expressing myself verbally. I'd rather just walk out of the house or room and sort it by text when everyone's calm.

Both me and the other half have called each other out on walking out of the room mid convo. It's never malicious. Either assumed convo is ended or just not listening, distracted and start doing something else. Yes, it is incredibly rude but when you've been with someone for a long time, they are often the ones you make the least effort with when you're running on empty.

If it was malicious or to gaslight that would be a different matter, but if it's not malicious and just bloody annoying I accept that neither of us are perfect.

Call him out. Every single time.