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Been given a face to face appointment at my GP… AIBU to call and push back?

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tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 10:35

I have another ongoing issue which I am under the hospital for, but I’ve been told I need to approach my GP for pain relief at the moment.

I did this a couple of months ago and got a phone call and a prescription no problem. I’m running out and need some more. This time I filled out the new AI questionnaire and it’s given me an urgent appointment for tomorrow. I called up the surgery and they said it’s because the AI has flagged me as being at risk of arthritis (???) or a DVT!!! I asked the receptionist if this was right as a DVT is pretty serious and I’m sure I don’t have one, but apparently because I’ve ticked that I get swelling it’s a risk factor and I now need to come in.

I just think this is so silly and I’m taking up an appointment for something that’s really not that serious! I just feel like I’ll look such a knob tomorrow sat there. AIBU to call back and push back?

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springhyacinths · 20/04/2026 13:06

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 11:25

I’m not being weird. I just really resent taking a morning off work for something so minor.

You are being weird.

PinkyFlamingo · 20/04/2026 13:04

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 11:25

I’m not being weird. I just really resent taking a morning off work for something so minor.

Oh for goodness sake are you a Doctor? Let them do their job.

Wendy83 · 20/04/2026 13:03

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 11:09

I’m not refusing, I just feel like it’s such a waste of an appointment. I’m also going to go in and get emotional (because despite it being minor, it’s really starting to have an impact on my day to day life), which is just going to make me look even worse too. I work in the NHS, so I know how bad people have it and me crying over some joint pain just makes me feel like an arsehole to be honest

If you go the appt and then you do get emotional that’s not a bad thing, the GP will then be witness to your worry/pain and then maybe will be able to write to the hospital to expedite your referral

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 13:01

Crunchymum · 20/04/2026 13:00

they said it’s because the AI has flagged me as being at risk of arthritis (???) or a DVT

Joint pain, inflammation etc can all be caused by arthritis so the AI is actually working by flagging this?

To a degree, but I have a diagnosis. If there was space for me to add that it would be useful.

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tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 13:00

EveryKneeShallBow · 20/04/2026 12:59

Yes, that’s what I thought.

Thank you. So very helpful!

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Crunchymum · 20/04/2026 13:00

they said it’s because the AI has flagged me as being at risk of arthritis (???) or a DVT

Joint pain, inflammation etc can all be caused by arthritis so the AI is actually working by flagging this?

EveryKneeShallBow · 20/04/2026 12:59

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 10:54

I just feel a bit of a knob going in person for this, it’s so minor in the grand scheme of things

Yes, that’s what I thought.

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 12:55

GertieLawrence · 20/04/2026 12:53

Ah yeah ok, that’s not likely is it.

I waited 18 months for a neurology appointment and that was after they bumped it up by opening more.

No I know it’s not likely but I did have luck with both of my previous physio appointments by happening to call up and they’d just had cancellations so I was able to take them, so I know it’s a possibility. I just figured I’d give it a go because I don’t know how much longer I can last

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GertieLawrence · 20/04/2026 12:53

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 12:46

My GP isn’t on site, I meant my hospital appointment being expedited.

Ah yeah ok, that’s not likely is it.

I waited 18 months for a neurology appointment and that was after they bumped it up by opening more.

LatteLady · 20/04/2026 12:51

I understand why you think they are wasting an appointment, BUT the only way the system will improve is if they can update the algorithm by using the feedback from your appointment. It also depends who is reviewing the input from your forms...

Bushmillsbabe · 20/04/2026 12:49

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 11:09

I’m not refusing, I just feel like it’s such a waste of an appointment. I’m also going to go in and get emotional (because despite it being minor, it’s really starting to have an impact on my day to day life), which is just going to make me look even worse too. I work in the NHS, so I know how bad people have it and me crying over some joint pain just makes me feel like an arsehole to be honest

Tbh it will take nore of the surgeries time in debating whether to cancel the appt rather than you just going in, so if you are worried about their time then better to just go

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 12:46

GertieLawrence · 20/04/2026 12:45

Why do you need to take annual leave if you’re on site though?

I think you’re just understandably in a big grump about the pain situation and you’re deflecting it to your gp. To be fair, if you’re going to cry in the appointment maybe you do need more support than you realise.

My GP isn’t on site, I meant my hospital appointment being expedited.

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GertieLawrence · 20/04/2026 12:45

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 11:41

I’ve called to see if the appointment can be expedited, explained I’m literally on site so can take a same day cancellation if one arises and I’ve been told it won’t

Why do you need to take annual leave if you’re on site though?

I think you’re just understandably in a big grump about the pain situation and you’re deflecting it to your gp. To be fair, if you’re going to cry in the appointment maybe you do need more support than you realise.

Isekaied · 20/04/2026 12:36

Better tp be seen f2f.

If you get a tel and they decide you need tp be seen

That's just more appointments wasted. And more pf your time wasted.

sueelleker · 20/04/2026 12:31

brunettemic · 20/04/2026 11:14

Being in pain doesn’t make you an arsehole in the slightest.

I agree. After I damaged my knee badly, they offered me steroid injections; but it was so painful I just burst into tears, and got offered a knee replacement instead.

HelenaWilson · 20/04/2026 12:30

I HAD TO CANCEL.
Maybe I'm wrong not keeping the appointment,

It's not your appointment to cancel or keep. What did your daughter want to do?

Dollymylove · 20/04/2026 12:22

You were asked to make an appointment. You wont look like a knob. Best get it checked out

L0bstersLass · 20/04/2026 12:22

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 11:09

I’m not refusing, I just feel like it’s such a waste of an appointment. I’m also going to go in and get emotional (because despite it being minor, it’s really starting to have an impact on my day to day life), which is just going to make me look even worse too. I work in the NHS, so I know how bad people have it and me crying over some joint pain just makes me feel like an arsehole to be honest

It's good for the GP to see you get emotional. It will make it clear how much this is affecting you. Don't try to hide it.
I suffered from chronic back pain for 3 years about a decade ago. Each time I presented at the GP I was in my work suit and was holding it together, nothing got done other than being given more and/or stronger drugs.

Then, I turned up on a day when I'd been working from home. I had my husband with me for moral support and without really thinking about it, I stopped "masking".
I was in tears and (not my finest moment) quite shouty.

Anyway, all of a sudden I got booked an MRI and then the problem got sorted and my back is more or less totally fine now.
Don't hide the impact of the condition on your day to say life would be my advice.

Thechaseison71 · 20/04/2026 12:14

If jump for joy at getting a face to face appt with my GP. Not managed that since 2018

VickyEadieofThigh · 20/04/2026 12:13

They need to have a look at the area that is swelling at times. They can't do this over the phone.

You need to stop complaining about it and go in. Naproxen IS associated with potential increased risk of DVT.

Northermcharn · 20/04/2026 12:13

luckylavender · 20/04/2026 12:04

Honestly, doctors are like teachers. They can't win whatever they do

Agreed.

Northermcharn · 20/04/2026 12:12

The NHS cannot win can they.

Anonymousemouses · 20/04/2026 12:07

I kind of know how you feel. It took ages for the GP to finally agree to give my 15 year old blood tests, as she has been feeling dizzy and faint. Sure it is to do with heavy periods.

After the bloods she was contacted and told she anaemic (no surprise), and they prescribed FerroDose, but with vague instructions "one or two daily until review". The review is for possible treatment of heavy periods.

Because I wasn't sure whether one or two would be optimal, or whether she needed two when menstruating, I filled in an eConsult, asking for help with medication guidance. I put on EVERY box that she was being treated, but I just wanted to KNOW whether one or two is best.

Then I got a message asking for her to come to an emergency appointment the next morning. I HAD TO CANCEL. This is because she is in her LAST couple of weeks at school. She has her GCSEs starting in a couple of weeks, and missing school now is not really viable, unless an emergency.

When I phoned I asked why she had an emergency appointment, and they said it was because I'd put she gets dizzy - I'd put that on the forms for over a YEAR and it was only a couple of months ago they saw her and arranged for the bloods.

The receptionist said I should have used "administrative help", but when you use that it says explicitly not to ask about medication.

Maybe I'm wrong not keeping the appointment, but all I really wanted was clarification on the dosing of the medication prescribed

luckylavender · 20/04/2026 12:04

Honestly, doctors are like teachers. They can't win whatever they do

AprilMizzel · 20/04/2026 11:56

I agree with PP - tell them AI sent you for face to face - not what you wanted and you've had to take a morning off work losing leave - and ask will this happen next time you need more meds as well.

Then GP can assess if AI was reasonable to flag you and feed it back into their systems.

You got an appointment and a way forward - so could easily be much worse.