I am struggling.
Until 4 weeks ago, my 10month old would sleep 11hr stetches! Then she started teething and then this was followed by not feeling very well. She has been back to her normal self 2 weeks ago but sleep has never returned. She wont sleep through anymore unless she comes in our bed. She will sleep 4 hrs and then wake, cry and falls back asleep in our bed. Ive tried letting her cry it out for a bit but she gets in some state and ive tried making the time longer before bringing her to bed but she gets more wound up. Then when she sleeps, I transfer her back to her cot. She doesnt wake and will stay asleep for maybe another hour and so the cycle repeats.
This has coincided with daytime naps disappearing unless its a weekend and my partner can help (he works during week) or if my mum is looking after her. She doesnt nap with me anymore and its hard not to take it personally. She will yawn, rub her eyes, and look knackered. I then give her some milk (she always has some before a nap), she looks like she is about to fall asleep but nope! Wide eyes, big smile and then tries crawling away. I have tried letting her crawl and roll around as to tire her out but it doesnt. I then just leave nap time and take her to another room to do something else so I am not fighting sleep for over an hour because sometimes it wont result in a nap!
But when I take her to a different room, half an hr later she is yawning, rubbing eyes, great i think, let's go nap! Nope she then wants to play.
The only way she will nap now, during the day, is if I go a drive.
As much as I dont mind doing this. I had no plans to leave house today as I have lots of housework to crack on with (we had a full on weekend and I said I would do the washing today and prep dinner during day). Now it looks like i might have to go a drive for her to sleep. I got snappy earlier and said "we aren't going a drive, I am not leaving the house for 2 hrs so you can sleep, I have things to do". I know shes a baby but before this it was contact naps for hours.
I just hear people doing all this stuff while their baby naps and I haven't ever been able to do this as she always contact napped so that was me for 2 hrs and now we need to leave the house and go a drive and there isnt much I can do in that time.
Getting down as baby across the road never slept but now is sleeping 12hrs a night with 3 naps during the day and the mum always posts on Instagram with homemade bread, cakes, building lego. I feel bad sitting on phone while baby in playpen playing hersel but i am not getting a goodnights sleep anymore and durjng the day its so hectic as its always "go". etc
Wish I could rewind back to sleeping through the night again. I was always guaranteed a good sleep, partner and I could be intimate, it gave me time in mornings and evenings. Now each night is different I cant plan anything. So housework or anything else is done whilst baby in playpen however she cries if I leave the room. I want my time back. Sorry if I sound selfish and please dont say "oh but your baby slept very well and this has only happened". Its still the same and isnt a competition.
I am angry that to enforce a nap that I need to leave the house. And why does she nap with my partner and mum. Why not me. I've had enough.